"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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FR: Results come from where you least expect it

Hughman

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Well, this FR is about what the thread title is, surprisingly enough!

So last night i went to the pub with my best mate (let's call him James) who has just come out of a 14 month LTR (he finished it, the girl was really clingy and had some social issues) and another friend, called Vinnie. Sat around for a few hours, drinking our pints and suping our whiskeys. Both of them are good Catholic lads (this is important later!)

As we were getting ready to move on, an old friend of Vinnie's came to the bar. He invites us upstairs for another round. We oblige and move upstairs. Sitting at the table are about 10 people, all from the local Catholic school, 8 guys, 1 fug and 1 HB8.

Now, a few months ago, I would have been a wall flower, and stuck to my friends. Now I was happy to greet and shake everyone's hands and talk to just about everyone.

Now over the course of the evening I was chatting to the HB8. Real nice personality, diverse interests, slightly wacky/goofy (in a good way - she's converted from Catholicism to Buddhism). She would occasionally move around, so would I. Bless my mate James, he realized he should be my wing, so he chatted with me for a bit (social proof) and then moved to allow me to reinitiate the convo with her (he's just a natural). Again, a few months ago I would have been self-obsessed and spewed my guts to this girl. Now the comvo was about her, kept deflecting her questions and kept up the kino, eye contact and jokes.

As I'm getting ready to leave, she pulls out her mobile but does nothing with it! (i wonder what she was planning on doing! :p) I number close. One of her male friends (i think he was an ex, not too sure) asks why she's giving a number out to a stranger. She starts to get the willies, but I joke and say 'Yeah, I wouldn't trust my kids with her (grin)'. She laughs: 'Oi! We're friends, we both love to read!' Again the hot shot ****blocker says 'Wow, you can read!' I joke again 'Yeah, got round to it last year, it's real good. You should try it some day.' Laughter at his expense.

I walk off, hand shake new male acquittance, buddy shake/backslap my mates, get a real tight hug off the ug then a hug off the HB (she also asked me to text her so she could get my number, i tried to deflect but she insisted - not sure on that one...but I obliged)

Let's see where this goes!

Moral of the story: Don't go out looking for it, don't expect anything, ensure social proof, initiate kino where every other pvssy wouldn't, joke and spread your attention round.

EDIT: I also got some gold info about her. Managed to get a rough idea of her morals, her social habits and the fact she is a real visual person (wants to direct/produce films, but also told me that her self! score!)
 
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Fair play :)
 

Hughman

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I also avoided the subject of my age, which is always nice. I presume she thinks I'm 18.

My best mate got in touch with me today and lambasted me for getting the number and appearing too keen - we had had an hour discussion about the 'Game' at the pub, essentially covering everything in another thread of mine, again. (ie, I see no harm in getting numbers, British people are reserved/conservative and getting a number shows you want to start something, yadda yadda), so he was insulted I think that I didn't take his 'advise'. Then again, he can't talk, his 14 month LTR came from a 1 week residential course.

I found the girl on FB. Also found some of the guys i met. Adding the guys first, then i might add the girl in a day or two, and have a snoop, confirm lack of bf. In some ways I want her to have a bf (because if she does she's either very friendly or wants to get rid of him, win-win for me as I appear far more innocent in my actions)
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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