So, this is my experience with how using the DJ bible, other readings, essentially, being alpha and being aloof, got me a fun night.
Started out the night going out with a friend of mine, female, but I've got zero interest in her and she's got a boyfriend (she's Girl-A). So, easy wing-girl as long as people don't think we're together. Went to a guy's house party - my gut instinct was to hang back and let people speak to me (natural introvert), but instead, I went for the lead and started talking to people, introducing myself, cracking a few sarcastic jokes. I kept it laid back, not pressing people, but leading them to talk more to me.
Quickly managed to lead the interactions, took some shots together with the group, and got some beer pong started. I played with my friend I arrived with, the host of the party was with a cute 18 y/o part indian, part white chick (Girl-B). Small girl. Teased the heck out of her, the host (Guy-A) was trying to make a move on her. Eventually, he left, my friend left, and we played a few solo games together. She started asking if I was with my friend - and if there was anything at all between us (first hint). I chatted with some other good-looking girls there, too, being the lead was way more fun than I had ever thought (but it took care.. as I had to really watch what I said to keep frame, versus just shutting up when I felt like it as an introvert). Got some names, but I never ended up running into them later after we left.
Shortly after, she 'accidentally' stumbled into me, so I had to catch her. Teased her some more. We got the group together, decided to go out to a bar. I went with some guys and my friend, dropped the guys off, we went off to another bar. The other group of people took a different car to the bar. Instead of going with them, we hit up a smaller, more refined bar for a short bit, but got caught up when my female friend left her phone at the ATM. I had a very short time to talk to a few people, but not enough time to really gauge anything.
Got in contact with Guy-A, found out which bar he was at, went and met up with him and Girl-B - he was still trying to get with her. She notices me, though, and offers to buy me drinks, and stumbles against me several times. Going against prior urges (and try to chase her), I just relaxed, and said sure, buy me some drinks, and teased her for trying to get me drunk. Tried to get a Newcastle, but it was a cheap bar, so.. the bartender's just laughed and said I had good tastes, but all they had was bud light and PBR. Eww. Stuck it out with Jack Daniels. Girl-B had like 4 shots in a row there, bartender gave them to her for free.
Heard about a party at an apartment from a guy we knew, so Girl-A drove us (she was the DD, as she was meeting up with her boyfriend) and dropped us there. Turned out the party was non-existent. Girl-B starts getting weird; cried a few times, had little freak outs. Hot/cold. She was trashed drunk, but it seemed like a bit of an attention ploy, so I just chilled and let her run off and around while Guy-A ran after her and tried to calm her down.
15 minutes later, she tries to run off again, I just grab her and pick her up. About 20 seconds later, she's leaning in, trying to make out with me. I kiss her for a few seconds, pull back, chuckle, put her down and say "Well, you're desperate, aren't you?" in a humorous tone. She got ticked at that, and ran off again (totally worth it for the look on her face). At that point, we had walked around the complex, and our ride away was nearly here.
We had to go, so I gave in and went after her - Guy-A had had no prior luck getting her back, so Girl-A told me to go get her. I went after her, she went into a corner, started acting a bit weird, pulled away from me when I tried to bring her along, second time I tried, we started making out, put her up on a railing and she started trying to undress me there.
Carried her back to the car (god, I love small petite girls), Guy-A is giving me sick looks this whole time, and she begged me to come back with her to her dorm room when she was getting dropped off. Obliged.. and well, I don't need to say much from there. One of my best times by far (top 3, at least).
Lessons learned (in reference to what worked for me);
Other lessons learnt (as to what I should have handled better)..
Bonus..
All in all, this was my first time applying all the concepts I've read on a direct level and it resulted in immediate success. This isn't a brag, as I could write a hundred entries on my failures before learning some of this material, but I wanted to share my success story with this - the last time I was at parties/etc was when I was with my ex, or back in my frat days where I had no idea what the heck was going on in social interactions. Otherwise, flawless night besides the scratches she left me on my back - crazy girl frickin' gouged my back up.
Started out the night going out with a friend of mine, female, but I've got zero interest in her and she's got a boyfriend (she's Girl-A). So, easy wing-girl as long as people don't think we're together. Went to a guy's house party - my gut instinct was to hang back and let people speak to me (natural introvert), but instead, I went for the lead and started talking to people, introducing myself, cracking a few sarcastic jokes. I kept it laid back, not pressing people, but leading them to talk more to me.
Quickly managed to lead the interactions, took some shots together with the group, and got some beer pong started. I played with my friend I arrived with, the host of the party was with a cute 18 y/o part indian, part white chick (Girl-B). Small girl. Teased the heck out of her, the host (Guy-A) was trying to make a move on her. Eventually, he left, my friend left, and we played a few solo games together. She started asking if I was with my friend - and if there was anything at all between us (first hint). I chatted with some other good-looking girls there, too, being the lead was way more fun than I had ever thought (but it took care.. as I had to really watch what I said to keep frame, versus just shutting up when I felt like it as an introvert). Got some names, but I never ended up running into them later after we left.
