"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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FR: Museum Date

izza

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You know, if things keep panning out this way (not making any promises), I maybe be able to move most of my attention away from getting dates to moving on my dates. I've been able to report a good amount of field action the past few weeks (but still no kiss).

Today I went to a museum with a German girl. Cute: blonde hair, blue eyes, kinda thick glasses. I should tease (CF sounds so much more manly, doesn't it) her about them. Met her Friday night. Texted her saturday to ask her out Monday. A bit faster than my usual 3 days, but that advice has just not been working in France. Whatever, she's interested so it's all good. I enjoy joking around with this girl.

I'm not yet back in my old form - I used to be hilarious, now I'm just a big moper heh - but I'm getting there. So we walked around, looking at art. She does art so it was sometimes interesting to get her opinion on how such and such piece of art was made and so forth. Most of the time I was surprisingly alone in trying to understand the art around me. I liked the pictures of her paintings on her phone though.

During the visit, her phone rang like three times. And she stopped to talk to her friends and her mom for a while. And she was continuing that conversation too. So rude. That really bugged me, and I should have said something. Some people post advice on here saying you should drop a girl right away who does that. They're right. She didn't even apologize! But ah well, we'll see what happens. Experience is the best teacher. I don't have that much more time here, I'll just make fun of her next time.

So let's see, she had to meet her friend, we had fun. I teased her a lot. She asked me a million questions about myself. I HATE answering these stupid questions about myself. Where are you from? What do you do? What schools did you go to? People want to know these things so they can put you in their nice little boxes and believe you categorized. I should really stop answering them directly. What a waste of time, and I get so mad at myself every time I'm stupid enough to answer.

She doesn't have anything interesting to ask?

She's leaving town soon then coming back a few days before I leave town again. That will be our last chance. Time for another rather rushed attempt to kick it with some chick before she leaves town.

More tomorrow.

Izza
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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izza

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What are your thoughts on the phone thing? I definitely should have said something though...
 

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The phone thing has never happened to me. If it does, I'll stand next to her, whip out my own phone and keep calling her over and over. "Yo, I got things to say, too."
 
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