"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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FR: Takin' Over! (with Taros)

BG the HB Tamer

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Taros had offered me to come out in his town and I could crash at his place, which was an offer I could not really deny, right? So that's what we did. We went out in his town. He lives in a less urban, more southern part of the Netherlands (province is called Brabant). On my way there I noticed something. The girls were looking at me, they weren't afraid to make eye contact and they kept holding eye contact for WAY longer than girls in the Randstad area (Rotterdam, Den Haag, Amsterdam, Utrecht). Cool!

I thought that it would be promising for the night, but it turned out the girls there are quite different while going out, in a way. So at about 11 pm we headed into town. First we went to this alternative bar/club. I saw one guy trying to approach a girl with blonde dreads and made a comment to Taros "he's never going to be able to PU her right now, she's dancing and she seems like a party chick". After having seen that bar and having experienced some approach anxiety, we went to some others bars.

Those bars were packed, man and the music was ****in' loud. The only game I could try out in those places is try to make eye contact with girls walking by, smile, signal them and say "hi", then talk a little bit and get intimate quick. I'll have to get more experienced with that game some time, but I really don't prefer it, plus I had approach anxiety and the loud music was a good excuse. So I asked Taros if we could go back to the other bar (alternative place) and I told him I'd approach a chick in there within five minutes.

We went in and looked around for a target. After some stalling I decided to go for a challenge I set up myself and open the blonde dread-head party chick. I walked over, looked for something situational to open with, put my finger on her necklace and said "Hey, I've seen this symbol before, what does it mean?" Then we talked for a bit, but it occurred to me immediately that this girl was really drunk and well, not so attractive after all (maybe I should start wearing my glasses when sarging). So after a bit I ejected and went over to Taros.

Oh yeah, he had met a girl he kind of knew and she had two friends with her, both had the same name. One was kind of pretty, the other one wasn't. I talked a bit to them and for now I'll label the pretty one as The Short One (Oh yeah, I can't go into too much details about her, because too much happened).

Then a few minutes later Taros and I were standing at the dancefloor. During the day I had noticed he looked a bit like the singer of Queens of the Stone Age and also a bit like the singer of the Offspring. I commented about it and he said "why don't you use that as an opener?" BRILLIANT!

I turned around, stepped up to a girl, turned her our way and asked her "hey, do you think my friend looks more like the singer of Queens of the Stone Age or the Offspring?" She said QOTSA. "Hey, how do you suppose we could make money off of this?" She suggested people taking their pictures with them, for 50 cent. So I suggested she took her picture with him, for just 50 cent. Then I suggested "how about kissing him - possibly free of charge?" (At this point lame AFC friend joined us). She kind of laughed it off and said something to the extent of "you might be able to get some girls with this". She had probably no idea how right she was.

I ejected. Went back to Taros. Looked around the dance floor for our next target. Taros told me to approach a good-looking Asian chick that was dancing on the stage. I didn't have the guts.

So we walked over the dancefloor and I opened a nice looking girl (handle: Ms M.). I also opened her friend, because I thought I recognized her from myspace, apparently she wasn't who I thought she was.. I pondered upon being the first I've heard about to ever myspace-close a girl, but I didn't since she wasn't good-looking anyway.

Then I opened another small girl and she was rather hot, actually. I asked her if she thought he looks like the singer of QOTSA. She said something, probably. Then I ejected because she wasn't really saying all that much and she seemed to be standing there alone, waiting for her friend. Then she re-opened me, with a question that I think comes from ASD... "Hey, why were you asking me that?" I said "because another guy said he looks like the guy from the Offspring, but I didn't

agree with him". She now seemed to be fine with it. I asked her to help us make some money with it and told her we were open for suggestions.

We walked over to the bar area. A group of tall HB's was there. Probably the hottest group in the whole place. HB BlackFlower, HB Blonde, HB BlondeDreads (yes another one, but this one was a HB, not a UG). Taros told me to go open HB BlackFlower, but I didn't have the guts.

I looked around a bit, might have opened something and then we went back onto the dance floor. I decided to try to open the Asian chick on stage. While I was walking there the blonde dreadhead UG suddenly comes up and asks for my number. I figured it's cool to expand my social circle and gave her my number. I kind of regretted it instantly and told her that I have a girlfriend though. I hoped that would discourage her. She kept talking and I decided to eject.

Then I walked back to Taros and told him what I had just done. ****! So I decided it was time for a drink. We walked back and were standing at the side of the dancefloor. Two 25+ year old HB's came in and stood just next to us. I decided to open them with the QOTSA-opener. One of them HB BlondeCurls put her arm around my shoulders while deciding upon it. I talked to her for a bit and then ejected. That had gone better than expected. I have a limiting belief that older chicks (below 30) aren't into me.

Then Taros and I walked onto the dancefloor, I may have re-opened the first chick I opened with the QOTSA opener at this point.

