I'll introduce 2 thoughts which some might find helpful. They're meant to be tips for a PATH, not instant fixes, but CONSTANTLY, USEFUL nuggets to "check" yourself.
1. Always do YOUR best.
Sounds simple, but it's not easy. Many people compare themselves to something arbitrary. For instance, we might compare workouts, to see if our workout matches the behemoth in the gym. Or we might compare our career path with someone else's. Or we might compare OUR golf performance to someone else's performance.
But it's highly possible you're not LIVING at the boundary of your potential if you LIVE AT OTHER PEOPLE'S POTENTIAL OR EXPECTATIONS. Measurements are fine to gauge yourself on your own way, but if knew you could do better, but CHOSE/CHOOSE not to, what does that mean in the grand picture? Can you possibly blame the world, your family, your friends, your employer, women, or anyone else for that matter? If you're always doing what is identified as THE BEST to you, then you will always be happy and can never get caught in the negative.
Many guys say, "THIS is the day I begin X, Y, or Z." And stick to it for a little bit, and then drop it. Is that your best? Sure if you don't like Yoga, but might like Self Defense classes, go for it. But dropping ALL physical activity in leiu of PHYSICAL inactivity is just NOT YOUR BEST. (Unless you have Dance Revolution and will end up bouncing around in your living room all day, just don't get caught by anyone).
Doing your best means living in the fullness of your decisions. If you're currently daying a woman or with a woman whom you don't live FULLY with, that you cater decisions JUST to keep the relationship going, you are living FALSELY to yourself AND to her. The man SHE THINKS she has is not the man you are. And you are not the man you are to yourself. Likewise, if you want to be a Personal Trainer, but you spend every waking moment @ the bars, you are not living FULLY either. You'll constantly feel the tug that there's something else, "like a splinter in your mind."
"To thy own self be true." That means live up to your own best standards, stick to them, and see what you attract via life through those choices. You will eventually attract the women who NATURALLY want you as you are, and you won't HAVE to make excuses for the loves you have, because she, TOO, will have the same desires in her womanly ways.
Do you always do your best?
2. Every moment, every second, every nanosecond is UNIQUE.
Not shocking info, but as I might have inserted this "thought" before in previous posts, every moment is unique. The you that is THERE is floating through time and consciousness. Even if you showered in much the same manner today as you did YESTERDAY it's still different. It's a different part of TIME. Even if you go to the same bar on Fridays, or sarge the same locations, it's DIFFERENT. However, the mind does not see it that way. For whatever reason, perhaps a survival mechanism, or perhaps because the Ego wants to build us this tenable world, the mind THINKS, or SEEPS in information that programs you to BELIEVE it's the same repetitive world.
That, this monday is like all mondays. That mondays are meant to be bad, or boring, or rough. Or that all times of winter are meant to be cold and dark. Isn't that foolish? Isn't it awful how we may waste LIFE under the programming of the mind? I find it quite funny how people are programmed beyond belief. The defend a belief like they know it's FACT, it's CONCRETE, it's REAL. And then you ask, what bearing does this have on my existence, my happiness, or my purpose? At that point, most b.s. dissolves into nothingness.
Appreciate each moment. Do something different. Experience all moments fully, with mindfulness of NOW only. Sure, set goals. Think positively forward. Meditate to see how thoughts COME and then GO, and then you awaken to the fact, YOU ARE NOT YOUR THOUGHTS. YOUR ARE NOT YOUR EMOTIONS. When you have a reaction to what I, or anyone else types, is THAT YOU? Might it be MY fault you're offended by what I type, or excited by it? No. It's just something is pleasurable to the ego or something is frustrating it. I can't FORCE your emotional or non-emotional response, and I can't predict what it might be, ULTIMATELY, you choose that response, or you choose NOT to respond.
Again, every moment is unique. Think on that until you GET it. And when you get it, you'll realize that the fragility of life is there. That if you see a girl, it's foolish NOT to approach. And if you find a job or opportunity, even if it comes back around, it MIGHT not work this time. Things are the way they are and the way they are meant to be WHEN YOU ENCOUNTER them. Ideal only exists as a MENTAL schema, not in reality, because IDEAL only allows for ONE UNIQUE THING or PERSON. Therefore Ideal is impossible in existence. A chair cannot be IDEAL, as there are many variations of CHAIR, and the many versions PRECLUDE an ideal. Just as there would be IDEAL when it comes to workouts, or approaches to women, or jobs. There's only WHAT makes you happy and what gets you what you ultimately want. They might not be IDEAL, but if they accomplish those 2 parts, I'd say you're doing ok.
