"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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FR: random fvcking night out

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So a couple days ago I get invited to a bar for a bday celebration by my cousin. I went since I had nothing better to do (though wasn't impressed that ppl showed up 30 mins after me, but not a big deal since I ran into ppl I know. Anyway, my cousin introduces me to one of her friends. She's a cute girl, nice body, a 7. She asks me a few question then tells me she's going to find her friends and will be back. I go off and hung out with the ppl I ran into. Ran into the girl again after that, we're talking, little bit of kino from both of us. I take her hand and tell her to follow me. Lead her to the dancefloor. Music sucked for dancing but whatever. We start grinding. I have my hands on her hips and she moves them to her ass. She turns around to face me, and kisses my cheek. I go for the lips and make out insues. We then move around the bar talking to ppl and making out. I get her number at one point because I knew my battery won't last (and she tells me I have permission to text her, like that wasn't obvious). We make out a bit more and I need to go. She keeps telling me to text her and I say "sure". Oh, and apparently her friend told a couple guys that this girl wants to fvck me which they relayed to me (like it wasn't obvious). All in all not a bad night (other than I spent twice as much money as I planned).

Anyway, I thinking of contacting her in the next couple of days and try and get her out for drinks this week. The only issue I have is I'll have to try and get her back to her place since I'm just crashing at a friends (on the couch) til I move into my new place.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Got a quick question guys. Would it be better to contact her sooner rather than later? I was thinking of calling her mon and asking her out for mid week. But maybe that's too short notice and should contact her tomorrow (I think contacting her today would seem too eager).
 

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She's a bar slvt. Why didnt you called her last night. Call her up asks what she's doing and come up with a way to go to her place. Forget taking her out. You shouldn't be spending one cent on this hoe. Call her now and see what she's doing if she's busy now ask her to see you tonight. If she declines without a counter offer. Forget her for now.
 

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I met her last night. And she's a bar slvt because I was introduced to her at a bar? I didn't randomly approach her, this is more of a social circle thing.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Don't always follow the rules. The rules are guidelines, it's up to you what you're gonna do.
 

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And she's a bar slvt because I was introduced to her at a bar?
Her behavior indicates she is a bar slut. She was very forward, practically leading the physical interactions. Placing your hand on her @ss for example. Do you think that's ladylike behavior?
It's possible she just really, really likes you, but I'd say it's more probable she's been up and down the road a few times.
Most likely suitable for FB status only. But hey, YMMV.
 

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if shes telling her friends she wants to **** you then yea shes a ho. just call her, set something up and bring back to your/her place. just realized you met her a couple days ago, enough time has already gone by call her asap before she forgets you.
 

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I gave her a call today when I was bored. We're meeting up for drinks later this week. I'm pretty sure I got this.
 
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