FR - Labor Day Weekend

[BPH]

Alright, here comes another one. Not nearly as eventful as @nicksaiz65 's, so it'll probably be pretty quick.

If you guys enjoy reading these, let me know if you prefer to read them as standalones like this, or whether it'd be better to have them all in one place, like my journal used to.

Anyway, same format...

Night One

Thursday night, once again. And just as it was last week, no line, which was a bit surprising.

Went inside, and it was much less crowded than last week. There was still a decent turnout, but there were more empty sections, and definitely more guys. The chick from last week who was acting weird after I met her last Thursday was there again tonight. It seems she's just interested in one of the bartenders.

I might've talked to one or two girls, but it was pretty much the same problem as last week; plenty of decent girls, but very few HOT girls. The most memorable part of the night was talking to a guy who was piss-drunk, offering myself and other randoms shots. When he came up to me, I asked him what the occasion was, as he was making a fool of himself and was clearly hammered...his mom died of cancer today, and he didn't know how to process it.

I felt terrible. I indulged him when he offered another drink, and offered my 2 cents when he asked me for tips on how to deal with it. Hope that kid's doing ok.

Night Two

Both my buddies who talked me into going out last Saturday decided they'd come with me this Friday night.

As with the night before, no line. Now this is a bad sign...it is syllabus week and the most popular college bar has no line on a Friday night. Inside, it was basically the same as Thursday night, just with a few more people, most of whom were dudes, unfortunately.

My one buddy is drunk and shameless, so he's hitting on girls to the point where they're only giving him time of day if he buys them drinks, which I have to talk him out of. My other buddy on the dry spell actually went up and talked to a couple of girls tonight, even got some numbers.

My night was pretty uneventful, but the girls I met were notable enough that I remember them. I met 2 girls at the bar, and both seemed pretty interested in our conversation. They were both out celebrating one of their friends' birthdays, so I took their phone numbers and texted them so they had mine. My buddy did the same with the girls he met.

Unfortunately, because of the surprisingly low population for a Friday night, they started closing down sections of the bar early - something I've never seen happen on a Friday night, let alone the first Friday night of the school year. Maybe everybody is busy going to frat parties this week, who knows...

On the way out, I chatted with a cute girl while waiting in line at a 7/11, and got her number. She was very noncommittal, and I gave her an easy out, but she insisted on giving me the number and chose to ghost me later.

Same story with the girls I met tonight when I texted them the next day. I thought one of the two was quite interested, but it seems I was wrong.

Saturday night, I stayed in. Judging by the poor turnout from the past 2 nights, and how Saturday is historically the weakest, I decided it wasn't worth having a 3rd hangover in a row, plus I was catching a cold. The friend on the dry spell went out solo in West Chester. Told me I didn't miss much, and the girls he talked to all had boyfriends.

Sunday, I thought I'd take a trip out just to make sure I wasn't missing anything, seeing as everybody was off for Labor Day on Monday. It was just a bunch of guys watching the Notre Dame game around the main bar, with the rest closed off. I had a drink and then left immediately after.

It seems my current problem is that I lack volume. On any given night, there are maybe 2-3 girls that I WANT to talk to, and then maybe another 2-3 that I wouldn't mind. If things don't turn out well with those girls, for whatever reason, that's pretty much the end of my night as far as potentially getting laid. I may have to start dipping my toes in Philly more often. It's getting too cold for the waterfront bars, but Center City is probably popping again.

Beyond that, my one plate I started seeing again about a month ago seems to have once again fallen off. I don't understand why, probably flip-flopping between wanting something serious vs. enjoying my company.

Another one I thought was coming back hasn't committed to a date yet. She's the one I mentioned in my other FR, bragging about the seats her suitors got her to see a baseball game.

The one I texted to show ValiantMale in his other thread got her period last weekend, so I'll likely have to wait until next week to see her.

But none of that makes a big difference, because I'll be seeing the girl from LR - 104 to basically spend the weekend with her, getting sucked and f***ed. She's super excited...she wants to treat me to a dinner somewhere because she wants an excuse to get dressed up, and has been asking about my preferences as far as lingerie colors, so that'll be fun.

Side Note:

I forgot to mention last Friday that I met a girl and walked home with her. The only thing I remember about her was her name. I don't remember why I left with her, since I hadn't even kissed her at the bar, and she told me that she wanted to be taken out before we do any hooking up. Drunk me probably interpreted that as "we won't be having sex tonight, but we can do other things". By the time I got to her place, she had changed her mind and decided I should probably just go home. I thought she might be open to at least a kiss while I waited for my ride, but she wasn't even interested in that.

Definitely too pushy, on account of me being hammered by this point, but also, stupid of me for even going home with a chick whom I hadn't built any chemistry with.

 

[BaronOfHair]

Thursday night, once again. And just as it was last week, no line, which was a bit surprising

Fair inference: Most everyone in Delaware had made the trek to the bath houses of DC, where they celebrated the holiday by soaking in whirlpools of adrenochrome. The 375,304 missing kids in America come in handy, the minute it comes time to Pahrtay!!!

 

[The Duke]

How do you keep these girls straight?

Snap a quick pic? Find them on social media? Make notes? Give them nicknames that help you recall?

One positive to hitting up the same venue on a regular basis is you get to know the staff and end up getting free drinks and a lot of social proof. You also become very comfortable at the venue, or at least I did.

