FR x2: New city, new experiences

[Mr Wright]

Friday night:

I am out in a new city, everything is different but the girls are hot. I go on a bar crawl, chat to loads of dudes and don't talk to a girl for the first couple of hours. I back myself because recently when I have gone out, I have either pulled or had it screw up because of logistics. So it gets to around 2am and we're in the final club place, which was actually located right next to where I was staying. Logistics won't screw me this time and as it is getting late, I figure I should open a few girls. I talk to a few girls briefly but they don't seem to interested so I have a little wonder around. I'm pretty sober because I have really cut down on drinking recently, so I notice this cute brunette staring at me as I walk down some stairs. She looks good, so I go and approach her straight away and I open with "hey, it's rude for you to stare at me like that and not come and say hi." she replied "I'm sorry but I just couldn't help myself." She's standing with friends and they don't seem to mind, so I take her by the hand and walk her a couple of metres away from them. She tells me that she has work tomorrow and she's about to leave. I figure it's time to go pretty direct so I tell her that I think she's hot and she should come back to my place just down the street. She consults her friends and they tell her to go with me(after years of being c0ckblocked by girl's friends, I deserved this). After her friends leave us to go and do whatever they do, she starts to get cold feet, the usual "I'm not leaving with you", "I'm not that type of girl" stuff and for a few minutes I tried to talk her round, which was stupid. I got my head together, grabbed her hand and just walked her out, she offered no objection. Get to my place, no LMR, bang to 5am. Overall from meet to getting her into bed was about 20 minutes, not a record but good enough. Classic yes girl, threw a few token objections but realistically was up for it from her first look at me, which she admitted in the morning.

Saturday night:

I had a long day on Saturday and was tired from the antics the night before so I had a nap and woke up at midnight. As you can imagine my general mood was crap. But I forced myself back to the same bar, dead sober and I roll in around 12:30 am. It's busy and I don't know anyone. I get a drink and soak up the vibe a little. For the first half an hour I don't really talk to anyone but I can feel myself getting into a decent mood and I end up chatting to a couple of the promo girls. Then I notice this tall blonde on the other side of the dancefloor sort of looking out for someone and checking her phone, she's hot as fück and I feel a little bit of anxiety. I don't approach, she walks off and she's gone. For the next few minutes I promise myself that it won't happen again, so I head to a quieter area to get another drink and I see the blonde sitting on her own on her phone. I'm surprised still not guy has gone to talk to her, so I roll up to her and open with something like "I was just about to get myself a drink over there but I had to come over and try and cheer you up, it's not that bad." She sort of looks up at me and is not completely dismissive but I'm standing and she's sitting so I crouch down, we chat a little more. After a minute I get her to scoot over so I can sit next to her. We chat, she doesn't give any IOI's but she doesn't try to leave, so I stick with it. She tells me that she's waiting for a friend who is a guy but he has probably run off with some girl. She tells me, she's 27, models and dances for a living. We talk about our cities, the conversation is pleasant but needs to go up a level. As we're sitting there talking this one girl keeps walking past and staring at me and I excuse myself to go to the toilet and she's outside the toilet. She comes straight up to me, strokes my arm and says a seductive "hello you", we chat for a few minutes, this girl is hot but she's not as hot as the other girl I was talking to back at the table. I figure this new girl can be a worthy back up, I chat for a minute and excuse myself, I know she'd seen me with this is other girl. Sneaky.

