"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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daygameguy said:
Go up to her, and as she will most likely be expecting another DJ line or something
Lol, she will definitely not be expecting a DJ line. I haven't been smooth at all with this girl.

All I can say is that since she gave me another opportunity today, that means as of today she likes me, so there is no excuse now not to ask her out.

Actually... I just had a funny thought, lol. It could be that she was trying to get my attention today because I ignored her at the library last Saturday and suddenly she felt like I didn't want her, so she got interested again (isn't it screwy how girls work?) And actually, I was just reading a thread on body language and I remember now that when I called her by name the last time we spoke, she smiled and looked down for a long time. Apparently this is showing submission?

Anyway thanks for the lines dude. Although, I've rehashed this situation so many times that at this point, whether I confront her in the classroom or in the library, I'll know exactly what to do, because of all the great advice in this thread.



I might try some variation on that line, though after chatting for awhile. Like, "You know, you're really shy. You're a shy girl." She'll protest, flirting will start. Then I'll be like, "I'll make it easy for you. What are you doing tonight?"

Or I'll just go direct, which can't fail. "I want to get to know you better. What are you doing tomorrow night?"

Anyway, one thing's for sure...the next time we get into any type of conversation (and I will make that happen), I ask her out.
 

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Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Darth said:
whether I confront her in the classroom or in the library
you mean talk to her, right? lol
 

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daygameguy said:
you mean talk to her, right? lol
Yea, you confront a Crystal Meth user.

I'd say keep it up. Go for the finish line no matter if you win or lose.

I'm in the same boat... I'm asking out this girl today who I could have asked out 50 times already. She even invited me to her house...
 

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Yes! I got her number:) And had a long chat.

I sit next to her in class, and she actually says hi to me, and I turn around and say, "Oh...hi," in an uninterested way (it wasn't really a lack of interest...it was because I didn't know if she was talking to me or someone else with my name. Yes, I'm an idiot sometimes...)

Anyway, for some reason I continue to ignore her and actually offer to help the girls to the left of me, but not her. I actually think her feelings were hurt because I seemed to be deliberately brushing her off. About 5 minutes later I help her and make eye contact and show that I'm still interested.

Anyway, eventually we are talking about something and the guy behind me (who I'm pretty friendly with but never really talked to for a long time) mutters something under his breath about how lucky I am to have this particular talent I have). The teacher asks me, and I joke around with him and with some others in the classes. This is great "social proof".

Then she makes some kind of comment to me that didn't make any sense. I turned and smiled and asked what she meant. She smiled and didn't say anything.

So now I'm thinking, wow, I have pretty much a 100% chance of success right now. But still, I didn't know if I had the balls....

We're leaving class, and I give her a little smile, and then she says something. I can't even remember what it was. It was something about the teacher. Then I try to ask her something, but I'm stumbling over the words and she starts smiling and then I start smiling. Finally I get the words out. At this point her body language is screaming, "Take me." The tension and subcommunication the whole time was huge.

Oh yeah...then I asked her what she wanted to do with herself, and she went on and on and on. Then I remember she tied it back to thinking that writing music was a lot of fun. I made some kind of lame joke like "That's why I'm doing it." She laughed.

Then I told her I wanted to get into writing for bigger groups.

Then, she actually brought up that if I ever wrote anything for strings, then that's her thing.

At this point, I knew exactly what she was doing because I had had the idea myself. So I'm like
"Why don't I get your phone number...so I don't lose track of you." (yeah, could have been better worded...whatever)

After that point, things went very very well. She was really really happy. She wanted to give me her last name because she said she didn't know how many other HB's there were on my phone.

She made me call her cell phone to make sure it worked. She showed me the picture on her phone (from when she was overseas). She told me her last name, which was weird, so I asked her what country her background was. She told me the country, but said that when she got married, she wouldn't have to worry about it (how should I read into that comment? ha ha)

I am so damn happy right now that I had the balls to do this. Thank you guys for your support. It didn't go like I planned it, but what does? At least I was relaxed and funny in a lame way (or maybe she was just laughing for no reason)
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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