"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Last night there were a ton of sorority girls, and I didn't have much to say to them other than introducing myself. I got somewhat drunk, talked to a few people, and ended up driving home by myself. I was dancing mostly by myself trying to get girls to join me. I watched other guys get grinded on when they were near the girls. I attempted to do the same but got rejected. With all that alcohol, I thought they didn't give a sh!t who was up against them.

wtf am I doing wrong?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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"trying to get the girls to jon me"

There's your problem. You give too much of a sh'it.

You gotta think like you're giving the girls a privelige by letting them get grinded on.

Well, best a middle ground. You want it, I want it, let's not fool ourselves babe ;)

But that's where you slip up. Stop TRYING. Start just having fun and seeing what happens. Remember women are LITTLE GIRLS. You do not take little girls seriously. You humour them. You play with them. You spank 'em if they're bratty ;)
 
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also,probably those girls knew the guys they were grinding on. You can also be not very good looking..ha.
 
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Gubby said:
"trying to get the girls to jon me"

There's your problem. You give too much of a sh'it.

You gotta think like you're giving the girls a privelige by letting them get grinded on.

Well, best a middle ground. You want it, I want it, let's not fool ourselves babe ;)

But that's where you slip up. Stop TRYING. Start just having fun and seeing what happens. Remember women are LITTLE GIRLS. You do not take little girls seriously. You humour them. You play with them. You spank 'em if they're bratty ;)
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How do I not give a ****?

Should I stop looking at them? Should I go sit by myself and pretend not to be interested? I could not give a **** by going home.
 
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Viking25 said:
also,probably those girls knew the guys they were grinding on. You can also be not very good looking..ha.
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I'm a good looker, that's not the problem. Even the ugly guys were getting some action.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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How do I not give a ****?

Should I stop looking at them? Should I go sit by myself and pretend not to be interested? I could not give a **** by going home.
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Don't pretend.

If you give a ****, then build your life so that you don't give a ****. Work on your hobbies, find something exciting to spend your time on. Find what fires you up. Get some perspective (I love this one, basically, learn to see life so that when you look up at the stars and really get lost in them you don't come back thinking what an idiot you are for caring about the things you care about). Go out and help some people in need.

Then, go to the club with the feeling of just wanting to see how it will turn out, thinking of how you will learn something or maybe improve someone's life, or maybe someone will improve yours.......

Beer and tits culture ain't very conducive to this mindset :D

You'll get there mate :)
 
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I don't want to sound like captain obvious, but what about just being really confident and outgoing. Maybe they saw that you didn't talk that much, I dont know. Maybe be more a life of the party, practical jokes, yada yada yada...
 
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Gubby said:
Don't pretend.

If you give a ****, then build your life so that you don't give a ****. Work on your hobbies, find something exciting to spend your time on. Find what fires you up. Get some perspective (I love this one, basically, learn to see life so that when you look up at the stars and really get lost in them you don't come back thinking what an idiot you are for caring about the things you care about). Go out and help some people in need.

Then, go to the club with the feeling of just wanting to see how it will turn out, thinking of how you will learn something or maybe improve someone's life, or maybe someone will improve yours.......

Beer and tits culture ain't very conducive to this mindset :D

You'll get there mate :)
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I felt more comfortable being home since I'm very passionate in the arts. I feel my life is great as it is, just I think I would feel more of a man to lay a woman once and a while.
 
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I felt more comfortable being home since I'm very passionate in the arts. I feel my life is great as it is, just I think I would feel more of a man to lay a woman once and a while.
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Maybe you could do with something more structured then. Try the bootcamp.
 
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