BPH
Master Don Juan
I was relaxing and unwinding in the middle of a game before bed when I lost internet. Now that it's back, I don't have enough time to fire up that game again, but I thought I'd detail this last weekend to see if anybody knows where I might've gone wrong, and if anybody cares to weigh in on Philadelphia.
Friday - Field Report
Originally wanted to go up to Philly, but it was a busy work day, and workout, and I had the friends I wanted to go with flake on me. It's been a little more than a month since I had my falling out with my ex upon finding she lied to me, so I no longer have her as a semi-regular source of sex, and now starts the pain in the ass of finding somewhere that I can meet women in this barren state before my dry spell gets too long...
Newark isn't an option right now because the college is on spring break. I considered West Chester, but it's usually more fun on a Saturday up there. So I decided I'd check a couple more places in Delaware.
I ignored Trolley because I never had a good time there. Started out at Cork & Barrel, lame. Went to Tyler's next, even more lame. Then visited Corner Cove because a friend of mine from my gym bartends there, even lamer.
I had a short talk with him and he shared my sentiment that it sucks out here in Delaware as a single guy and that he didn't really have any recommendations beyond the places I'd already visited and considered. I finish my drink and I'm just about to leave when these two hot older women walk in, clearly buzzed and in "party mode". My bartender buddy and I had the same idea, so I asked him which one he liked better because I thought both were hot. He told me the brunette, so I decided I'd go for the blonde.
Went over, introduced myself, and we all hit it off pretty well. They were both flirty but unfortunately for my buddy, the girl he wanted was married. Luckily for me, mine was single. Turns out she was 40 years old, and had children but they're all grown, once divorced, and makes really good money working as both a nurse and some sort of manager for Amtrak.
Both of them thought I was very attractive and couldn't believe I was a whole 10 years younger than them. My girl asked a couple of times why I'd want a 40-year-old woman rather than some younger girl. I told her I was picky (plus there weren't any attractive young girls there).
The night goes on, and eventually, the bar closes but the girls want to stay and hang out with me and the bartender. My girl is very touchy, we make out a few times, at one point I even ask her what she's doing later to which she replies "hopefully you". She lives nearby and I told her I could give them both a ride. I've been here before, and I'm feeling confident. But then something happens, and I'm not sure what...
My girl went to the bathroom, second time that night so I don't think it was "code" or anything. She ends up taking a while, so her friend goes to check on her. Some time passes and they both leave the bathroom and start walking to the door to leave like I wasn't there. My buddy looks over at me and says "I thought you were bangin her tonight?" to which I replied, "so did I".
With no reason to stay anymore, I decided to leave as well. While leaving, I catch them walking back and offer them a ride. They initially ignore me then both say no, so I leave.
My best guess is that my girl got too drunk and maybe her friend talked her out of bringing me home...but that doesn't explain why she was also ignorant of me when she left the bathroom. Maybe she puked or something? Really not sure. I didn't get her number before I left either, thought I would get it the morning after.
If anybody sees something I don't, let me know.
Saturday - Philly
Again, I wanted to go visit Philly with some friends, but they flaked last minute. I decided I wanted to get a feel for whether I'd want to make the trip out here in the hopes of being around some more women, so I decided to go by myself.
The Phillies lost their game, so I figured the bars wouldn't be packed with sports fans. It was Saturday, and in most places, I found Friday > Saturday, so I was curious. Unfortunately, the weather wasn't great either, a bit cool and rainy, and I knew it would be expensive, but I made the trip anyway.
Overall, I wasn't impressed...as far as quality goes, it's pretty similar to West Chester with the exception that these aren't all college students. Out of the bars I visited, there were several decent girls, but I only saw maybe 2 or 3 that I thought were actually hot.
Tradesman's - First bar I visited. Had a short line and looked packed inside, so I started here. Crammed full of dudes. A couple of average girls, but I didn't feel like breaking a sweat to get through the mosh pit and order a drink at the bar. Left soon after arriving.
Bru Craft & Wurst - One of my buddies who flaked the night before was supposedly here, so I thought I'd check this bar next. Pretty small, nothing special, walked from end-to-end and didn't see any reasons to stay, so that was short-lived as well.
U-Bahn - Last week I visited and found some of my fraternity buddies living out here. I asked where they recommend going as a single guy, and one suggested this bar. It looked like a downstairs kinda thing because it was just a staircase. There was no line, and when I asked the bouncer he even suggested I go elsewhere.
