"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

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I met this girl a couple of years ago through school, got her number, nothing happened. I was always joking around with her and stuff, but nothing very sexual. Tried to hang out with her, didn't work out. Forgot about her for 1.5 years. She texted me out of the blue about 4 months ago, as she was attending the same event as I was (she saw my Facebook status); I had long deleted her number. Didn't see her there, didn't talk to her for another few months. I drunk text her (just fluff), we text back and forth a bit, I ask if she'll be around campus this summer, she says yes, and that we should meet up. I tell her I'll get back to her when I'm back in town after a few weeks away.

Now then. My plan is to meet her for drinks, and go from there. However, I'm worried because I fear I haven't made my intentions very clear. This seems like a very beginner mistake to me, but I was much more of a beginner when I first met this girl! I'm worried that if I all of a sudden try to have some sort of sexual frame, alarms will be going off in her head. Anybody got any insight for something like this?

I realize some inner-game mistakes as I'm making them, but I can't stop :( I'm way too outcome dependent with this chick, I'm not assuming attraction, blah blah blah. There, I saved you guys the trouble of pointing it all out.

More info available upon request. Thanks guys.
 

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She has responded to your contacts and given you an invitation to meet up with her for drinks.

Assume attraction.

If you're wrong, and she is not attracted, no big deal.

Just show up, charm her, make her laugh, kino, etc. Work your magic. If she responds, great. If not, what did you have to lose?
 
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The memory is kinda vague, but I believe I asked her to lunch (lame, I know) on a specific day, and she said "I'd love to, but I have blah blah blah." I remember it not seeming like a rejection at the time, but of course, I could be wrong. I'll just assume it wasn't.

She didn't give me an invitation to meet for drinks, just to "meet up." Going out for drinks is what I'll be inviting her to. I figure it's better than lunch haha.

Just to be clear, I'm not worried about failing...no skin off my back really. I'm just hoping to maximize my chances here.
 
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