"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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FR: Last Night Clubbing

slickaz

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K so yday i hit up a club.
i went there hessitant coz a good friend of mine is a event organizer, throwing the party.

walked in got myself in VIP which was awesome.. for free.
kicked it there witha drink talked to my dude..
he goes away lil later so im left kickin by myself..the music was good.

i was about to go grab a drink when a bunch of chics pulled up next to me at the bar.
so i looked at the one closest to me smiled n said hi.

she was being RUDE! n replied with a nasty "HA!"
n i overheard this other from her group cutie say to her "hey, dont be mean."

then she tapped on my shoulder n said "sorry bout her she just broke up with her bf so man hating.."
me" no probs im just here to unwind have a good night and enjoy the music."

anyway we wait in line for the drinks..

just as its my turn to buy, the guy that invited me walks up behind throws his hands over my shoulder n says to the bar girl "this guy, any drinks all night, my tab..." walks away..very drunk..

she's like "ok no probs what would you like?"

me like, "um can i get a vodka on squeezed orange juice, go easy on the vodka, shaken till ice cold thanks.."

the cutie that said sorry to me stared at me like W7F!!!

just as the bargirl gives me my drink, im like "excuse me ma'am..
could you serve this young lady after me please..."


and pointed at the girl that snobbed me off, she was standing to my left..
the bargirl, like "sure"
the snob looked at me and i said, "not every guy you meet is an a55hole.. uv got great friends, you ladies look beautiful...enjoy ur nyt"

n walked away..

later on the cutie that apologised came UP TO ME! while i was talkin to another friend..<<i was checkin her out all evening tho, and i caught her smiling at me a few time...so i waited>>...
n goes, "hey i just wanted to thank you for that and apologize again. i hope it didnt ruin your night..blah blah blah"..i cant remember the rest.

but i said "no problem, did ya'll have a good nyt?"
she: yeh we did,she wanted to come apologize but feels like sh!t..
me: all good.
she: so you come here often? <<i assumed this meant, she wanted to talk to me>>

so i continued talkin and ended the convo with
"yeh im plannin on coming here for that soul music night too, put your number here and we'll meet up in between.."
so she did..lol
i gave her a missed call to check if right number + give her mine.
checked out fine..

and then i said bye left her sitting n walked away..

i havent hit her up nor has she..so...
anyway nice turn of events..but i havent been out gettin new numbers lately with the move etc..so..
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Out of curiosity, why didn't you push harder for a kiss close/ F close? Sounds like you had a decent shot at it. But good job nonetheless bro, we need more FR's like this to inspire some of these guys.
 

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hey bro,
yeh i shudve pushed for an fclose, but she looked like one of those good girls that would go the kclose but would regret it later or not be impressed.

so im gonna put this in the slow lane and hook up on the date ive set up with her.
tomoro theres a festival and she hit me up with a "hey its Ashley from xxx club, how you goin? are you goin to that festival on sunday in town?"

so i set it up with her and we're meetin up so im gonna get mine in..lol

yeh i guess i just felt like if i got a kclose in now, the fclose is doubtful she may feel sl*tty, but if i waited a couple days then ill get the Fclose and she'd be happy..lol..i dunno
 

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slickaz said:
hey bro,
yeh i shudve pushed for an fclose, but she looked like one of those good girls that would go the kclose but would regret it later or not be impressed.

so im gonna put this in the slow lane and hook up on the date ive set up with her.
tomoro theres a festival and she hit me up with a "hey its Ashley from xxx club, how you goin? are you goin to that festival on sunday in town?"

so i set it up with her and we're meetin up so im gonna get mine in..lol

yeh i guess i just felt like if i got a kclose in now, the fclose is doubtful she may feel sl*tty, but if i waited a couple days then ill get the Fclose and she'd be happy..lol..i dunno

You played this right, that's the problem with this site, everyone thinks if you don't Fclose or Kclose the first night, then you wasted your time. What you gotta realize is sometimes **** doesn't pop off due to logistics (her with her friends, bachelorette party etc etc) If your game is tight enough usually you can get things popping in a day2.

