"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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FR:slapped! cant ever go to mall again

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ok i had the most ****ed up day of my life today.

I went to the mall today to do approaches and things were going pretty good for the most part, got a lot of interest and stuff. But i approached one girl out in front of starbucks just standing alone and told her i liked her hair. she said thanks and i decided to use some ****y and funny and i told her i "hope she didnt pay much for it". The slut slapped me! I got pissed and grabbed her and took her down and she screamed and mall security literally grabbed me and threw me into a bench and i got up and took off and for some reason they didnt chase me i guess they stayed to help her. I ran through dillards and out to my car and took off.

I didnt hit her i just took her down but that stupid slut shouldnt be putting her hands on people. do you guys think if i waited a few weeks i could go back to that mall or should i nevet go back? im so mad right now,please help.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Wtf is wrong with you?

You NEVER hit a woman.

She's not a slut.

You didn't neg her, you straight up insulted her.

You should never go to the mall again. You should just stay in your house. You obviously didn't come off as a friendly guy.

You should've been arrested.

Ughh please tell me this is a troll post?
 

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underoath777 said:
Wtf is wrong with you?

You NEVER hit a woman.

She's not a slut.

You didn't neg her, you straight up insulted her.

You should never go to the mall again. You should just stay in your house. You obviously didn't come off as a friendly guy.

You should've been arrested.

Ughh please tell me this is a troll post?
No this seriously happened just a few hours ago i really need your guys help i feel real bad about the whole situation.
 

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What do you mean you took her down, LMFAO.

Did you think you was in UFC 104 or something, dude That wasn't really ****y or funny, or maybe its how you said it, the whole approach and everything. You sounded like you was fleeing from sodom and gomorrah - you ran to you're car and took off Ha Ha!

I'd go back, if they havent given you a restraint order or ban, then why not?
 

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Chris312 said:
No this seriously happened just a few hours ago i really need your guys help i feel real bad about the whole situation.
I'm not sure you're ready to mingle with the law abiding public yet at all. Join the coast guard.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I don't even know what to say.

This Chris dude is surely a troll, the 2 "Field reports" he's written have documented absolute disasters. You're saying people are "showing a lot of interest" yet you're at the point of getting screamed at by a 15 yr old's mother and almost arrested for a scuffle with a woman.

Maybe you should focus less on hanging out at places for the sole purpose of chatting to girls - clearly you're not doing very well with the approach you're taking right now.
 

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shaunuk said:
This Chris dude is surely a troll, the 2 "Field reports" he's written have documented absolute disasters. You're saying people are "showing a lot of interest" yet you're at the point of getting screamed at by a 15 yr old's mother and almost arrested for a scuffle with a woman.

Maybe you should focus less on hanging out at places for the sole purpose of chatting to girls - clearly you're not doing very well with the approach you're taking right now.
dude this seriously isnt a troll and for your information the club FR wasnt my fault she was just a slut.
 

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I don't know how you come to the conclusion that she was a slvt. You have to admit that a 24yr old hanging at a 14-18's night is a little weird, and therefore she assumed you were a sketchy character. You ever considered that she called you a creep because they were the vibes you were giving off - rather than her being "a slvt" (which would be irrelevent anyway)
 

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shaunuk said:
I don't know how you come to the conclusion that she was a slvt. You have to admit that a 24yr old hanging at a 14-18's night is a little weird, and therefore she assumed you were a sketchy character. You ever considered that she called you a creep because they were the vibes you were giving off - rather than her being "a slvt" (which would be irrelevent anyway)

whatever. 16 year old girls couldnt get me off anyways.
 

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Chris312 said:
ok i had the most ****ed up day of my life today.

I went to the mall today to do approaches and things were going pretty good for the most part, got a lot of interest and stuff. But i approached one girl out in front of starbucks just standing alone and told her i liked her hair. she said thanks and i decided to use some ****y and funny and i told her i "hope she didnt pay much for it". The slut slapped me! I got pissed and grabbed her and took her down and she screamed and mall security literally grabbed me and threw me into a bench and i got up and took off and for some reason they didnt chase me i guess they stayed to help her. I ran through dillards and out to my car and took off.

I didnt hit her i just took her down but that stupid slut shouldnt be putting her hands on people. do you guys think if i waited a few weeks i could go back to that mall or should i nevet go back? im so mad right now,please help.
Hahahaha you deserved it dude

Proper ****y and funny should make her both laugh and call you a jerk/jokingly hit you/give an 'I can't believe you said that' kinda reaction, not make her wanna slap you. That was NOT c+f. That was just rude and mean. But your fr is one of the funniest things I've read in awhile
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Took her down! Haha. I love it. That's amazing dude...I'd love to get my hands on the security camera video of that. Troll or not, thanks for the great laugh.

