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Situation:
So, it's my friend's birthday Tuesday, I like her a lot. So I phoned her up and started talking to her. Firstly, I was a retard and forgot her birthdate..so I started to point out that my other friend had a birthday Friday, and she tipped me that her's is Tuesday (sweet, go retarded discreteness).
Nextly, I asked if I could spend some time with her and her family (take note that I am very much welcomed by her parents), she gave the excuses of:
1. I have homework (in antipication of)
2. Birthday, family thing.
3. Just busy.
So we talked about something else after the intial refusal, came back to the topic again. I related to how her homework compares with me working every morning and every weekend, still keeping on top of my homework and chores. Additionally, she asked about the two Fridays coming up for us to hang out, I can't (Working both of them, go me!) . I had the offer of NEXT monday, ahah, no, I was fighting for this. Went off topic again and came back once more (3rd time).
(take a break):woo: :woo:
So, I've heard her reasons for not letting me come over, she then gave me a spot question, why do you want to come over on Tuesday, given my reasons?
1. It's your birthday, special to you and I want to be there.
2. I want to see you. (it's been a week, and that was a 5 minute blip on the radar)
3. (Off top of head, crappy excuse) , I'll help setup the computer (they are working on getting their new computer up)
So, I've equalled her reasons (3), I've surpassed her level of busyness and yet I still want to see her, and YET she says no. So knowing my stance in her parent's eyes...
"Ask your mom then."
-- "She's not home."
"Your dad then."
-- "He's busy with the computer."
"Just go ask him."
-- "Fine, I'll go ask."
5 minutes later...
-- "How about staying for dinner?"
"I would love too, but before I go (had to go soon) , one more question."
-- "You're leaving?"
"Gotta go home (wasn't home)"
-- "Ok"
"Do you WANT me to be there?"
-- "It's not that I don't want you here, it's just that we're were all busy"
"Well, look what asking can do, see you Tuesday night"
-- "See ya"
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(take another break, drink a beer) :woo: :woo:
My GOD, review time on this 20 minute phone call.
Homework - I dealt with the same level of homework, and if I had time to do things (lots...), then she'll have no problem, BS reason.
Family Thing (Birthday) - Understandable in a way, but still, when the closest guy to you wants to spend time with you and the family...
Busy - Bullllsh!t, I'm more busy.
So, with a little bit of persistance and knowing how to handle it, I have gone from nearly giving up the fight to spend Tuesday with her to having dinner (and the evening) with her and her family.
(Almost done! Pass Go!, Collect $200)
Plans:
Get small gift AND DO NOT SEE HER until Tuesday night. It's already been a week since I've seen her last and the sudden cracking of her defensive wall makes it apporiate for me to appear when expected, not before. (builds antipication.) If all goes well, it makes my relationship with her go a few steps forward, since I knocked down the defensive wall, she (should) have a good time and I took control
. This will all lead to more hanging out .
Lesson:
Coldness doesn't mean screwed. Keep trying, push every button you can get away with and...take advantage of authority (parents).
w00t :woo: :woo:
Me = happy.
Finale. ^^
So, it's my friend's birthday Tuesday, I like her a lot. So I phoned her up and started talking to her. Firstly, I was a retard and forgot her birthdate..so I started to point out that my other friend had a birthday Friday, and she tipped me that her's is Tuesday (sweet, go retarded discreteness).
Nextly, I asked if I could spend some time with her and her family (take note that I am very much welcomed by her parents), she gave the excuses of:
1. I have homework (in antipication of)
2. Birthday, family thing.
3. Just busy.
So we talked about something else after the intial refusal, came back to the topic again. I related to how her homework compares with me working every morning and every weekend, still keeping on top of my homework and chores. Additionally, she asked about the two Fridays coming up for us to hang out, I can't (Working both of them, go me!) . I had the offer of NEXT monday, ahah, no, I was fighting for this. Went off topic again and came back once more (3rd time).
(take a break):woo: :woo:
So, I've heard her reasons for not letting me come over, she then gave me a spot question, why do you want to come over on Tuesday, given my reasons?
1. It's your birthday, special to you and I want to be there.
2. I want to see you. (it's been a week, and that was a 5 minute blip on the radar)
3. (Off top of head, crappy excuse) , I'll help setup the computer (they are working on getting their new computer up)
So, I've equalled her reasons (3), I've surpassed her level of busyness and yet I still want to see her, and YET she says no. So knowing my stance in her parent's eyes...
"Ask your mom then."
-- "She's not home."
"Your dad then."
-- "He's busy with the computer."
"Just go ask him."
-- "Fine, I'll go ask."
5 minutes later...
-- "How about staying for dinner?"
"I would love too, but before I go (had to go soon) , one more question."
-- "You're leaving?"
"Gotta go home (wasn't home)"
-- "Ok"
"Do you WANT me to be there?"
-- "It's not that I don't want you here, it's just that we're were all busy"
"Well, look what asking can do, see you Tuesday night"
-- "See ya"
-----------------
(take another break, drink a beer) :woo: :woo:
My GOD, review time on this 20 minute phone call.
Homework - I dealt with the same level of homework, and if I had time to do things (lots...), then she'll have no problem, BS reason.
Family Thing (Birthday) - Understandable in a way, but still, when the closest guy to you wants to spend time with you and the family...
Busy - Bullllsh!t, I'm more busy.
So, with a little bit of persistance and knowing how to handle it, I have gone from nearly giving up the fight to spend Tuesday with her to having dinner (and the evening) with her and her family.
(Almost done! Pass Go!, Collect $200)
Plans:
Get small gift AND DO NOT SEE HER until Tuesday night. It's already been a week since I've seen her last and the sudden cracking of her defensive wall makes it apporiate for me to appear when expected, not before. (builds antipication.) If all goes well, it makes my relationship with her go a few steps forward, since I knocked down the defensive wall, she (should) have a good time and I took control
. This will all lead to more hanging out .Lesson:
Coldness doesn't mean screwed. Keep trying, push every button you can get away with and...take advantage of authority (parents).
w00t :woo: :woo:
Me = happy.
Finale. ^^
