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The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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FR++: RPG and Martini Dyck

AlwaysExcel

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This report goes out to JT47319 for putting my mind on RPGs and increasing my understanding of their use.

Last Saturday night, I gave a new friend a ride to a rave in my dirty piece of shyty pick-up truck. (Vague pun not intended but appropriate) This HBHispanic7.5 was letting him crash at her apt. She decided to come with us. She was pretty cute and I took note that she just broke it off with some dude she’d been "seeing" for a couple weeks. I didn’t pay her much attention at the party though because I was socializing with others and it was loud as hell. Every once in awhile I would say something briefly to her and give her kino. I had no real game in mind, just chillin. At one point she felt sick and needed to go lie down in the truck. I just naturally said, “awww” and fully embraced her for a minute. I could tell she liked being held in my arms.

We all chatted on the way back. I used very little ****y and more Funny, because being funny is now fully a part of me. I get more ****y when I’m flirting and I wasn’t flirting much. I did give her a good girl/bad girl mini-cold read. (Mother Teresa by day, Pimpstress by night.) She loved it!

My friend fell asleep and I got to know her a little more. Developed some rapport. Again, I wasn’t intentionally gaming her but more just socializing on the hour drive home. I also chatted up the toll booth girl with this funny off-the-cuff routine about her marching around the toll booth with a sign in protest for having to work all night long. My friend and HB thought it was hilarious.

When I dropped them off, I gave them both a card with contact info on it to reach me online and get involved in my art scene. I didn’t ask for her number because I knew I’d see them again. However, HBhispanic gave me her number anyway. At that point, I realized that the sex was there, all I needed to do was facilitate it. I was excited because I think Hispanic women are some of the hottest but this white boy had not had that particular pleasure yet.

One of the things we had talked about on the way home was martinis and how I always feel pretentious when I drink one. So I called her on Monday night to have a '"pretentious martini" with me on Thursday night. I also casually checked to see when my friend was leaving. HB e-mailed me a couple times too. She mentioned that he had left and how weird it was to have her apt to herself for the first time in weeks. (You don’t say!)

I set the meet up as a Role Playing Game where we dressed up, created uppity personas, and acted snooty. She thought the idea sounded like a lot of fun. (Damn straight!) I was really looking forward to playing with this game almost as much as fvcking her.

Going into the date, I kept things simple for myself. The only two game related things I really focused on were field testing/playing with this RPG and always escalating. No worrying about shyt tests, being a mysterious challenge, phase shifting, buckets of rapport and attraction, etc. etc. Otherwise, I just wanted to have fun and enjoy her company.

During the date, I gave us each funny celebrity names. I was a billionaire playboy who raises exotic wombats and she was my glamorous lover. I called her “lovaaah” and “dah-ling” throughout the night. Inspired by JT’s use of a future projection RPG to overcome ASD in his LR about HBblondbigttities (GOD that’s a lot of acronyms!!), I did the reverse. I framed our relationship as being lovers for about 3 years. I also referred to the jankety Cavalier I was driving as “The Beamer” (Your car doesn’t matter. It’s all in how you frame it) and her apt. as “The Penthouse.” I told the bartender that “we SO own this bar.”

I had wanted to keep this frame going strong during the date. But she was more interested in getting rapport with me so I flowed with that. I was a little disappointed and had a negative thought that she was dominating the frame. But I decided to chill because the RPG is really just a tool to a) keep things fun and spicy, b) fall back on when the convo ebbed, c) get her used to the idea of us as lovers, and d) overcome ASD. It was GOOD that she wanted rapport with me. As long as I maintain a sexual vibe, developing rapport takes things in the right direction. Comments?

So I talked to her for hours but I steadily closed the space between our bodies and increased kino throughout the night. Even though escalating was one of my goals, I wasn’t calculating this stuff much while I did it. It flowed naturally.

I did revive the RPG throughout the night and this probably came off more natural than how I planned it. I brought a camera and used it as a fun prop. I had the bartender take a pic of us in a pretentious pose with our drinks (“Damn paparazzi! They’re everywhere!”). I also had her kiss me on the cheek and took a pic of that (“something juicy for the tabloids”). I intended to use this as a kiss bridge but when I told her that my lips wanted attention too, she got shy and looked away.

So I improvised and used another bit of the RPG. When we were playing pool in a more secluded area of the bar, I told her that our relationship wasn’t always this smooth. I went away to Bermuda for awhile. When I came back, she was in the midst of a fashion show and told me she needed her space. I was hurt. However, when she stumbled upon me kissing her evil step sister, Ursula, she realized how much she really did need me. She confronted me, we resolved the issue, and made passionate love all night long.

