FR: The First Date

[Ace of Flames]

Hey all, its me yet again. i'll let the applause stop.....

so anyone who keeps up with my threads knows about that girl ana. well, i set up a date with her last night. im getting good feelings about this girl, lets see what you guys think.

First off, it was quite the cliche date, but it went well anyway. dinner, movie, ice cream. she commented that she liked it, so im happy.

went to the resturant, she'd never been there before. she liked the atmosphere. i sat next to her in the booth instead of opposite her, which i thought was different. i took charge and suggested something for her to try, and she ended up liking it alot, so that was awesome. we talked about college and family and work. she kept hinting at ideas for future dates, like her cooking dinner for me, and going out bowling and stuff. i challenged her to make the stuff we were eating that night when she cooks for me, and she was all for it. i always throw in a little c&f with her, and that got her laughing a few times. she likes to play around like that anyway, so fun to be with. i payed, only like $20, no biggie. she insists that she pays next time, which says 2 things: she WANTS to go out again, and she's a giver. i like it, i like it.

so then we walk across the parking lot to the movies. kinda cold and windy, so i lent her my jacket. original, right? lol i dont care. some retard tried to run us over, i put my arm around her and pulled her out of the way. we get to the movie and i use my gift card for the tickets. thank you free money! we're in line for snacks, and this is when she realizes she "forgot" her money. i say it like that, but i think she genuinely forgot it. she was rushing out the door, and she doesnt do well when she's rushed. oh well, i just smile and say she owes me. and remember, free money! she starts talking about how her mom yells at her for losing stuff, and that she usually loses her underwear, not her money. i say, "i can help you lose your underwear" with a sly look, and it took her a second to get it. then she just giggles and smiles, and gives me a thoughtful look. hmmmmm, interesting, no?

in the movie, we're almost the only people there. we were loud, lol. the movie was kinda meh, so not a whole lot of laughing out loud or anything. oh well. she was falling asleep a little, cuz she works so much and she was tired, but she never konked out. she figured out who the bad guy was like 5 minutes into it!! i busted on her for ruining the movie for me.

next stop was ice cream. lots of people in line, so we're just standing around. all these places are in the same parking lot, and she was commenting that its a nice little area. i said, "yea, they even got a hotel over there for us to go to next." took her another second to get that one, but she liked it. later she starts saying that she has lots of little moles on her body, and without missing a beat, i say, "you should show me sometime." lol, after that she was looking for one all over her arms and stuff. i found one on her face and put my finger on it. she just kinda giggled. i got the ice cream and we shared it. aww, how cute.

so the date was over, and we're outside her house. all i got was a hug, and a half-assed hug at that. probably because her sisters were outside. im gonna bust on her for that. "what kinda weak hug was that the other night anyway? u better give me somethin better than that next time." oh well. i dont think a kiss would have been right. i wasnt feelin like she was ready for that. see, all this school year, we've just been flirty friends, nothing really physical. plus i think she's more of a reserved girl when it comes to that. i hope i dont sound like im making excuses or anything. regardless, next date, im making it more physical. im even gonna bust on her about being all reserved. "*as im making some kind of move* do i have to make ALL the moves??" in a ****y tone. here's hoping she jumps me after that!

so that was our first date. and im sure it wont be the last, she really layed it on thick that she wants to go out again. like trying to prove to me that she's willing to spend time with me. i like how its going overall. any thoughts, suggestions, or praises are welcome!

 

[JSH]

Man, it sounded good. However, if as you say you have just been flirty friends, then she might be used to you upping your word game, you need to get that kiss.

But hang in there, I believe in you.

 

[Dante3214]

Dude, congrats!


You = Inspiration for us newbies!

 

[Ace of Flames]

wow, an inspiration? hehe, kool...

yea, im totally going for more kino next time. i cant wait.

i saw someone else do this, and i figure its a good idea, so im gonna sum up my FR:

Pros
-Took charge
-Let her talk
-Kept her laughing
-Used c&f wisely
-Was a gentleman
-Saved her from a car, lol
-Made sure she enjoyed herself
-Threw in some innuendo to get her thinking

Cons
-Didnt use much kino
-Cliche date
-No kiss

i guess that means the date was a success! discuss.

 

[B-Lemond]

^ I'm glad we have your permission to discuss...heh..heh


Anyways, the DR was pretty good.

However, I would suggest that you go on an action-date next time.

There is a reason for this. I don't have enough time to explain it right now but here is the summary. When you are doing a physical activity, dopamine is released into your brain, making you feel g o o d. Since you are there when she is feeling good, you yourself are an anchor for her emotions.

Thus, next time she sees you, she will feel good, and so on...

I think you get the picture.

 

[Ace of Flames]

yea blue, i know what u mean. i was planning on doing that anyway. she says she wants to go bowling, sounds good to me. and hey, she's gonna pay too, so its like she's taking me out this time.

maybe some role reversal would be good? like, "oh thank you so much for taking me out tonight ana! im having a great time!!" in an over-the-top performance. lol, could be fun. anyone got good results from something like this before?

 

[B-Lemond]

^

Role reversals are !


Go for it.



Whatever you do:

DON'T EVER SAY "I had a good time!"

For role reversals, try to say some extreme lines that you hear.

Ex.

I'm a little nervous going out with you. You might try to rape me or something....


(Maybe not a good example but it was a spur of the moment kind of example)

 

[Ace of Flames]

lol, that would freak her out. in the bad way... but i like the concept behind it.

i thought of some, any good?

- Ok, this is where i order the most expensive thing on the menu, right?
- Oh no, now you're gonna try and kiss me, arent you?! (at the end of the date)
- So are you going to carry my bags or what?

anyone have any other ideas or examples of role reversal?

P.S. its funny, because on the date, we joked about ordering the really expensive stuff, and during pretty much the whole date, she carried around my jacket on her arm. its like she fit right into her role already!

 

[B-Lemond]

^ You've got the right idea about the role reversals.