FR: Went out on a date with this beautiful girl....

[LostAndConfused]

...and for a while it couldn't have gone better, but it ended on a terrible note.

Sorry for the semi-long post

Anyways, it was a movie date, and we went to see 10,000 B.C...yes, poor movie choice (it sucked) but we paid more attention to each other than the movie. .

Why do you guys say that movie dates are bad? At the movie, things went really well. I can honestly say that there was never an awkward silence. Whatever silences there were, I was always using some sexy kino .

Looking back on it, she gave me multiple signals to escalate to kissing, but this was my first date in a long time so I had no clue at the time to know to kiss her. I guess they say hindsight is 20/20 for a reason . I was touching her everywhere pretty much, and could tell she loved every minute of it. She had a very high interest....

...near the end of the date when I was driving her home, things went really well too. We were flirting as much as possible for a guy driving a car lol . One hand was on the wheel and the other was toying with her. Things were great ....

But when I got to her house, the near-perfect date goes sour. She sits there with her hand on the handle of my car door, and although we never got into an awkward silence, for some reason I choked up and got intimidated. I stuttered a little bit but I played it off pretty well with a joke, and I make the stupid mistake of making the situation more awkward by saying, "Let me walk you to your door." I have no idea what I was thinking. Maybe I was thinking about that time in Hitch when he says the girl fumbles with her keys for a while....basically I was looking for a clear indication that I could make the move. And it never happened, LOL. I blew my chances a while back. She tells me that she'll text me and goes in the house, and I drive home, bitter.

So anyways, she texts me and we get into some conversatin. (I asked about texting because of this broad in this thread: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=140896). Several of the conversations were flirty and I was able to provide funny responses (thanks for the help guys!).

...But when I texted her tonight, she would give me these really short responses that I couldn't respond to in a flirtatious way at all. Mind you, over all I haven't been texting her too much, and from all the texts I've been doing, theres no indication that I screwed up. Because (overall) the date went so well I'm considering taking her out on another date, but I'm really lost and confused right now (seriously).

 

[Gangster Of Love]

Sometimes you win, sometimes you learn.

If things are going very well, step up the kino DURING the movie, and should be kissing her by the time the end credits are rollin'.

 

[dopexile]

The date when well IN YOUR MIND FROM YOUR PERSPECTIVE. You had a perfect opporitunity to ignore her and watch the movie and make her wonder if you were interested but you were a chump and put up no challenge. Now she got bored and lost all interest.

Sad thing is I've read this same exact story three times this week from three diff dudes and I think every case was the 10,000 BC movie (must be boring).

 

[LostAndConfused]

The date when well IN YOUR MIND FROM YOUR PERSPECTIVE. You had a perfect opporitunity to ignore her and watch the movie and make her wonder if you were interested but you were a chump and put up no challenge. Now she got bored and lost all interest.

Sad thing is I've read this same exact story three times this week from three diff dudes and I think every case was the 10,000 BC movie (must be boring).

Yeah you are probably right about the perception thing, but at two different times I did say "I'm gonna ignore you now" after she made a stupid comment. Then I would just look at the movie until she'd force me to look at her. I made sure to pay some focus on working kino on her and stuff though because I've heard stories from my friends about having sh1tty dates where they would either chat the whole time or just look at the movie.

I had a date in the past where I just watched the movie and maybe said a couple of things to her, and after the date she said "We should do this again." We never said a single word to each other after that.

Maybe I'll just never get this shyt right.

 

[kyphan]

Yeah you are probably right about the perception thing, but at two different times I did say "I'm gonna ignore you now" after she made a stupid comment. Then I would just look at the movie until she'd force me to look at her. I made sure to pay some focus on working kino on her and stuff though because I've heard stories from my friends about having sh1tty dates where they would either chat the whole time or just look at the movie.

I had a date in the past where I just watched the movie and maybe said a couple of things to her, and after the date she said "We should do this again." We never said a single word to each other after that.

Maybe I'll just never get this shyt right.

You WILL get it right. If you do a few things, of course.

If you keep going out with women. If you learn from your mistakes and make adjustments next time - whether it's the same girl or the next woman. If you keep trying and don't get hung up on one girl.

It's not going to all happen at once. It will take months. Or years. If you keep getting better, the journey will be more than worth it.

 

[NoMoreTapDancing]

Well yeah the date was blown. The whole reason for the date was to get closer to her and to start kissing her. She gave you multiple opportunities and you missed them at each turn. I can't beat you up about it too much because I have been there and done exactly the same things, but you have to just GO for it. Quite likely, you got short replys because the girl is onto the next man, or she's got a guy on the side who's hitting that instead of you because you didn't step up when you should have. Sorry to lay it out like that, but that's the game.

 

[Interceptor]

OK, see what IM seeing is that because of a few minute incidents which were not GLORIOUSLY MAGNIFICENT in its INCREDIBLY ENRAPTUROUS ROMANTIC SPLENDOR the date was .'blown."



The date was not 'blown'. He had a great time with this little girl.

ANd now, she is just feeling him out.

YOu know what shes doing??

Shes testing him to see if hes going to blow up her phone and non stop texting her.

THAT is what shes doing.

He got a little intimidated and she felt it, this threw her off.
Since he was so affectionate earlier.

Which is FINE

Making mistakes is part of life.

Not making mistakes means you are NOT LIVING!!!

