Alphathree
Senior Don Juan
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You know when you have one of those nights when its just YOUR NIGHT and IT'S ON, and no one's going to get in your way?
I just had one... it's great.
You know I was thinking that, yes, it all derives from my confidence level, and my confidence level comes from my dancing skill. People like to dance with me or watch me dance.
But even THAT is all in my head. I might be a decent dancer, but the STATE of confidence that I get from it is really just a state. So I must try to remove the dancing and recreate that state inside of me.
It's true... all game does flow from inner game... and that inner game is confidence.
If you have confidence, you have fun, you approach, you do whatever it is you want and you just don't have to think about it. You'll be funny, playful, not needy, all the right things, and it'll happen automatically.
This just cannot be faked... I mean yes, you can probably successfully fake some elements of it, but it's a whole whack load easier to just have it in the first place.
Then you don't have to sit there thinking to yourself "okay, how's my body language? facial expression? breathing? okay, I'm going to game her now. I'll use pickup lines 2, 7, and 21."
No. Bull****. You just do because you feel like it and you don't care what she thinks.
So then you start telling yourself "I don't care what she thinks" [you actually do] so you approach pretending such, you act nervous and weird, bad things happen, you post an AFC thread here.
My lesson for everyone tonight is this: do things that give you REAL honest-to-goodness confidence.
I just had one... it's great.
You know I was thinking that, yes, it all derives from my confidence level, and my confidence level comes from my dancing skill. People like to dance with me or watch me dance.
But even THAT is all in my head. I might be a decent dancer, but the STATE of confidence that I get from it is really just a state. So I must try to remove the dancing and recreate that state inside of me.
It's true... all game does flow from inner game... and that inner game is confidence.
If you have confidence, you have fun, you approach, you do whatever it is you want and you just don't have to think about it. You'll be funny, playful, not needy, all the right things, and it'll happen automatically.
This just cannot be faked... I mean yes, you can probably successfully fake some elements of it, but it's a whole whack load easier to just have it in the first place.
Then you don't have to sit there thinking to yourself "okay, how's my body language? facial expression? breathing? okay, I'm going to game her now. I'll use pickup lines 2, 7, and 21."
No. Bull****. You just do because you feel like it and you don't care what she thinks.
So then you start telling yourself "I don't care what she thinks" [you actually do] so you approach pretending such, you act nervous and weird, bad things happen, you post an AFC thread here.
My lesson for everyone tonight is this: do things that give you REAL honest-to-goodness confidence.