"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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FR: Movie Theatre Approaches

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Well guys, I made some last minute plans to go with my whole class to see Harry Potter at midnight. It was a blast before the movie as some of my old high school friends, now in college sat behind me. My friends and a bunch of girls sat in front of me. So I see some girls walking out of the theatre to go get some beverages and I take a risk for once and go approach them.

Me: Hey, you ready to see the greatest movie ever! (Eyes open widewith a grin)
HB: Haha, yeah. I hope it turns out well.
Me: My name is Mike. Yours?
HB: Jenny.
Me: Hey Jenny. I just wanted to tell you that you have pretty eyes.
HB: (Giggles). Thanks for the compliment.
Me: Well, there is a seat open next to me and I just wanted to tell you how lucky you can be to be sitting next to me. (With a ****y grin)
HB: (Laughs). Thanks for the offer, but I have a boyfriend.

Conclusion: I think that went well, and yes, I do believe she had a boyfriend that night, since a lot of girls had boyfriends, as it looked that night. No excuses, so I approached one more for the night before the movie started...

Me: Hey there. What's your name?
HB: Kate.
Me: Hey Kate. My name is Mike.
HB: Nice to meet you.
Me: So where you from?
HB: (Place Name)
Me: Yeah, I am from (movie theatre location city)
HB: Nice. So you excited for the movie?
Me: Kinda, I've only read the first 3 books a long time ago, but I've seen all four movies. How about you?
HB: I've actually read all five books and seen the first 4 movies.
Me: Haha, you should join the HP fan club. They need a cute girl as their leader. (With a wink). So there is an open seat next to me, how would you like to join a handsome fella?
HB: Thanks, I would but I am sitting with my mom and some of my friends.

Conclusion: 0 for 2, but I think it went pretty well. Got some laughs, and I think I did an excellent job for the night.

Any advice, criticism, things I did bad/good?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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haha so you did get the ticket at the last minute, gj gj :p
"he told me
he approached 2 girls
haha
rejected both times
i bet"

you probably know who that is but, I think you did awesome, just ran into a taken girl and some uninterested girl
"Thanks, I would but I am sitting with my mom and some of my friends."
shes probably just being nice here lol

you did good with the confidence though!
 

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Great stuff man! love your work.

Just more inspiration for me
 

Grand Wizzard Alamar

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Chicks Just Dig Me said:
Me: Hey Jenny. I just wanted to tell you that you have pretty eyes.
I liked this best, and you got a good reaction.

well done, too bad they were occupied :p
 

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Nice...You just need to persist more. She gives a bit of resistance and you're just ejecting. Also don't try to move like that. Instead overhype where you are trying to move, or better yet even saying "Hey your pretty cool, come I want to introduce you to my friends".
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Grand Wizzard Alamar

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Snow Plowman said:
or better yet even saying "Hey your pretty cool, come I want to introduce you to my friends".
aha! here's one to use to make her more comfortable sitting with you, because it shows lower interest than asking her to sit JUST with you, which seems like she's being singled out by one person, you.

thats a good way showing subtlety, because you'd think that she'd be more agreeable to meeting your friends and sitting with them rather than just sitting with you.

interesting! o_O
 
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So fellas, how did it looked like I did? I went back into the theatre and girl number 2 was sitting with her mom and some friends, so that was not a lie. I kinda feel bummed about getting rejected, but I am proud I did what I had to do. I don't approach much, don't keep a journal, cuz its not really something I am awful at. I like meeting new people, my college buddies who I went to high school with were egging me on. They are a great ego boost telling me "Mike why won't she want you. Your funny and ripped!" I laughed, with that moral boost I walked up and did what I had to do. I'll really take everyone's advice to keep it coming!!

P.S. How does El Stud get all the advice? :p
 

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you don't really need that much advice, you just gotta be more sexually interested than completely like C+F and negs.

and I'm talking about your gf not the strangers :p
 
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