"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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FR: Salsa dancing

Vanilla

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I've finally been making progress with my new steps. After the party held at the dance studio, it was still an early night. I went home to get a quick shower, then called up my buddies to see what they're doing. They were at the local salsa club and I decided to join.

I entered with a huge amount of confidence. Although I couldn't salsa dance well, that didn't stop me from asking the ladies to dance with me. Literally within 5 seconds when I went in, I asked a lady to dance. Over the entire night, I probably danced with about 10 ladies. I don't feel intimidated by beauty, and the guys just watched me as I kept asking women to dance. They eventually left without dancing once and one guy missed every obvious signal the girl was throwing on him. It was pathetic!!

My question I gotta ask you all, how do you escalate from dancing to making out? Salsa is fast and loud. Once the dance is over I thank them and occasionally hug them. I see other guys getting it on near me and I feel like I'm missing something important.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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King Turi

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Your missing the sexiness part of salsa, I guess.

Just kiss her >_>
 

Vanilla

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I'm still learning salsa, I figure having the balls to go and ask the lady to dance would be enough to get her interested.

Any other tips that I can use for tonight?
 

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It is important to note that there are many variations though of salsa dances. Those are usually physical in nature so you will find that of interest when you go to a new area and see people engaging in salsa dancing. Keep in mind though that there is plenty of freedom with this type of dance so you don't have to feel out of place if you have moves that are different than those you see around you.
 

pua1989

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asking girls to dance aint shít. the girls go there so guys can ask them to dance salsa. its not a mainstream club and the atmosphere isnt for women who get off on denying guys.

to OP, i would find it hard to make out with a girl during the dance. you are constantly moving. i guess you gotta blow her away on the dance floor, and then say, "hey lets go get some drinks" and then all you from there....

salsa is a great dance. i have been getting very good at salsa, and the tango. both are fantastic (and FUN) dances and i recommend them to everyone on here.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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James Martin

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Wow!

Thank you everyone for sharing the useful information on salsa dancing.

The most important technique in salsa dancing aside from the foot, hip and body swings and turns, is the ability of the body to dance to the music and improvise gracefully. Salsa is not about the steps borrowed from rumba, or anywhere else, what is critical is how to make a free flowing movement around an Afro-Latin-beat music. And the more eccentric and improvised it is, the more beautiful it gets. So don't forget to improvise and patent your own moves.
 
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