Shortly after, she 'accidentally' stumbled into me, so I had to catch her. Teased her some more. We got the group together, decided to go out to a bar. I went with some guys and my friend, dropped the guys off, we went off to another bar. The other group of people took a different car to the bar. Instead of going with them, we hit up a smaller, more refined bar for a short bit, but got caught up when my female friend left her phone at the ATM. I had a very short time to talk to a few people, but not enough time to really gauge anything.
Got in contact with Guy-A, found out which bar he was at, went and met up with him and Girl-B - he was still trying to get with her. She notices me, though, and offers to buy me drinks, and stumbles against me several times. Going against prior urges (and try to chase her), I just relaxed, and said sure, buy me some drinks, and teased her for trying to get me drunk. Tried to get a Newcastle, but it was a cheap bar, so.. the bartender's just laughed and said I had good tastes, but all they had was bud light and PBR. Eww. Stuck it out with Jack Daniels. Girl-B had like 4 shots in a row there, bartender gave them to her for free.
Heard about a party at an apartment from a guy we knew, so Girl-A drove us (she was the DD, as she was meeting up with her boyfriend) and dropped us there. Turned out the party was non-existent. Girl-B starts getting weird; cried a few times, had little freak outs. Hot/cold. She was trashed drunk, but it seemed like a bit of an attention ploy, so I just chilled and let her run off and around while Guy-A ran after her and tried to calm her down.
15 minutes later, she tries to run off again, I just grab her and pick her up. About 20 seconds later, she's leaning in, trying to make out with me. I kiss her for a few seconds, pull back, chuckle, put her down and say "Well, you're desperate, aren't you?" in a humorous tone. She got ticked at that, and ran off again (totally worth it for the look on her face). At that point, we had walked around the complex, and our ride away was nearly here.
We had to go, so I gave in and went after her - Guy-A had had no prior luck getting her back, so Girl-A told me to go get her. I went after her, she went into a corner, started acting a bit weird, pulled away from me when I tried to bring her along, second time I tried, we started making out, put her up on a railing and she started trying to undress me there.
Carried her back to the car (god, I love small petite girls), Guy-A is giving me sick looks this whole time, and she begged me to come back with her to her dorm room when she was getting dropped off. Obliged.. and well, I don't need to say much from there. One of my best times by far (top 3, at least).
Lessons learned (in reference to what worked for me);
- Be the life of the party. Be the centerpiece, be the guy people want to talk to. Doesn't mean throw effort into being a clown, but just be an easy going guy that people want to know.
- Watch for body language to determine who's DTF. How they act with their bodies, not their words, determines the likelihood of a hook-up.
- Stay aloof - chasing a girl for attention isn't going to get a guy laid.
- Don't be easy - pulling back got her attention so focused on me, as to why I was pulling back. She made comments like she feels judged, and that she knows that I thought I was better than her (after that last, I did have to bring down my value slightly, as she was putting me way too high on the pedestal and pulling back from it).
- And above all, don't care. I went in with the attitude of not caring - I didn't expect to get with the girl, and didn't care to get with the girl, until she started trying to make out with me. I was well aware that there were a dozen other girls for easy access, so whether or not she wanted to get with me didn't faze me - I would have just gone to hit on a different girl that was drunk at 1:30am and didn't want to sleep alone. Don't care doesn't mean don't flirt/hit on her, but just don't care about the end result of it. Don't focus on just getting laid.
- Looks do matter. Luckily, I look good, so I had an advantage over other guys around, but I could see how it affected initial attraction between the girls and guys at the bars. It's a lot easier to start from a 75% interest level than it is from 55%. Looks aren't end-all, but they do make a tremendous difference for ONS's.
- House parties are much easier to get to know people in contrast to bars. I see why Roosh recommends them over bars. It's definitely easier to meet, open people, and have a good time.
Other lessons learnt (as to what I should have handled better)..
- Bring condoms. Seriously. Or some ****. Because the morning after pill is expensive. Her roommate was the one to make the comment that she's never done this before, and she's only been with a couple boyfriends, so I'm relatively sure I'm safe on the STD regards, but a $50 pill is much more expensive than a $6 box of condoms. Be prepared, and don't forget.. even when drunk and you just want to tear a girl's pants off.
- Accidentally ****-blocking a dude, GuyA (who wasn't going to get laid, he was way too invested here and chasing her all the time) didn't make me a friend. My invite to his next party got revoked.
Bonus..
- Same day I cut contact with my BPD ex. Helped distract me.
All in all, this was my first time applying all the concepts I've read on a direct level and it resulted in immediate success. This isn't a brag, as I could write a hundred entries on my failures before learning some of this material, but I wanted to share my success story with this - the last time I was at parties/etc was when I was with my ex, or back in my frat days where I had no idea what the heck was going on in social interactions. Otherwise, flawless night besides the scratches she left me on my back - crazy girl frickin' gouged my back up.