LAC, you are only 17., kid.

YOU are 17 .

If you trun this into some sort of psyhcological Prison of Failure, guess what??

It will be.

DO not let the past DEFINE who you areally ARE.


Do not DWELL on the negative.

You are new at this.

A lot of females DONT KNOW how to act with you. So they go into primal female mode.

What is it?

Test for more info.

Test for more info

Test for more info

LAC, youre just a ki8d, but you are a young MAN.

Part of being a Man is not being so head over heels out of control when something does not go your way.

So she didnt kiss you, and you kind of 'messed up'

It is only a BIG HUGE DEAL in YOUR Mind if YOU MAKE IT!!!

She is watching you, observing you.

You threw her off.

So now she is feeling you out and testing.this is what females do. Get used to it.

Dont go overboard trying to SALVAGE this.
Maintain your COMPOSURE AT ALL TIMES!!

maintain your MORALE AT ALL TIMES!!!
Women cannot hurt you!!

And if they do 'get to you', it means you are not ready to HANDLE HER!!!!!!


Maintain your calm and composure always


be cool

do NOT BE NEEDY!!!!!!!
do not be clingy
do not be possessive of her

do not demand more from her


Lean back

Stay grounded

stay strong

Becasue ifyoure gling to get CRUSHED liek this at this stage, youare setting yourself up for total social anxiety and withdrawal form interactions with women.

Dude, you will literaly TRAIN yourself to run away from Life this way.

Men go through this stuff all the time.

Not every single date will be the MOST MAGICAL one.

And not every siongle Female will act EXACTLY the Way you desire


Enjoy the expereince

Look back at it and laugh

If you can do that..well guess what?

Youre being a Man. A mature masculine man.



Give her some space.
Let her miss you for a while.

Dont chase her for now.

Dont 'force' your presence on her.

Go out with OTHER females!!!!!!!

 

[Interceptor]

Anmother thing to think abou tis.....


Seduciton

Attraction

mating

.........whatever you want to call it is NOT LINEAR.

While BASED in Science.......
....it is an ART!


thats right.

It is based on your creativity . self expression, and ability to feel.


So one man's "ART" will be different than another,


Yet,

they all use roughly the same colors and media.

Seduction is an ART.
Not a PURE science.


Be free and creative.

THAT is what WOMEN want.

Not routines and techniques, men.

They WANT YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


What is in your mind?

What is in you HEART???

THAT is what they Want.

NOT "Who lies more women or men???"



Seduction is an art open to personal interpretation.

Integrate that into your mind, schema and paradigm


MASCULINITY =SKILL WITH WOMEN + SKILL WITH MISSION

 

[LostAndConfused]

I was out of town for a while, just got back and read your posts guys, thanks a ton.

 

[Jitterbug]

Movie dates are bad for adults, because there's too much silence and not much else going on, making it awkward for people who'd have many interesting things to say otherwise. They're only good if you're already familiar with each other (i.e been dating for a while or in a relationship). You're still a teenager. You don't need to go by that rule.

Next time you go on a date, don't leave the kissing (or attempt to) near the end - i.e after dropping her at her place and walking her to the door. Firstly, it's a boring cliche. Secondly, you've built up too much pressure on yourself by that point, that you're likely gonna fvck it up. Try it before you get in the car, like while you're walking with her to the car park, or go grab a hot chocolate after the movie, and escalate there.

 

[JackPrescott]

...and for a while it couldn't have gone better, but it ended on a terrible note.

Sorry for the semi-long post

Anyways, it was a movie date, and we went to see 10,000 B.C...yes, poor movie choice (it sucked) but we paid more attention to each other than the movie. .

Why do you guys say that movie dates are bad? At the movie, things went really well. I can honestly say that there was never an awkward silence. Whatever silences there were, I was always using some sexy kino .

Looking back on it, she gave me multiple signals to escalate to kissing, but this was my first date in a long time so I had no clue at the time to know to kiss her. I guess they say hindsight is 20/20 for a reason . I was touching her everywhere pretty much, and could tell she loved every minute of it. She had a very high interest....

...near the end of the date when I was driving her home, things went really well too. We were flirting as much as possible for a guy driving a car lol . One hand was on the wheel and the other was toying with her. Things were great ....

But when I got to her house, the near-perfect date goes sour. She sits there with her hand on the handle of my car door, and although we never got into an awkward silence, for some reason I choked up and got intimidated. I stuttered a little bit but I played it off pretty well with a joke, and I make the stupid mistake of making the situation more awkward by saying, "Let me walk you to your door." I have no idea what I was thinking. Maybe I was thinking about that time in Hitch when he says the girl fumbles with her keys for a while....basically I was looking for a clear indication that I could make the move. And it never happened, LOL. I blew my chances a while back. She tells me that she'll text me and goes in the house, and I drive home, bitter.

So anyways, she texts me and we get into some conversatin. (I asked about texting because of this broad in this thread: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=140896). Several of the conversations were flirty and I was able to provide funny responses (thanks for the help guys!).

...But when I texted her tonight, she would give me these really short responses that I couldn't respond to in a flirtatious way at all. Mind you, over all I haven't been texting her too much, and from all the texts I've been doing, theres no indication that I screwed up. Because (overall) the date went so well I'm considering taking her out on another date, but I'm really lost and confused right now (seriously).

You are a moron. Try "Cultureclub.com" from now on.