"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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FR: Sunday Night Clubbing

Maestro Monk

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So it's Sunday night, and and my wing and I decide to hit up one of the better clubs in my city.
It took nearly an hour to get goin b/c of a few polite rejections, but after my first dance, it was non-stop from there pretty much the rest of the night.
I approached pair of cute Asians standing around not really dancing. Said something lame like "looks like you could use a dance partner there", threw out my arm, and next thing I know the one has spun around and is grinding against me with good enthusiasm. After about 10 mins, I spin her around, and her purse swings out, knocking over 2 nearby bear bottles. She looked real embarrassed and backed off like she had enough after that, and wouldn't keep dancing after I tried pulling her back..whatever, next.
After that, approached random girls and got single song dances for the rest of the night..this is probably because my dancing is not up to par (yet).
About an hour later, I see the pair that I danced with earlier on. I honestly don't really remember how it happened, but I remember just looking at the friend and next thing I know she is hugging me and we're dancing.
After about 15 mins we were 'dancing' like mad (more like dry sex), and at a couple points I picked her up off her feet with her legs around my stomach..seriously hot stuff :)
After about 40 mins of grindin', my legs were beginning to tire out, so I take her hand and walk her over to the couch area. She sits on my lap and I tease her and we're both doing heavy kino. At this point, I wanted to talk, but was hesitant because of the loud music. So she asks me some small fluff talk, like my name, age, etc. 15 minutes later we're back on the dancefloor and going some more. I decide to get her number now before I forget, so I motion her to follow me off the dancefloor, where I smoothly whip out the phone and hand it to her.
Next thing I know, she hands it back without looking at me or putting in her number, and walks out of the club with her friend who appeared out of nowhere! She told me how much of a great time she was having, so this was totally unexpected. :(
Walking out of the club empty handed half hour later, I notice HB Asian lounging in a store front with some huge 6'6 basketball player and her friend nearby chatting on her phone..by this point I am quite vexed, so I don't make eye contact at her as I walk by. After that, it was straight street sarging, and we had fun chattin up semi-intoxicated hotties outside the clubs for the next little while..no # closes though.

Things to keep in mind for next time:

One thing I realized was that once I had broken the ice and danced with the first girl, the rest come easily (just like sarging).
Something I need to improve is my club communication..I very frequently find myself struggling to speak over top of the loud music. I tried whispering in their ears, but it was so loud that I often had to resort to yelling, after they asked me my name.
Should have made out with HB Asian, hopefully sealing the deal, before I went for a number close..
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Maestro Monk

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Bump
Alright, myself and 3 others posted 3 field reports and there are no replies within 24 hours, yet over 10 for a thread about things like a "DJ's schedule"..
*Sigh* This forum really is beginning to worry me.
Let's hear some constructive criticism and suggestions for better success at clubs.
 

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Well-said. Not sure what would make for good conversation topics in a club environment, besides the obvious comments on the place itself.

Out of curiousty..when you guys game in clubs, do you open with a verbal cue, or do you go with the flow and just begin dancing with the chick?
 

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While we're on the subject...

For any of the English guys here, have you ever tried pulling an Asian girl in a club or elsewhere?
Its hard as hell, I mean they all prefer the Asian lads, you know the 'gangsta' wannabes.
Ive never pulled one although I only tried a few times....any of you lot managed it
 

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Originally posted by Maestro Monk
Alright, myself and 3 others posted 3 field reports and there are no replies within 24 hours, yet over 10 for a thread about things like a "DJ's schedule"..
*Sigh* This forum really is beginning to worry me.
This website is like this. Field reports are not viewed as important, instead people rather talk about theory. I still don't understand why there isn't a field report section.

Anyway, as for the # close, you should talk to the girl a bit more before closing.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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