"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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FR: so i met her the other night.....

OddManOut85

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so that girl ive been talking about,well,i finally met her friday.we met at a bar,had a few drinks,then met up with a freind of hers,went to her place,drank some more,played some cards,her roommates came over.i met some new people.and i had fun.and all in all it was a good time.nothing happened though.could be because either shes not interested in me like that,or we simply didnt have any alone time.she does want to hang out again.positive notes: i made her laugh,alot.i kept pretty good eye contact.we seem to have alot in common.unsure notes: she did refer to me as her freind.possibly,thats all shes seen me as.does that mean i have already been freindzoned? now whatever happens,if we become freinds,we become freinds.we go out,we go out,i bang her a few times,i bang her a few times.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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MrS

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She introduced you as her friend, what else was she going to say?
"This is Bob."
Blank stares, who the **** is Bob?
"He's my friend".
Ooooooh.
 

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MrS said:
She introduced you as her friend, what else was she going to say?
"This is Bob."
Blank stares, who the **** is Bob?
"He's my friend".
Ooooooh.
Exactly. I've yet to be introduced as any thing other than "friend" when I first start dating someone. It's the PC thing to call someone if you will. Quick question for ya. Did you try and kiss her goodnight? I mean if you had a good time and she was laughing all night I would've taken that as a good thing and gone for a kiss. If you don't want to end up in the friendzone make sure you let her know you dig her and are attracted to her. Worst she can do is say no.
 

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OddManOut85 said:
nothing happened though.could be because either shes not interested in me like that,or we simply didnt have any alone time.
If you both were really interested in each other, you two would have found some alone time.

something to think about
 

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well thats sort of the thing,like i said before,i wanted to go for a kiss close,but didnt get the chance.eveyone was pretty drunk too.so that might have factored in.i think she knows i like her.and she does want to hang out again.so maybe that will be my chance.i mean,i like this girl,no,woman i should say.she's 27.so yeah.kind of two different mentalities.i want to see were things go.whatever happens happens.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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