If this really happened, wait a month or so before going back. You should be fine.
 

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Chris, learn from your mistake & move on. As the above DJ suggested, wait a month. by the way, a slap wasn't really necessary (in an "equality" view, it's assault), but your response was dead wrong. Anyway, jump back on the horse, but wiser!
 

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:crackup:

Pretty sure this is a troll, but...

I like it how you seem surprised by the two security guards reactions. If you'd taken down a guy rather than a woman in the exact same situation they'd do the same thing.

You clearly need to work on just interacting normally with people before you can even think about gaming women.
 

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Chris312 said:
ok i had the most ****ed up day of my life today.

I went to the mall today to do approaches and things were going pretty good for the most part, got a lot of interest and stuff. But i approached one girl out in front of starbucks just standing alone and told her i liked her hair. she said thanks and i decided to use some ****y and funny and i told her i "hope she didnt pay much for it". The slut slapped me! I got pissed and grabbed her and took her down and she screamed and mall security literally grabbed me and threw me into a bench and i got up and took off and for some reason they didnt chase me i guess they stayed to help her. I ran through dillards and out to my car and took off.

I didnt hit her i just took her down but that stupid slut shouldnt be putting her hands on people. do you guys think if i waited a few weeks i could go back to that mall or should i nevet go back? im so mad right now,please help.
If a girl slaps you, shake it off.
The slap is a good sign because it means you created some attraction.

"Now thats no way to treat a man, honey. Hitting wont get you anywhere in life, unless you're training to become a professional boxer."

Alright so in this situation here, she slapped you to get you away from her.

DISARM it. Next time keep your cool and shake it off.

She expects you to walk away. Continue to show interest in her, despite her slapping you. This is persistence.
You should be surprised by all means, but don't take it personally. The slap says more about her than about you; exploit that.

In the response I wrote above, the disarmer was "Now that's no way to treat a man, honey."
It puts her in the position of an emotional little girl.
The next part is c&f which lightens the serious mood. You want to be playful, not serious. It is a GAME after all.

Composure is very important man.
You want to be approaching girls for fun, with the fact in mind that women play games and have outer personas.

Go back and try again. In this situation you acted the wrong way, accept it so you can move on right away.
There's no point in waiting when you could just move on and continue where you left off.
Don't let one really bad approach ruin all of the good approaches you have yet to make.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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underoath777 said:
Wtf is wrong with you?

You NEVER hit a woman.

She's not a slut.

You didn't neg her, you straight up insulted her.

You should never go to the mall again. You should just stay in your house. You obviously didn't come off as a friendly guy.

You should've been arrested.

Ughh please tell me this is a troll post?

LISTEN YOU ILLETERATE **** SUCKER, I DIDNT HIT HER I TOOK HER DOWN. **** YOU.
 

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underoath777 said:
Wtf is wrong with you?

You NEVER hit a woman.

She's not a slut.

You didn't neg her, you straight up insulted her.

You should never go to the mall again. You should just stay in your house. You obviously didn't come off as a friendly guy.

You should've been arrested.

Ughh please tell me this is a troll post?
How the hell was that a neg anyway? Wasn't even being C&F. Imagine a random HB5-6 coming up to you and saying you have nice gunz, you say thanks and she says probably used steroids. Same ****.

You could probably go back to the mall in a few days; who will remember you and whats the chances you will ever see her again?
 

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I'm in the Mood said:
If a girl slaps you, shake it off.
The slap is a good sign because it means you created some attraction.

"Now thats no way to treat a man, honey. Hitting wont get you anywhere in life, unless you're training to become a professional boxer."

Alright so in this situation here, she slapped you to get you away from her.

DISARM it. Next time keep your cool and shake it off.

She expects you to walk away. Continue to show interest in her, despite her slapping you. This is persistence.
You should be surprised by all means, but don't take it personally. The slap says more about her than about you; exploit that.

In the response I wrote above, the disarmer was "Now that's no way to treat a man, honey."
It puts her in the position of an emotional little girl.
The next part is c&f which lightens the serious mood. You want to be playful, not serious. It is a GAME after all.

Composure is very important man.
You want to be approaching girls for fun, with the fact in mind that women play games and have outer personas.

Go back and try again. In this situation you acted the wrong way, accept it so you can move on right away.
There's no point in waiting when you could just move on and continue where you left off.
Don't let one really bad approach ruin all of the good approaches you have yet to make.
Terrible. You'll come off as the biggest creep alive. If you did what he told you to, you would come off as a legitimate rapist. She would actually run away from you.
 

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I think ****y and Funny is the worst technique for DJs. Very few (myself included for a few years) really get the concept and just come off bad.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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