"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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FR: neg'ing

MacAvoy

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Well I've always thought neg'ing is the one area that I really need to improve on considering my g/f is super high maintenance. I realized this weekend how HM she really is. I've known all along it takes 2 hours for her to get ready (shower, makeup, hair) in the morning. I was quite shocked :crazy: though when I found out she uses like $15 shampoo, $15 conditioner and $30 bottle wash.

She truly has been spoiled as the only child, private school and all. I told her to do my dishes since she was ready before me and she was like "I have to do work at home, its not happy land you know.

Back to the topic though. I didn't realize till yesterday how much of a neg'er I already am. She was upset that I called her toes "funny" looking the other day, she brought it up again. All in a good way though.

Another example, not so much neg'ing but more C&F. She kept prying about my ex who I have a kid with. I did most of the child rearing when my daughter was born, (aka middle of the night feedings, staying with her overnight in hospital when only a few weeks old).

HER: So what did ex do all day long?
ME: Suck c0ck.

She never knows what to expect me from. I hate her prodding so I either don't answer her, or I avoid her ? by using C&F. I think I've gotten down to the point where most of the time I am not thinking about it but it comes naturally to me.

The thing I noticed though is that I seem to go from one extreme to the other. I'm either the C&F jerk type or all lovey dovey. There isn't too much in between. She knows I love her to death but she also sees me as this arrogant, funny prize. I hate going shopping with her but we have been doing alot of it for my new place, so I make sure I act like a bit of an AS5 when we are out. She is almost embarrassed but gives me those little hits telling me that she is really enjoying it over all. I've also managed to work in some stupid fun time which we lacked before when we were LD.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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driver55

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Nice

It never ceases to amaze me how powerful neg'ing can be. Nice work.
 
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