A-Unit
1. Always do YOUR best.
Sounds simple, but it's not easy. Many people compare themselves to something arbitrary. For instance, we might compare workouts, to see if our workout matches the behemoth in the gym. Or we might compare our career path with someone else's. Or we might compare OUR golf performance to someone else's performance.
But it's highly possible you're not LIVING at the boundary of your potential if you LIVE AT OTHER PEOPLE'S POTENTIAL OR EXPECTATIONS. Measurements are fine to gauge yourself on your own way, but if knew you could do better, but CHOSE/CHOOSE not to, what does that mean in the grand picture? Can you possibly blame the world, your family, your friends, your employer, women, or anyone else for that matter? If you're always doing what is identified as THE BEST to you, then you will always be happy and can never get caught in the negative.
Many guys say, "THIS is the day I begin X, Y, or Z." And stick to it for a little bit, and then drop it. Is that your best? Sure if you don't like Yoga, but might like Self Defense classes, go for it. But dropping ALL physical activity in leiu of PHYSICAL inactivity is just NOT YOUR BEST. (Unless you have Dance Revolution and will end up bouncing around in your living room all day, just don't get caught by anyone).
Doing your best means living in the fullness of your decisions. If you're currently daying a woman or with a woman whom you don't live FULLY with, that you cater decisions JUST to keep the relationship going, you are living FALSELY to yourself AND to her. The man SHE THINKS she has is not the man you are. And you are not the man you are to yourself. Likewise, if you want to be a Personal Trainer, but you spend every waking moment @ the bars, you are not living FULLY either. You'll constantly feel the tug that there's something else, "like a splinter in your mind."
"To thy own self be true." That means live up to your own best standards, stick to them, and see what you attract via life through those choices. You will eventually attract the women who NATURALLY want you as you are, and you won't HAVE to make excuses for the loves you have, because she, TOO, will have the same desires in her womanly ways.
Do you always do your best?
2. Every moment, every second, every nanosecond is UNIQUE.
Not shocking info, but as I might have inserted this "thought" before in previous posts, every moment is unique. The you that is THERE is floating through time and consciousness. Even if you showered in much the same manner today as you did YESTERDAY it's still different. It's a different part of TIME. Even if you go to the same bar on Fridays, or sarge the same locations, it's DIFFERENT. However, the mind does not see it that way. For whatever reason, perhaps a survival mechanism, or perhaps because the Ego wants to build us this tenable world, the mind THINKS, or SEEPS in information that programs you to BELIEVE it's the same repetitive world.
That, this monday is like all mondays. That mondays are meant to be bad, or boring, or rough. Or that all times of winter are meant to be cold and dark. Isn't that foolish? Isn't it awful how we may waste LIFE under the programming of the mind? I find it quite funny how people are programmed beyond belief. The defend a belief like they know it's FACT, it's CONCRETE, it's REAL. And then you ask, what bearing does this have on my existence, my happiness, or my purpose? At that point, most b.s. dissolves into nothingness.
Appreciate each moment. Do something different. Experience all moments fully, with mindfulness of NOW only. Sure, set goals. Think positively forward. Meditate to see how thoughts COME and then GO, and then you awaken to the fact, YOU ARE NOT YOUR THOUGHTS. YOUR ARE NOT YOUR EMOTIONS. When you have a reaction to what I, or anyone else types, is THAT YOU? Might it be MY fault you're offended by what I type, or excited by it? No. It's just something is pleasurable to the ego or something is frustrating it. I can't FORCE your emotional or non-emotional response, and I can't predict what it might be, ULTIMATELY, you choose that response, or you choose NOT to respond.
Again, every moment is unique. Think on that until you GET it. And when you get it, you'll realize that the fragility of life is there. That if you see a girl, it's foolish NOT to approach. And if you find a job or opportunity, even if it comes back around, it MIGHT not work this time. Things are the way they are and the way they are meant to be WHEN YOU ENCOUNTER them. Ideal only exists as a MENTAL schema, not in reality, because IDEAL only allows for ONE UNIQUE THING or PERSON. Therefore Ideal is impossible in existence. A chair cannot be IDEAL, as there are many variations of CHAIR, and the many versions PRECLUDE an ideal. Just as there would be IDEAL when it comes to workouts, or approaches to women, or jobs. There's only WHAT makes you happy and what gets you what you ultimately want. They might not be IDEAL, but if they accomplish those 2 parts, I'd say you're doing ok.
A-Unit