Wicked Wolf - This is where I was last week with my brother and another friend, and so far I probably like it the best. Some cute girls (though the best-looking ones by a mile are unfortunately the bartenders), not too packed, good music, and a club-esque dancefloor. A random dude started asking me what I eat, remarking that I was big and ripped. Apparently he just genuinely wanted to know what I do, just a random encounter with a nice guy. I asked him the question about where he'd go as a single guy. His answer? West Chester...he told me that it's ok out here, but he meets more cute girls grocery shopping than he does at the club. He and his buddy say they're going to another bar called Barstool, and I'm welcome to come with. I stay for a little longer, then decide to check it out.
Barstool - This is where I saw the hottest girls. There were only 2 or 3, and they were talking to a guy the entire time, so I assume they weren't single. The place was pretty packed, and there was a downstairs section that was basically a frat basement with a bar and strobe lights. Seems like it has the same problem as the first few bars - just a whole lot of guys and average or below-average girls. I do like a lap or two, don't see the guys from earlier, and leave.
Vesper - This is the club I visited a few times while dating my ex, and once for a friend's birthday. I actually enjoyed myself here and tried to go last week with my brother, and tonight after Barstool. Both times it was closed. I actually asked the bartender at Wicked Wolf, because it says it's open online, but there was no line and the door was closed both times. I want to figure out what's the deal with this because I think I would much rather go to a club than a typical bar.
Concourse - Can't find it. Used Maps last week and walked to where it's supposed to be, couldn't find it. Heard good things about it, and was closed this Saturday, but don't know what I'm looking for.
JJ Bootleggers - This was a recommendation from the guy at Wicked Wolf. Says it's mostly college and that he and his buddy thought it was pretty easy to leave with a girl from here. Didn't visit this spot, but it's somewhere I should probably give a chance when it's not a rainy Easter Saturday following a Phillies loss.
After all that, walked about a half mile past several sketchy homeless people and drove home with zero *****.
Any Philadelphia connoisseurs would love to know what the good spots are. My current evaluation is that this is essentially a more expensive and slightly further West Chester. The benefit is that it's NOT a college town, so the girls probably won't be as put off by my "older age", but I also noticed the police presence is much higher in West Chester, making it difficult to drive home without getting stopped, as that's happened to my friends and I several times while headed home from a night out.
That's all for tonight, would love to read thoughts on either event.
Friday - Field Report
Originally wanted to go up to Philly, but it was a busy work day, and workout, and I had the friends I wanted to go with flake on me. It's been a little more than a month since I had my falling out with my ex upon finding she lied to me, so I no longer have her as a semi-regular source of sex, and now starts the pain in the ass of finding somewhere that I can meet women in this barren state before my dry spell gets too long...
Newark isn't an option right now because the college is on spring break. I considered West Chester, but it's usually more fun on a Saturday up there. So I decided I'd check a couple more places in Delaware.
I ignored Trolley because I never had a good time there. Started out at Cork & Barrel, lame. Went to Tyler's next, even more lame. Then visited Corner Cove because a friend of mine from my gym bartends there, even lamer.
I had a short talk with him and he shared my sentiment that it sucks out here in Delaware as a single guy and that he didn't really have any recommendations beyond the places I'd already visited and considered. I finish my drink and I'm just about to leave when these two hot older women walk in, clearly buzzed and in "party mode". My bartender buddy and I had the same idea, so I asked him which one he liked better because I thought both were hot. He told me the brunette, so I decided I'd go for the blonde.
Went over, introduced myself, and we all hit it off pretty well. They were both flirty but unfortunately for my buddy, the girl he wanted was married. Luckily for me, mine was single. Turns out she was 40 years old, and had children but they're all grown, once divorced, and makes really good money working as both a nurse and some sort of manager for Amtrak.
Both of them thought I was very attractive and couldn't believe I was a whole 10 years younger than them. My girl asked a couple of times why I'd want a 40-year-old woman rather than some younger girl. I told her I was picky (plus there weren't any attractive young girls there).
The night goes on, and eventually, the bar closes but the girls want to stay and hang out with me and the bartender. My girl is very touchy, we make out a few times, at one point I even ask her what she's doing later to which she replies "hopefully you". She lives nearby and I told her I could give them both a ride. I've been here before, and I'm feeling confident. But then something happens, and I'm not sure what...
