Before I say anything, I want to wish everyone a very HAPPY EASTER, don't overdo it on the chocolate 
Simple sex-related situation here. I've been with my girl, which I truly love, for a little over 2 months now, and we've talked about having sex quite often. We have been looking for the perfect place and time, and we've always neglected the car because it wasn't "special" enough.
Well, last night, we both REALLY wanted each other, and we were tired of waiting, so we decided to do it in the car. I got her hot and horny, got her to take her pants off, and proceeded to ask if she had something for me (referring to **** armor)... She said she didn't, and neither did I! %$&%&$!!! What a dumbass! Since sex was out of the question, I tried saving the night by suggesting that we do something else. For instance, I suggested she played Playstation and fooled around with my joystick, but I guess she didn't get the very subtle hint.
That's where it hit me. During the past weeks, I've always been the one doing the fingering, and I've even offered to go down on her twice but she didn't want to because we were at her house and her mom could have came down any minute... Still, I offered. In return, my gf never did anything to me. I never asked though, I just thought she would do it by herself because she's done everything before.
After the condom incident, I got turned off pretty badly, and didn't even want to look at her and drove her home. I didn't even kiss her good night. She called me a couple of minutes later, and we had a little talk. What I told her is that I was tired of always being the one doing the efforts and not getting anything in return. Because of that, I told her that I wouldn't be making any efforts and that I won't want any physical stuff for a while because I was very turned off.
She then asked me why I didn't ask for anything before, and I replied that I'm not supposed to ask her for things like that. In a relationship, a lot of the communication is non-verbal, or else we would be on the phone 40 hours a day. I told her that I wasn't going to spoon-feed her the conclusions: she has to draw them herself, and take some initiative on her own. It's not like she's never done these things with her ex-bfs, why should she be less open about it with me.
She then said that she wanted to, but wasn't given the opportunity. I told her to cut the BS, and not make promises that she won't keep. If she doesn't want to, she doesn't have to say that she will. I told her that I don't judge people but what they say, but by what they do.
She asked me for examples, and I said she was smart enough to figure it out herself. Needless to say, I dominated the conversation from alpha to omega.
She then said she was sorry, and if I ever felt turned on again she wouldn't hesitate to give me some pleasure. She felt like she was being very selfish and felt pretty bad last night.
Is this a problem? Personally, I don't like talking about things like these (hj or bj) before actually receiving it, or else I get pretty turned off, just like right now. I think I'm seriously going to wait for a while before I let her svck me off or anything like that.
Is this actually going to save my relationship? Was it a nice gesture?
Simple sex-related situation here. I've been with my girl, which I truly love, for a little over 2 months now, and we've talked about having sex quite often. We have been looking for the perfect place and time, and we've always neglected the car because it wasn't "special" enough.
Well, last night, we both REALLY wanted each other, and we were tired of waiting, so we decided to do it in the car. I got her hot and horny, got her to take her pants off, and proceeded to ask if she had something for me (referring to **** armor)... She said she didn't, and neither did I! %$&%&$!!! What a dumbass! Since sex was out of the question, I tried saving the night by suggesting that we do something else. For instance, I suggested she played Playstation and fooled around with my joystick, but I guess she didn't get the very subtle hint.
That's where it hit me. During the past weeks, I've always been the one doing the fingering, and I've even offered to go down on her twice but she didn't want to because we were at her house and her mom could have came down any minute... Still, I offered. In return, my gf never did anything to me. I never asked though, I just thought she would do it by herself because she's done everything before.
After the condom incident, I got turned off pretty badly, and didn't even want to look at her and drove her home. I didn't even kiss her good night. She called me a couple of minutes later, and we had a little talk. What I told her is that I was tired of always being the one doing the efforts and not getting anything in return. Because of that, I told her that I wouldn't be making any efforts and that I won't want any physical stuff for a while because I was very turned off.
She then asked me why I didn't ask for anything before, and I replied that I'm not supposed to ask her for things like that. In a relationship, a lot of the communication is non-verbal, or else we would be on the phone 40 hours a day. I told her that I wasn't going to spoon-feed her the conclusions: she has to draw them herself, and take some initiative on her own. It's not like she's never done these things with her ex-bfs, why should she be less open about it with me.
She then said that she wanted to, but wasn't given the opportunity. I told her to cut the BS, and not make promises that she won't keep. If she doesn't want to, she doesn't have to say that she will. I told her that I don't judge people but what they say, but by what they do.
She asked me for examples, and I said she was smart enough to figure it out herself. Needless to say, I dominated the conversation from alpha to omega.
She then said she was sorry, and if I ever felt turned on again she wouldn't hesitate to give me some pleasure. She felt like she was being very selfish and felt pretty bad last night.
Is this a problem? Personally, I don't like talking about things like these (hj or bj) before actually receiving it, or else I get pretty turned off, just like right now. I think I'm seriously going to wait for a while before I let her svck me off or anything like that.
Is this actually going to save my relationship? Was it a nice gesture?
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