FR: The one that got away!

[Fash]

Ok...

I was out in the westend of London last night, with two mates. Went to this pretty cool bar, full of hot women. As I looked around, I noticed that they were mostly in big groups and with guys. Oh well... I really didnt have the energy for any group dynamics stuff..

Saw a Hb9 walking around and it looked like she was looking for someone, so I kinda stepped in her path, we caught eye contact, she gave me an evil look and walked around me! for some reason, there was a look about her and I thought "thats the one! I want that one"

My wing said "that is an impossible situation, there is no chance in hell" I wish he hadnt said that now....

I walked over to her and her mate later on who had just finished eating some bar snacks...

Me: Hey, how was the food
HB9: (smiling) it was really nice! (in a very very strong london accent!)
me: ah, what did you have, which one was best?
HB9: bla bla bla..... would you like some?
Me: what? you are offering me your cold leftovers????
Both HBs: ha ha ha ha ha
Me: so what brings you girls here tonight?
Both HBs: we are hunting!
Me: (i knew they meant men, but i said for what? i dont see any bears around!
Both HBs: ha ha ha ha ha
Me: ok, in that case, i've got the perfect guy for you, lets go find him.

So i grabbed the HB9's hand and lead her away with me. My wing jumped in and said "dont worry babe, i'll look after your friend till you get back" :cheer:

So I lead the HB9 around for a while, i got some funny looks from some of the guys because I think some of them had tried approaching her earlier. We walked around, and I said:

Me: this isnt working, i need to get to know more about you

So I rand the cube routine on her! her eyes literally lit up!!! she started getting all flirtatious, playing with her hair, smiling, the works! major IOI

The she wanted a drink, so I just stood there while she ordered AND paid for her drink. Offered me one, but i declined....

Later on, I took her back to her mate, she just sat down and started talking to her mate, so I turned my back on her and started talking to my other mate. She then got up, and started talking to me again!

So i took her hand, led her to a quiet corner, and said

Me: ok, enough is enough. 2 things, firstly, smell my neck
so she did
Me: what aftershave am I wearing?
Her: oooooh i'm not sure!
Me: not good enough! you dont qualify for the second part!
Her: NO!!! tell me! tell me!
Me: ok, but only because you've got those amazing blue eyes...
Me: I'm quite intrigued by you I have to say, and I'd like to continue our conversation, but i have to go as my mate wants to go clubbing.
Her: yeh, i'd like to see you again. take my number

She grabs my phone, puts her number and name in! turns out i already have a number in my phone with the same name!

Her: oooh, you better make sure you dont ring the wrong person!

Then I gave her a hug, and then let go, but she held on! (IOI)

So i took her back to her mate, got my mate and left. the whole time i said goodbye, she was giving me the dogs dinner bowl look!

so..... here is the thing....

I AM SOOOOOO STUPID! WHY THE HELL DID I WALK AWAY?????

She was gorgeous, on heat and looking for a guy. I did all the hard work and then walked away!

So later on after I came out of the club, which I hadnt been very successful in, I turned AFC and called her! she picked up!

Me: hey, it's fash
HB9: oh my god! hi fash, where are you? come and see me!
Me: ok, where are you?
HB9: im at so and so

So I walked to the bar, and it is 2am now, and the arsehole at the door wouldnt let me in!

So i rang her and said I'm outside, come and get me. She said ok, but never showed up. So i managed to talk my way in, looked around, couldnt find her. So I just sent her a txt saying "couldnt find you, going home, have fun"

As I was walking out, my friend spotted her! at the bar, talking to some guy. next thing, she is kissing him! :cuss:

Oh well, looks like I was able to open her, get her interested, then walk away and let some other dude close her.

Her loss...

I guess I can look at this as a learning experience to:

1. Dont walk away when she is clearly wanting you to stay
2. Dont turn AFC if you have not had a successful night and chase scraps!

 

[snobby]

Personally I would see it from a different perspective but that's just me.

Other guys might have a different opinion, but MY opinion is that you did the right thing. A lot of guys and "pick-up artists" talk about a thing called ANTICIPATION. The more you're not giving a woman what she wants, the better it will be later on when you do. You build anticipation and turn her on. WHy do we turn on a woman before sex? The stuff we do BEFORE sex have everything to do with anticipation...so in the end sex feels gooooood. It's like going on an important diet, eating all salads for a month, and then treating yourself with a nice big piece of strawberry cheese cake!

Obviously the girl wanted you to stay there and have fun with you...but you didnt, and that would build her anticipation when you would call later. And what did you do man?? Instead of calling her after 3-4 days (to also show that you're not desperate and have your own life) you called her as soon as you got out of the club!!! :crazy: That was a bad move in my opinion...

As far as HER kissing another guy, then it wouldnt concern me personally. You two just met, and you both have your freedom to go out with any women/men you want. Nothing happened, it was just the meeting and the first time flirt. Things would move on later on future "going-outs." So that girl chose to flert with you AND that other guy, she has every right. If I were you I would wait 4-5 days and call her to arrange a cup of coffee or something. that she talked to another guy doesnt mean anything. Play it cool and act as if SHE is chasing you, and you are cool and confident of yourself. Go for it!

 

[Fash]

If I were you I would wait 4-5 days and call her to arrange a cup of coffee or something.

Snobby,

I very much agree with and like your reply. It makes sense, I too am a believer in the "anticipation" game. I just feel like such an AFC because I think she may have seen me walking around the club looking for her.

I think I'm gonna let this one go, I'm gonna chase up a couple of numbers I got earlier in the week.