I decide I need to ramp things up a little, I tell her we're going to dance and since it's part of her job, I want to see her moves. She keeps seated and says she doesn't like the song that's on, tough cookie. I'm trying to work out if she's just talking to pass the time as she does periodically check her phone. A song comes on that she likes and we go and dance, after about 5-10 minutes her arms are round me, we're close and the dancing is sexual and we're holding hands. It's on...ish. I just have to be smooth about it. We're dancing close and go forehead to forehead, like we're about to kiss but hold it. I do something, which I usually wouldn't do but because she was really hot I tried to kiss her and she turned her cheek. But she was still holding hands, so it was cool. We go to get another drink and sit back down, this time I throw her legs over mine and she gets her phone out and shows me pictures of her modelling and dancing at shows and events. I go to kiss her again and she kisses me back, now I have to think of how to get her out of the bar and down the road. Learning from the night before I take her by the hand and lead her out, she asked where we were going and I told her I wanted to get some air. She says to me outside "I don't go home with strangers", so in my head we're at that point where she's thinking about it. I try to walk her to my place but she tells me she has a coat and bag, potential tripping point but turned out to be no issue. She comes to mine and the fun begins. We're making out, I escalate as usual but she won't let me into her tights. The usual "I don't sleep with strangers", "I'm not that type of girl" and "I don't even know your name" comes up. But at no point does she get up to leave so in my mind it is still on, I just need to find the right combination. Eventually she lets me finger her but wont let me pull her tights down, so I'm at that awkward hand angle, so I figure I have to go physical and just drag her tights off. I go to do it, she looks a little wide eyed and says "stop, I will do it", she takes them off, folds them goes to the bathroom and it's plain sailing from that point. It's like a switch went off and she said to her "I'm having sex with this guy." We fück all night(I'm so tired) and in the morning too. I chat to her, she tells me that she really doesn't have sex with strangers and this was not normal for her. Damn she was hot, so yeah I had a good weekend.

As usual when I go out next, I will back myself because club game is good. It's taken years but I can pull hot girls from clubs and bang them consistently now.

 

[Skyline]

Really that is easy huh?

 

[Mr Wright]

Really that is easy huh?

Yeah, sometimes when I go out, it's just a chase of catch the eye of a girl who is standing a little out from the crowd, approach and escalate. I rarely open more than 4 girls a night anymore before something solid comes up. It's taken a while to get to this point though.

 

[PeasantPlayer]

It can be that easy sometimes

 

[Skyline]

Yeah, sometimes when I go out, it's just a chase of catch the eye of a girl who is standing a little out from the crowd, approach and escalate. I rarely open more than 4 girls a night anymore before something solid comes up. It's taken a while to get to this point though.

Anti-Dump machines wisdom works wonders!

I think the main obstacles to get over is the initial approach and knowing when to take her home, or at least that's what I struggle(d) with.

 

[JRT123]

I have a few questions, just out of interest.

1) How good-looking would you say you are? Do you think this had a factor in your success or was it mostly skill? The fact that women were already eyeing you before contact suggests you are physically attractive.

2) Which city was this in? I'm from the UK and it's interesting to get examples of UK field reports, as social dynamics differ slightly across the Atlantic.

 

[Mr Wright]

I have a few questions, just out of interest.

1) How good-looking would you say you are? Do you think this had a factor in your success or was it mostly skill? The fact that women were already eyeing you before contact suggests you are physically attractive.

Well before I started going to the gym, I was pretty good looking but after I transformed my physique which is now very good. I'd now say I'm better looking than most guys but I'm rarely, if ever, the best looking guy in a crowd. But I'm good looking enough for girls to approach me. That being said, I never get approached like this when my vibe is crap, so it really is about the whole package and how you carry yourself.

2) Which city was this in? I'm from the UK and it's interesting to get examples of UK field reports, as social dynamics differ slightly across the Atlantic.

Yeah, the dynamics in the UK and Europe in general are different from North America. From what I can tell girls in the States and Canada are much more likely to go out looking for a guy to fück whilst girls over here, especially in the more conservative European countries do not actively seek it. Yes, they are partial to it but these girls in general have had far fewer partners than their North American counterparts. I definitely feel like the manosphere is an American thing, I can relate to most things but definitely not on the same level as some of the acid tongued rants about women I've on here. The UK is definitely going that way though, I can feel it getting worse over here.

 

[Bingo-Player]

love this , was actually wondering where you had been for so long

ive started using that eye contact and immediate escalation thing this year in clubs/bars/festivals and its working well , usually works better where the music is loud and long conversation isn't required

I think as a DJ you need to be conscious that sometimes you can actually talk your way out of a drill , at 2 - 3 am just keep it simple and you will reap the rewards

 

[Mr Wright]

I think as a DJ you need to be conscious that sometimes you can actually talk your way out of a drill , at 2 - 3 am just keep it simple and you will reap the rewards

I totally agree, which is why I always think that you need to shut up and push things forward to see what happens. Chances are at that time it's win or bust so action not talking will get you through.