Flabbergasped?
Master Don Juan
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Hey guys, just got back from a night on the town. A bunch of issues have come up, and I'm hoping you may have some tips to help me improve my game. Oh, and before I start, if you think this is too detailed, it's because I have an amazing memory.
So, I go down with a wing, good friend of mine. I'm under 21, but I have an older brother's expired ID with me. Turns out they don't accept those, I have to bribe the bouncer.
Once we're inside, I scope the place out a little. Three stories, a pit in the middle and balconies all around. I would have to pick people up on the dancefloor, since there wasn't much lounge space outside of some couches upstairs for people who want to bone, I guess. Smoke in the air. Asians everywhere.
There were two detectable white people, and maybe 2-3 hispanics. Everyone else was oriental. I don't mean to make race an issue, but it immediately felt strange when I was probably the 6th black guy in a room of like 100 asians.
Anyway, I roll up to the bar (an excuse to scope out the dance floor without being sketchy), get me a drink, and get to work.
There's a two-set in the middle of the dance floor. By now my wing has disappeared, I suppose he's gaming other chicks. I smile, ask them how their night is. They can't hear me. Probably the most awkward situation to be in is saying something and not being heard. Having to repeat yourself isn't alpha.
I try to dance with this one chick, she looks frightened, almost like I was going to rape her.
Someone starts a dance circle. I'm a decent dancer, so I do my thing, come out and a couple of decent looking chicks are watching, apparently impressed. I ask them to help me close the circle (i implied a sandwich). They don't comply.
Another two-set, they're wearing matching outfits, very attractive. I figure they're sisters, but it's not worth talking because they won't hear me anyway. I grab the hips of one of them, she recoils, I let go of her hips but keep grinding. Eventually she starts getting into it. She's really intense, but suddenly starts and shouts, in broken English heavily tinged with Chinese, "Ok, Thank you, bye!" My guess is, she saw her friend not getting any play and looking depressed, and decided not to exacerbate the situation.
I find my wing and we start opening sets together. To summarize, if we opened a two-set, one of us would get flat-out rejected, and the other would not go very far past that. Soon enough, all the hot girls start leaving, it's 5 min until closing, so we leave.
Couple things I learned:
-In college, you can pick someone up just by dancing with them. In the real world, chicks and their friends are way too fvcking *****y, and separating them is so insanely hard.
-As much as I believe race doesn't matter, it was hard out there being the only black guy approaching (the others were acting gangsta on a stage). I rationalized to myself that it would make me distinct from all the asian guys, but people just freaked out when they saw me, or went cold really fast.
Questions:
1) How do you deal with groups of girls there with someone? If, for example, 3 girls and 3 guys are hanging around each other, how do you get past both the *****y friends and the AMOGing?
2) Is there a way to look more inviting, in terms of body language? I've gotten it before that chicks feel almost threatened when I approach them, but I've never been able to place why.
3) Your thoughts on fakes?
So, I go down with a wing, good friend of mine. I'm under 21, but I have an older brother's expired ID with me. Turns out they don't accept those, I have to bribe the bouncer.
Once we're inside, I scope the place out a little. Three stories, a pit in the middle and balconies all around. I would have to pick people up on the dancefloor, since there wasn't much lounge space outside of some couches upstairs for people who want to bone, I guess. Smoke in the air. Asians everywhere.
There were two detectable white people, and maybe 2-3 hispanics. Everyone else was oriental. I don't mean to make race an issue, but it immediately felt strange when I was probably the 6th black guy in a room of like 100 asians.
Anyway, I roll up to the bar (an excuse to scope out the dance floor without being sketchy), get me a drink, and get to work.
There's a two-set in the middle of the dance floor. By now my wing has disappeared, I suppose he's gaming other chicks. I smile, ask them how their night is. They can't hear me. Probably the most awkward situation to be in is saying something and not being heard. Having to repeat yourself isn't alpha.
I try to dance with this one chick, she looks frightened, almost like I was going to rape her.
Someone starts a dance circle. I'm a decent dancer, so I do my thing, come out and a couple of decent looking chicks are watching, apparently impressed. I ask them to help me close the circle (i implied a sandwich). They don't comply.
Another two-set, they're wearing matching outfits, very attractive. I figure they're sisters, but it's not worth talking because they won't hear me anyway. I grab the hips of one of them, she recoils, I let go of her hips but keep grinding. Eventually she starts getting into it. She's really intense, but suddenly starts and shouts, in broken English heavily tinged with Chinese, "Ok, Thank you, bye!" My guess is, she saw her friend not getting any play and looking depressed, and decided not to exacerbate the situation.
I find my wing and we start opening sets together. To summarize, if we opened a two-set, one of us would get flat-out rejected, and the other would not go very far past that. Soon enough, all the hot girls start leaving, it's 5 min until closing, so we leave.
Couple things I learned:
-In college, you can pick someone up just by dancing with them. In the real world, chicks and their friends are way too fvcking *****y, and separating them is so insanely hard.
-As much as I believe race doesn't matter, it was hard out there being the only black guy approaching (the others were acting gangsta on a stage). I rationalized to myself that it would make me distinct from all the asian guys, but people just freaked out when they saw me, or went cold really fast.
Questions:
1) How do you deal with groups of girls there with someone? If, for example, 3 girls and 3 guys are hanging around each other, how do you get past both the *****y friends and the AMOGing?
2) Is there a way to look more inviting, in terms of body language? I've gotten it before that chicks feel almost threatened when I approach them, but I've never been able to place why.
3) Your thoughts on fakes?