"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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FR: When She Doesn't Mention Her Boyfriend

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Sometimes I return to my AFC-ness, but some nights I'm on point. I've noticed it's usually when I think I have nothing to lose.

I met a chick through friends of friends on Saturday afternoon. Heavy flirting, kino, number close.

I talked to one of my friends about her on Sunday night and he said "dude you were flirting with Michelle hardcore - she has a boyfriend". My response "she never said anything to me".

I figure WTF worth a try. Texting convo later that night:

Me: Hey Michelle this is Uncharted from yesterday. Let's get drinks after work on Tuesday. xxx bar at 6PM.
Michelle: Heyyyyy yeah ok great! :)

So she agreed to go out...

I figured if this girl has a boyfriend, I might as well go all out on the escalation because I figured at some point she was going to turn me down and I would just come onto SS to post how far I could get. My goals were simple: sex or rejection.

We met at my place then I drove to the bar (thanks SS for this idea). I push/pulled like a crazy person. All over her, then nothing. Then all over her again, then aloof (my phone rang and she saw it was another girl). She was touching me like crazy. Almost every time she said something she would touch my hand/arm/whatever. 1.5 hours at the bar (3 rounds of drinks), then back to my place for two more drinks. She kept mentioning that her friends said she should meet me and that she's been wanting to meet me for a MONTH.

She just left here after I fcked her silly.

Lesson 1: If she has high IL she does not have a boyfriend.
Lesson 2: Social proof is extremely important.
Lesson 3: Persistence is key.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Branch swing.

Notice she didn't mention her BF. Women and men wouldn’t want to abandon the comforts of their current relationship unless they have validation they can do better. Once attained, their partner becomes disposable. The advantage of being in a relationship with disposable partner is what you can get away with. You will see her again very soon.

You, her and the BF.
 

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I agree. And I also think that if we got together (I have no intention of this happening) all of her friends would approve of the branch swinging.

She just cheated on her boyfriend. If the situation was reversed, her friends would be saying "what a douche/assh0le/d!ck/etc". Now they would say "well good for you, old bf was a jerk anyway".
 
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