On top of that you being laid back and nonchalant, helped in this situation since her friend was being a biatch. You played this of proper by being a gentlemen

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slickaz said:
K so yday i hit up a club.
i was about to go grab a drink when a bunch of chics pulled up next to me at the bar.
so i looked at the one closest to me smiled n said hi.

she was being RUDE! n replied with a nasty "HA!"
n i overheard this other from her group cutie say to her "hey, dont be mean."

then she tapped on my shoulder n said "sorry bout her she just broke up with her bf so man hating.."
me" no probs im just here to unwind have a good night and enjoy the music."
You could've put a C&F line rather than the usual "no problem". I wouldn't let go a girl who's that rude to me that easily.

anyway we wait in line for the drinks..

just as its my turn to buy, the guy that invited me walks up behind throws his hands over my shoulder n says to the bar girl "this guy, any drinks all night, my tab..." walks away..very drunk..

she's like "ok no probs what would you like?"

me like, "um can i get a vodka on squeezed orange juice, go easy on the vodka, shaken till ice cold thanks.."

the cutie that said sorry to me stared at me like W7F!!!

just as the bargirl gives me my drink, im like "excuse me ma'am..
could you serve this young lady after me please..."


and pointed at the girl that snobbed me off, she was standing to my left..
the bargirl, like "sure"
the snob looked at me and i said, "not every guy you meet is an a55hole.. uv got great friends, you ladies look beautiful...enjoy ur nyt"

n walked away..
Good job on this part.

later on the cutie that apologised came UP TO ME! while i was talkin to another friend..<<i was checkin her out all evening tho, and i caught her smiling at me a few time...so i waited>>...
n goes, "hey i just wanted to thank you for that and apologize again. i hope it didnt ruin your night..blah blah blah"..i cant remember the rest.

but i said "no problem, did ya'll have a good nyt?"
she: yeh we did,she wanted to come apologize but feels like sh!t..
me: all good.
she: so you come here often? <<i assumed this meant, she wanted to talk to me>>

so i continued talkin and ended the convo with
"yeh im plannin on coming here for that soul music night too, put your number here and we'll meet up in between.."
so she did..lol
i gave her a missed call to check if right number + give her mine.
checked out fine..

and then i said bye left her sitting n walked away..

i havent hit her up nor has she..so...
anyway nice turn of events..but i havent been out gettin new numbers lately with the move etc..so..
Yes, you could've done better, but keep on sarging. At least you've got numbers.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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clubs are awesome huh. I'm hitting either Hollywood or Santa Monica tonight

tip for next time - order something other than a screwdriver. but if you really REALLY gotta have a screwdriver, just say screwdriver
 

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ready123 said:
clubs are awesome huh. I'm hitting either Hollywood or Santa Monica tonight

tip for next time - order something other than a screwdriver. but if you really REALLY gotta have a screwdriver, just say screwdriver
Not to derail the thread, but what do you recommend?
 

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Solomon said:
You played this right, that's the problem with this site, everyone thinks if you don't Fclose or Kclose the first night, then you wasted your time.

You played this of proper by being a gentlemen

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yo...you is that dude!!!

yeh i felt that by pushin it that night it would just make it seem obvious what i was after ryt from the start even with the biatch friend...

so i wanted to continue the gentleman thing and got her number at the end.lol

so lets hope she cleans it up lol.

Sharkybear: i think james bond has a Vesper..very tasty and interesting mix.
 

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sharkybear said:
Not to derail the thread, but what do you recommend?
I usually get rum and coke, or Jack and coke, sometimes henny on the rocks, sometimes a beer when I feel more chill. if you don't know what to order, just try random drinks til you find one you like

also, if you don't know, you can ask around at the bar. "what are you drinking?" "looks good, can I try?"

the thing about a screwdriver, at least out here, it's usually something you make yourself when you're on a budget, when you're predrinking with your buddies. trying to order a screwdriver like it's a martini is kinda funny
 

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If I'm at a bar--I get Corona/Vodka Cranberry(the cranberry has good anti-oxidants in it)
If I'm at a lounge- I get apple martini or Grey goose cranberry
If I'm at a club-- Long Island/Vodka Cranberry or anything else

peace
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Great job man. While I do think it's good that you played it like a gentlemen etc which will do you favors later if you are considering her for a relationship... it would've also been great if you hadn't of ejected after you got the number. Should've had a little fun with her, danced with her.
 
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