As I told this soap opera story, I walked over to her, laughing, and embraced her. She giggled and buried her head in my chest. I took her by the chin, tilted her face up, and kissed her. She was all over me after this!

She was wearing a skirt so I slipped a finger into her and felt how very wet she was. Nice. I tried to extract but she decided she needed another drink (to excuse the focking she was about to get). We sat at the bar and talked some more. She grabbed me and kissed me fiercely during this period.

It was funny because the bar was a ****farm and everyone was looking at us making out. The dudes all hit on her when she went out to smoke. Even the bartender asked where my woman was. She made a point to tell me about the attention she got too. LOL! (This may have something to do with me C&Fing up the only two good looking girls in the bar when she went to the bathroom. Heheh!)
 
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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Finally we get back to her apt or should I say “The Penthouse.” hehe! But her gay neighbor appears just as we’re going inside. She starts blabbing on with him because he was moving out. He invites us in for drinks. Grrrr. I’m just flowing with it though. I know that if I can isolate her in her apt, it’s on. She ends up going back to her apt for a minute to get something. I think, “oh hell no! I’m not just going to sit here with gay boy!”

I go into her apt, grab her and start making out. Then I pick her up bride style and carry her to this air mattress that my friend slept on when he was staying there. She protested that we were ditching gay boy but I told her that he was fine and was prolly in bed now. (FORGET ABOUT him willya?! He isn’t judging you!)

We get naked. She asks me if I want to be inside of her. I do really bad but goddammit, my dyck stayed at half staff!!! I shouldn’t of had that 3rd martini and fourth drink at gay boy’s house. He ended up ****blocking me after all, damn him! lol! Alcohol impotence happened to me once before when I was much younger and but really drunk. I guess I need to calibrate myself as I get older or resume working out or something.

For an hour or so, I kept getting her off in other ways hoping that her moans would help my c0ck get with the program. No such luck. My dyck was passing out for the night. The frustrating part was that she just ignored my requests to suck it. Weirdly enough, she got so aroused, that she got on top of me and tried to put my semi-erect penis inside her with no condom! But in the end, she wouldn’t even jack me off!! She didn’t say anything but just ignored my request!! I think she took my predicament as an ASD opportunity. If she actively helped the sex happen, then it would be her fault. I even mistakenly encouraged this thinking by telling her to “make it happen.” bleh.

We cuddled for a bit afterward because I absolutely love the feel of a soft naked woman snuggled against my nude body. She started saying stuff like, “Wow, this was NOT supposed to go this far!”She even apologized for refusing to have sex with me. Whaaaaa? Weren’t you just trying to put my....nevermind. Talk about some disassociation!! I was like, “Aw shyt girl, if it wasn’t for the martinis you’d be getting focked doggy style right now!” LOL! I’m not sure if my comment will invite more ASD in the future but we’ll just have to see. She laughed and said, “oh really?” I referred back to the RPG. I said that we’d been lovers for years and we’d done it in almost every position already so she shouldn’t be surprised. She said something logical about the RPG being fantasy and made another ASD statement. Then I told her that when two extremely attractive people come together, it’s only natural that sex happens. It’s nobody’s fault really. Probably shouldn’t have gotten that logical but whatever. It’s all an experiment right? She e-mailed me today and AGAIN made an ASD comment. Sheesh. I have the feeling that this issue will be a challenge. I’m thinking I should ignore her statements until she starts REALLY refusing sex.

I’m pretty disappointed in my body, although it's kinda comical. Regardless, I’m really diggin this new level of understanding I feel I’ve broken into. The past 4 months really developed my inner game. As a result, my entire game has been transformed. I’m now getting this steady flow of creativity and comprehension. I’m not a master yet by far. This was a social circle situation and SHE number closed ME. I still have a long way to go, especially in the area of cold approaches. But this stuff is a lot more enjoyable with the right inner game frame...and some successes of course. ;) I'm definitely going to use RPGs more in the future because this one was a lot of fun.
 

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nice one man. that role playing was spot on...pretending you're already lovers is so simple yet effective

fvkcing alcohol impotence...same thing happened to me a wee while ago. i played this girl perfectly, textbook stuff, then get to the bedroom and can only get a semi - she was even sucking me but still nothing...so i'm laying off the alcohol - 4beers max in a night
 

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All shyt man, this is good stuff! Definitely good stuff and I'm glad that I helped, however little, your Game.

Anyways, I always limit myself to about three drinks. Something to get me buzzed, but never wasted.

And damnit man, BE SAFE!

Peace, my nizzle.

LOL, I remember some "DJ/AFCs" negging my use of "role-playing." As if I don't know my shyt. I have to admit though, you definitely took it to another level than I normally do ;-)
 

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She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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