Then I noticed HB BlackFlower, HB Blonde and a guy standing in front of me. I tried to open HB Blonde and the guy with the QOTSA opener, but only the guy responded. I had some fun with him, told him I didn't agree and told him I'd see what someone else's opinion was (playful angry tone). I turned to HB Blonde and HB BlackFlower. Stopped their stupid conversation and got HB Blonde to listen. I asked her what she thought, etc. Then she said he didn't look like either. Then came the "why are you asking me this?" I said "because we want to make some money with it" and she was okay with it. I think I could just give them bull****, outrageous, unbelievable reasons and they'd be okay, since they're just looking for validation/approval. She told me that I do look like someone though.. "You're not going to like this," "well, what is it?" "DJ Tiesto". *Silence* "Why do you think so?" It's because of your cheekbones.. "Ahh. Is that a good or a bad thing?" It's a good thing and the hot chick proceeded to tell me that girls really like cheekbones like that.

Cool! I was complimented on my physical looks by a HB! It was limiting belief termination night.

Now I decided it was really time to go for that Asian girl on stage. I opened her, she was into me, but then some guy passed out and she went over to him, so I left her.

Then I noticed Ms M. was leaving. First I had thought I wouldn't #close anyone, because it would be too much of a hassle with the traveling. I decided though that this girl was pretty hot and that it would be worth it. Taros and I positioned us near the exit. She wasn't coming... So I walked back to where I had seen her standing and was too scared so I walked by... Then I decided to walk back to Taros and wait there.

We sat.. She started coming our way and just as she walked past me, I grabbed her arm, said "hey, hold on... Would you like to meet up some time?" Then something happened which had never happened to me before.. "Depends on what we're going to do." I attempted to deflect it and said "Oh, that's aaaallll up to you" immediately realized I had lost frame control and decided to turn it into a joke and playfully said "Just kidding! That's all up to me!" Then I gave her a rather serious "come on, just let go of that number and lets have fun". She agreed and I wanted to hand over my telephone, but she said she had to go and I should get her number from her friend. I told her to just quickly tell her friend that it's okay and she did.

I went over to her friend as soon as Ms M. had left and got her number. Chatted with her friend.. I guess I had gotten into a really charismatic, chatty mood.

We walked back to the dancefloor area of the place. I decided to approach HB BlackFlower, I finally had the guts, kind of. She was standing at the bar with HB Blonde. I opened her "hey, do you think I look like DJ Tiesto?" She said "No." I pointed at HB Blonde and said "she does". HB Blonde laughs, HB BlackFlower her back on me and shuts herself out. Hahaha. I talked to HB Blonde for like a minute and then decided to eject as a punishment for her friend's behavior.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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BG the HB Tamer

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Then I decided to do some social proofing and I walked over to the 25+ year old 2set. There was a guy sitting with him, but I ignored him as I opened. I opened with an opener I had just invented myself and I intend on using it another time. First I went for the hot blonde chick with the long hair (she was the hotter one of the two, but also a bit shy). "Hey, just one minute, I need a female opinion on something, ok? (DON'T wait for validation/approval!!) I have just given my number to some girl, but I already regret it.. What do you think I should do when she calls?" She referred me to HB BlondeCurls who was apparently 'the expert' of the two. So I repeated my question to her. "Which girl? I'll go get it back for you." Ahahaha. I said that the girl was probably too drunk to understand the "give it back"-request, but this HB was pretty eager. I told her I'd show her.

She then grabbed my hand and I walked over to the dancefloor, hand-in-hand with this hot chick (how's that for social proof! haha). I pointed out the girl to her, we walked over, she grabbed the note that the girl had in her hand and we walked back again, hand in hand. I walked her towards the bar, in an attempt to isolate her. We looked at the note but it didn't have my number on it! The HB wanted to go back, but I started feeling sorry for the UG, so we didn't. I think I could have kiss-closed this HB, since she stood there, kind of expecting something in return, but I wasn't sure. Next time I'll just say "shall I kiss you, as a thank you?"

Then I was standing at the bar with Taros and suddenly I see the two 25+ year olds getting their stuff to leave, but before they leave, they walk towards the dancefloor and it looked like they had a purpose. Oh my god! She started talking to the UG again and this time she did get my number from her, haha.

I said goodbye to them and saw that HB Blonde's group was also leaving. HB Blonde was taking ages, I guess it was an AI, but **** her, it was her turn to open me.

I saw The Short One and her group standing in front of us and told Taros that I could #close that short girl. I walked over to her as she was talking to some guy who was definitely interested in her and told her that I was leaving and asked if I could note her number down. She offered her email instead (logical, since she had seen me approach a lot of chicks, so her ASD was on alert).

Then on my way out of there I ran into the UG. She asked me for my email, I didn't really see harm in that, so I gave it. Seriously, I think she might be interesting if she's not so drunk, but maybe she won't be and then I'll block her. But yeah, anything like a date or whatever, with her... Never gonna happen.

So overall it was an AWESOME night. I approached most girls in that bar. I approached all the girls which I had feared to approach. Plus I got a number and an email address out of it (oh, they're real by the way).

Thanks for having me over Taros, if you want to come to Amsterdam some time, you can crash at my place, man. This night might have been cooler than last Saturday, haha.

Ooh yeah, on my way to PUA, can't a damn thing stop me!
 
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