My girl went to the bathroom, second time that night so I don't think it was "code" or anything. She ends up taking a while, so her friend goes to check on her. Some time passes and they both leave the bathroom and start walking to the door to leave like I wasn't there. My buddy looks over at me and says "I thought you were bangin her tonight?" to which I replied, "so did I".
With no reason to stay anymore, I decided to leave as well. While leaving, I catch them walking back and offer them a ride. They initially ignore me then both say no, so I leave.
My best guess is that my girl got too drunk and maybe her friend talked her out of bringing me home...but that doesn't explain why she was also ignorant of me when she left the bathroom. Maybe she puked or something? Really not sure. I didn't get her number before I left either, thought I would get it the morning after.
If anybody sees something I don't, let me know.
Saturday - Philly
Again, I wanted to go visit Philly with some friends, but they flaked last minute. I decided I wanted to get a feel for whether I'd want to make the trip out here in the hopes of being around some more women, so I decided to go by myself.
The Phillies lost their game, so I figured the bars wouldn't be packed with sports fans. It was Saturday, and in most places, I found Friday > Saturday, so I was curious. Unfortunately, the weather wasn't great either, a bit cool and rainy, and I knew it would be expensive, but I made the trip anyway.
Overall, I wasn't impressed...as far as quality goes, it's pretty similar to West Chester with the exception that these aren't all college students. Out of the bars I visited, there were several decent girls, but I only saw maybe 2 or 3 that I thought were actually hot.
Tradesman's - First bar I visited. Had a short line and looked packed inside, so I started here. Crammed full of dudes. A couple of average girls, but I didn't feel like breaking a sweat to get through the mosh pit and order a drink at the bar. Left soon after arriving.
Bru Craft & Wurst - One of my buddies who flaked the night before was supposedly here, so I thought I'd check this bar next. Pretty small, nothing special, walked from end-to-end and didn't see any reasons to stay, so that was short-lived as well.
U-Bahn - Last week I visited and found some of my fraternity buddies living out here. I asked where they recommend going as a single guy, and one suggested this bar. It looked like a downstairs kinda thing because it was just a staircase. There was no line, and when I asked the bouncer he even suggested I go elsewhere.
Wicked Wolf - This is where I was last week with my brother and another friend, and so far I probably like it the best. Some cute girls (though the best-looking ones by a mile are unfortunately the bartenders), not too packed, good music, and a club-esque dancefloor. A random dude started asking me what I eat, remarking that I was big and ripped. Apparently he just genuinely wanted to know what I do, just a random encounter with a nice guy. I asked him the question about where he'd go as a single guy. His answer? West Chester...he told me that it's ok out here, but he meets more cute girls grocery shopping than he does at the club. He and his buddy say they're going to another bar called Barstool, and I'm welcome to come with. I stay for a little longer, then decide to check it out.
Barstool - This is where I saw the hottest girls. There were only 2 or 3, and they were talking to a guy the entire time, so I assume they weren't single. The place was pretty packed, and there was a downstairs section that was basically a frat basement with a bar and strobe lights. Seems like it has the same problem as the first few bars - just a whole lot of guys and average or below-average girls. I do like a lap or two, don't see the guys from earlier, and leave.
Vesper - This is the club I visited a few times while dating my ex, and once for a friend's birthday. I actually enjoyed myself here and tried to go last week with my brother, and tonight after Barstool. Both times it was closed. I actually asked the bartender at Wicked Wolf, because it says it's open online, but there was no line and the door was closed both times. I want to figure out what's the deal with this because I think I would much rather go to a club than a typical bar.
Concourse - Can't find it. Used Maps last week and walked to where it's supposed to be, couldn't find it. Heard good things about it, and was closed this Saturday, but don't know what I'm looking for.
JJ Bootleggers - This was a recommendation from the guy at Wicked Wolf. Says it's mostly college and that he and his buddy thought it was pretty easy to leave with a girl from here. Didn't visit this spot, but it's somewhere I should probably give a chance when it's not a rainy Easter Saturday following a Phillies loss.
After all that, walked about a half mile past several sketchy homeless people and drove home with zero *****.
Any Philadelphia connoisseurs would love to know what the good spots are. My current evaluation is that this is essentially a more expensive and slightly further West Chester. The benefit is that it's NOT a college town, so the girls probably won't be as put off by my "older age", but I also noticed the police presence is much higher in West Chester, making it difficult to drive home without getting stopped, as that's happened to my friends and I several times while headed home from a night out.
That's all for tonight, would love to read thoughts on either event.
