"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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FR: Met an online girl (bad night)

actionjaxson

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so its around 10:00pm saturday night i've been home all day because i was supposed to go to a friends bbq but i didnt go because i went to the last two bbq's and i didnt really feel like going. so some girl i was talking to online, i stopped talking to her because i didnt really sense high interest from her. keep in mind that i only wanted to **** this girl and no dates or relationships.

so shes messages me on msn and tells me she wants to do something. i try to get her to let me come over so i can **** but she wants to go out. so she wanted to play pool and theres a place in her area so i decided ok i'll play some pool with her then take her back to her place and ****. but no it went completely wrong.

shes 21, has a kid and lives in the hood but whatever. i see her on the street and shes not fat like how she looked in the pictures so i was pleased. we go inside and get drinks but then she comes in with two of her hoodrat friends. so its me and 3 girls i never met before sitting in a tiny little bar with no one else in it. we dont even play pool, we just sit there, they were talking while im mostly just drinking my beers and being quiet. it felt real awkward for me. im already an inexperienced quiet guy and this put alot of pressure on me. i never been on a date or met up with a girl before.

after we finish drinking we go outside and chill infront the bar, and thats basically it. i left after taking a piss. i bought a pack of condoms for nothing.
i dont know whether to laugh or be mad at myself for screwing up.
do you guys have any advice for me?
thanks
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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r0cky

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I don't think it was your fault. Who knew she was going to bring her friends? Don't blame yourself just forget her and move on. I just hope you didn't have to buy everybody drinks.
What I would've done is just bounce after the first few minutes. Maybe without letting her know.
 

scottfall

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Instead of obsessing over the situation you should have had fun with it. You where at a bar, with 3 girls drinking. You where the reason you didnt have a good time, not these 3 girls. I like to think to myself "im already in this situation, how can i make the best of it?"
 
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