"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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FR: Number Close (Success!)...need some advice

LostAndConfused

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Hey guys, this is a far cry from my usual threads, but there was this 3set of two HB6s and their guy-friend and me and two friends approached. No really special opener...unfortunately I forgot most of what went down, but I ended up pulling the number of the hottest one in the set. Next time I'll get a better FR...promise

So basically we approached and I made sure to make alot of C+F comments, but my main focus was on disarming the girl's friend and that guyfriend of theirs, because they would easily be sure to c0ckblock me. Anyways, my target takes my phone and puts her number in it. I texted her to see if it was a legit number and she responded, so I guess this is a success!

Anyways, I haven't formally asked her out on a date, but I will today. I'm thinking about movie, and yes, I know it's definitely not the best place to take her out, but its a pretty conservative choice.

Should I focus on kiss closing?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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ezily

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yeah man I would go for a kiss at least. You can gauge her response to see how much she's into you. Good job.
 

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Right, read this post very, very carefully. Then read it again.

One of the biggest mistakes guys make, and which I make every single time despite knowing otherwise, is thinking that the pick-up is done and dusted or that you've achieved something worthwhile by getting a number or facebook close.

The reality is that in the moment, if the girl likes you, whether it be sexually, platonically or somewhere in between, her emotions are positive enough so that she'll dish out the number. Girls do this pretty often, that's essentially why their social circles are so large and why they know so many people. So by getting the number DO NOT THINK that she definitely wants to meet you.

Usually girls flake when you get their number unless they are REALLY into you and your game is tight so they meet up, otherwise even if they're into you then can talk themselves out of it. From this point you need to play the game. You need to text her, build comfort, talk to her on the phone, show value and trust, then eventually ask her to meet up for something very simple.

DO NOT, I REPEAT, DO NOT ask a girl out on a date straight away in a text. You can try it if you like, but it just doesn't work. I have a phonebook full of sexy 18-22 year old girls that either flaked, or I met up with and it didn't go well. Use routines if it does the job even.

Good luck.

MM
 
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OH yeah and don't neglect what Mad just said. I only said to go for a kiss if she actually goes out with you. It's doesn't really matter where you go but I would try and make it something where you guys can have fun. Movie might be a little boring. Try and just meet up for coffee or something and have a movie planned in your head and find out if she's up for it. Also, don't call too soon. That'll ruin it.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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SinJester

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Wow I don't believe it, I seen the title of the thread and then that it was by you and I thought I was mistaken :p

Nice work!
 
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