"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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FR: San Francisco Sway 7/13/07

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So last night i went to this club in SF called CoCo or something with my sister and cousins. Small club. When we first got in at around 10:30pm it was basically empty...i later spot this set of 4 sitting at the table. My sister and cousins are dancing by themselves on the near empty floor (Which looked more like a elementary school gym with a disco light) I sat down by the four set and almost immediatly shoot the sh!t with the girl next to me HB8. We are looking at the dancefloor and my sister and cousins are like the only ones on there, so i tell her i feel weird dancing with them for 2 reasons: 1) Theyre my sister and cousins and 2) I dont dance, well...i do...but its not too pretty... (stole it one from TD but its true in my case also)

She seemed very receptive, then her friend across from her HB7 asked the girl next to me to accompany her to the restroom (i assume she wants to tell her to stay away from me maybe?) so then when they get back i talk to HB7 and say...

Ken: Hey can i ask you a question? How come is it that everytime girls go to the restroom, they always go together??

HB7: (laughs)....i dont know....

Ken: I mean is it some kinda club you guys got going on in there or something???

HB7: (laughs)....

Then i go back to chat with HB8 before i go outside for a cigarette...

I see them on the dancefloor after so im just kickin back chillen for a lil bit...then later i join the group i ask HB7 if i can dance with her group because i feel weird dancing with my cousins....she said sure! So now im dancing and they dont seem to be too receptive towards it, they seemed to dance more with each other and kinda ignoring me. So i move away and see them walking outside, so i go out to join them and try to build raport with the group. They just said where they were from with me asking the questions (not good) i felt like they were just answering my questions and that was it, they didnt really try to add too much more to the convo.

So then they get back inside and HB8 promises me a dance later...i see them on the floor and try to dance with them but HB8 sways away from me, its like she was moving away everytime i got close...but its the way she did it that was kinda cool i thought...lol....she did it so smoothly just dancing away kinda with a elegance, all twisting and turning between her friends...haha.

So later they all go to the restroom together again and then i see HB8 and then i said...

Ken: ok can i have that dance now?

Hb8: (smiles) later...im tired...

Well that was basically a lie, cuz her friend motioned her to the floor and she went out there to dance...so then i just walk by her saying...

Ken: Ohh...youre such a lair!

So then im thinking fvck it...and i just go and dance with some other chick....then we left. oh well...maybe luck next time...SARGE ON!! - Ken
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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damn nobody wants to read this...i guess it wasnt an interesting night like that dude that paid for a prostitute to lose his virginity at a club.... :rolleyes:
 

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we need more field reorts

first of all, you spent too much time. Fvck and duck man. I have enough experience to know after the first 2 mintues if she is feeling me or not. she wasn't really feeling you but was too nice to tell you no.. one of thoose "I hope he takes the hint" kinda girls.

I mean there were some things I would have done differently, but you didn't do BAD..s he jus wasn't into you.. it happens
 

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someone said it before...MAKE THE HO SAY NO.

I apply pressure when I approach. you are going to have to shoot me down. I get to the point. Now of course I can be more tactful than saying "***** get on your knees" but she knows what I want andI can quickly sniff out if she wants the same or is attracted to me.

that and your approach wasn't very confident at all. but these are the things that come with experience. more importantly you are out there, sarging.
 

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hb8 seemed pretty interested and receptive...that was until her friend hb7 asked her to accompany her to the bath room (c0ckblock) probably to tell her to stay away from me, because when she got back out she was totally different. Why do the ugly ones always c0ckblock their goodlooking friends? i dont know...maybe cuz theyre jealous they cant get no attention so they dont want their friends to have it neither.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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you messed up becuase you went about the approach wrong. but that will come in due time

you NEVER go directly after the target if she has friends. you show everyone else attention but her


you have to disarm her friends, esically the fat ugly ones before you have any chance at her. think of it like playing..... Metal Gear Solid. The only way you can kill Phycomantis is if you get rid of the damn mask. the fat hag i the mask.

make her feel like she is your best friend.

Fat ****blocks account for 80% of all the unsuccessful hookups in america. it's a shame
 

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the only reason why i talked to her first is because she was right next to me....i did talk to the whole group and hb7 that c0ckblocked me...but she was still hatin.
 

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no you don't understand.

fat ugly ****blocks.. you will end up spending 3 times more time talking to her than your REAL target. not a hi how are you doing age your big mac eating ass out my face... I mean you really have to break these fat *****es down. You have to get her to the point where she is your alley. to the point where she drags her int he bathroom and says "oh, I like him.. meaning she likes YOU".. and then when she comes out the HB will take it from there.. she isn't going to allow her FAt ass friend to steal a good looking guy from her.
 

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ughh...the hb7 wasnt fat....kinda cute but not as much as the hb8 hb7 barly made it...more like hb6.99
 

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you are missing the forest between the trees.

it doesn't matter if she's fat or skinny.

she's a ***** who isn't getting attention. that's the point.

the trick when dealing with groups is to 1) get the other girls thinking you are actually interested in them and 2) get the one you actually want (persumablly the hottest one) thinking what does he see in these skanks (yes her firends) that I don't have. I'm HOT.

that's why the group pull is the hardest of all. it requires complex thinking. I mean don't be an ******* ot the girl you want but don't show her any attention. then when right when the one you want starts to get pissy, you slowly reel her in.. and then the entire group won't know what hit em. you were just talking to the HB7 and left with the HB9
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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