"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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FR: Nearly layed a girl I met in the mall

vorbis

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Haven't posted a FR in a while and this one was interesting. The chick in question went home on July 3rd so time worked against me.

Initial meeting happened while I was sarging with a wing at a local mall. She was 24, had an ok face but a savage body overall about a HB7.5. I noticed she was eating ice cream and just opened her asking whether the ice cream was any good. Got a bit of chat about ice cream and the convo started to fade a little.

My wing inadvertently opened up the entire convo when he asked where she was from. She was irish, same as myself! This made it very easy to generate rapport, what do you do here in Boston, how you finidng, what you miss from home blah blah Interestingly, meeting someone irish during day game has more impact value for me than say meeting irish chicks in a bar.

Her two friends then came back over to join us, they were very cute both HB8s. Whilst they were hotter, they were 20 and 21 and just had the look of being all drama, I was by now having a decent convo with my target so I left my win sarge those two. He does well and invites the 3 of them to a dance cruise that he promotes for the following night. I tell my target that I might be there.

They actually turned up at the cruise! I fluff talked some more with my target on it and made plans to go to the cinema for the following Tuesday. She was very affectionate at the cinema, kept stroking my arm, then my legs. We made out during the movie.

I then met her last Saturday to hang out. Initially she was cold towards me as she felt things were moving too fast. Thanks to advice here, i didn't offer an opinion and just continued chatting. We went to get some ice cream and then for some drinks. I should add that she paid her fair share. I took her home that night and I'm thinking its ON. She pulled out the "Nothing is going to happen" line and i'm thinking textbook.

Nothing however did happen that night, even trying to feel her breasts on my couch made the mood really uncomfortable and she was going on about how she shouldn't have come back. She told me that since her last bf a year and a half ago, she had only kissed one guy! She sounded genuine and she had also intimated that she had been fairly wild before she met him. We ended up sleeping in the same bed but kissing was all that happened.

We went to the beach the following day and had a great time. She even bought me dinner that evening. She was reticent about coming back to mine as she felt this time something might happen ;) She accused me of emotional blackmail after I said I would be insulted if she didn't feel safe coming back to mine. She ended up coming back. Unfortunately, it was now 1:00AM and I was wrecked, no joke, I fell asleep within minutes of getting into bed :cry:

When I woke up in the morning, I tried to get some action, I fingered her for a very short while before she turned away. She ended up just lying on her stomach so I left her be. I drove her to the subway station and she got her flight later that day. I felt that Sunday evening was my best chance, I should have extracted from the bar earlier.

Thinking afterwards, should I act more forceful if in a similar situation again. I mean shes lying on her stomach in her panties. Should I just start fingering, if she allows that take off her panties and well keep escalating. I mean I made every decision during the daytime, should I continue that at night time? Its a real pity she had to go home. Hot chicks who pay their own away, are affectionate and can hold a convo are in short supply.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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just to add this was the first time I brought up family info (nasty dad, various weird stories about my family) with a girl. It went down very well and helped establish a connection as she reciprocated with family stories of her own. Before I wouldn't have had enough confidence to bring up such private info.

Bizarrely I told her stuff that I haven't told my closest friends. I'm taking it as a positive sign. Some of the most confident people I know are also the most open about their lives.
 

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And this all started with "hows the ice cream?". You did good, dont get hung up over it. Are you ever going to see her again?
 

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Vorbis - im from boston too!!!! i only got TWO sargin buddies, wanna be #3? lol (im serious)
 

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It's her panties that should get wet just in your presence, not the other way round. Think about it, she crashed your place, and didn't give you any? You send her to fvck herself.

Have you heard about the "freeze out" I think it's by mistery.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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You obviously didn't finger the girl properly, if you had found the G Spot with your fingers, you would have scored a fu-ck for yourself.

If you can get your fingers inside of the girls vagina then you should never not get to fu-ck that particular girl. :crackup:
 

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Koala, you might have a point but some women do have stronger self control than others. It sounds to me like she made up her mind pretty early that she wasn't going to sleep with you. Girls tend to throw bl0wjobs and fingering into the 'nothing happened' catagory because they don't have to increment their magic number.

vorbis... You probably could have banged her out if you played it exactly right, but that would have taken a lot of emotional reassurance, and you would have had to send her head spinning which would have probably been more work for you than it was worth. Being more "forceful" would have done more harm than good, seeing as you made the move and she had the chance to reciprocate but chose not to. The problem was with her emotions, not your lack of physical persistance.
 

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Its something i need to work on. I've had a similar situation happen with escalation a few times. I still find it tough talking in emotional terms but its getting better. With this chick, I told her that I was glad she came to the states as I wouldn't have met her otherwise. She just turned around and went straight in for a kiss while on the street.

Its def the most natural I've been with a chick, I did stuff I wanted to do, i.e. played pool, selected the film we watched, which bars to go to, even the beach was my suggestion. Time just seemed to be against me in terms of f closing.

She did call me a genuinely nice guy. I'm taking it as a good compliment and not meant in terms of "nice guy". She also said jokingly at times "why are you so mean to me?". I used to slap her ass every time she said something negative.

So any tips for emtional reassurance talk, I probably do some of it without realising but knowing what it is would help.

Oh Skip sure I'd be up for sarging. Theres also a lair here in Boston, you should join!
 
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