I like to read the field reports as stand-a-lones. Not as confusing for the reader and its not some long drawn out 10 page topic.

 

[Captain Redbeard]

How much are you drinking on a typical night out?

Also sounds like a change of scenery could be warranted if you're not liking the crowd. I remember seeing an old haunt of mine slowly decline. Even though I knew the doorman, bartenders, DJ, I had to retire it from the rotation. All nightlife venues have an expiration date and somewhere else pops up as the cool new spot.

 

[The Duke]

How much are you drinking on a typical night out?

Also sounds like a change of scenery could be warranted if you're not liking the crowd. I remember seeing an old haunt of mine slowly decline. Even though I knew the doorman, bartenders, DJ, I had to retire it from the rotation. All nightlife venues have an expiration date and somewhere else pops up as the cool new spot.

So true. I finally got depressed at my old hangout and had to find somewhere new. It sucked the positive energy out of me. It was the same old drunks, and not enuff hot girls to justify the time spent.

One thing I always noticed was the hottest women quickly moved on to the newest trendy places.

 

[BPH]

Fair inference: Most everyone in Delaware had made the trek to the bath houses of DC, where they celebrated the holiday by soaking in whirlpools of adrenochrome. The 375,304 missing kids in America come in handy, the minute it comes time to Pahrtay!!!

At least 75% of the time, I have no idea what you're saying, but thanks.

How do you keep these girls straight?

Snap a quick pic? Find them on social media? Make notes? Give them nicknames that help you recall?

Just like how I text women something memorable along with my name, I usually save their names as such as well.

One positive to hitting up the same venue on a regular basis is you get to know the staff and end up getting free drinks and a lot of social proof. You also become very comfortable at the venue, or at least I did.

Yeah, it's cool to see a long line full of people and just walk to the front of it without girls to get in. The bartenders dap me up, I'm good friends with the manager who heads the security, and I get served faster and more often than even the women.

I like to read the field reports as stand-a-lones. Not as confusing for the reader and its not some long drawn out 10 page topic.

Duly noted, thanks for the input

How much are you drinking on a typical night out?

Also sounds like a change of scenery could be warranted if you're not liking the crowd. I remember seeing an old haunt of mine slowly decline. Even though I knew the doorman, bartenders, DJ, I had to retire it from the rotation. All nightlife venues have an expiration date and somewhere else pops up as the cool new spot.

Quite a bit, unfortunately. I'm a big guy at 6ft, 219lbs, and I'm German and Dutch by heritage. I have a very high tolerance, and the bartender I have the best relationship with frequently fills me up for free and fills double. I usually pregame a little beforehand, so I'd say I probably have 7-8 drinks on nights where I go out and don't have to worry about the morning.

I think the bars will be better when fraternity rush ends and people start falling into their routines. My theory is that right now, every frat is trying to throw the biggest, baddest parties to get the most pledges, since they rush in the fall. I believe sorority rush is in the spring, and I'll probably spend less time at the bars since they're frequently dry rushes.

I'll probably visit Philly a little more often either way.

 

[CornbreadFed]

I think the bars will be better when fraternity rush ends and people start falling into their routines. My theory is that right now, every frat is trying to throw the biggest, baddest parties to get the most pledges, since they rush in the fall. I believe sorority rush is in the spring, and I'll probably spend less time at the bars since they're frequently dry rushes.

I was in a fraternity at an SEC school, and our rush parties were highly exclusive with strict invite lists. Are fraternities more open and casual up there? Also, during sorority rush, women weren’t allowed to go out, so there was always a short period where you wouldn’t see many women out and about.

 

[BPH]

I was in a fraternity at an SEC school, and our rush parties were highly exclusive with strict invite lists. Are fraternities more open and casual up there? Also, during sorority rush, women weren’t allowed to go out, so there was always a short period where you wouldn’t see many women out and about.

It's pretty much the same story here: first week or two is pretty open to everybody, and most frats are competing to have the best opening parties to attract the best pledges. After that, a guy is only really getting into the party if he knows a brother, brings girls, and/or pays.

It doesn't repeat in the Spring either. There's another rush, but it's not nearly as extravagant since most of the girls will be dry rushing sororities.

 

[SW15]

I was in a fraternity at an SEC school, and our rush parties were highly exclusive with strict invite lists. Are fraternities more open and casual up there? Also, during sorority rush, women weren’t allowed to go out, so there was always a short period where you wouldn’t see many women out and about.

In the future, I would classify this as "legacy SEC" or "traditional SEC". Those terms cover any school that joined the SEC in 1992 or earlier.

Texas, Texas A&M, Oklahoma, and Missouri are not true SEC schools. A&M and Missouri joined in 2012. Texas and Oklahoma joined in 2024.

University of Missouri would been more Midwestern than Southern. The Texas and Oklahoma schools are also more Southern/Southwestern.

Greek Life has been a major part of college social life at the traditional SEC schools, where it has been less relevant at the Texas and Oklahoma.

In Texas, the colleges with the biggest Greek Life participation rates have been Southern Methodist University (SMU) in Dallas and Texas Christian University (TCU) in Fort Worth. At SMU and TCU, not joining Greek Life will have a major impact on one's college social experience. Getting into one of the good fraternities matters as @Jesse Pinkman detailed in the first post of the thread below.

Observations about college sex life from someone that went to a party school.

I thought I'd share this as someone who went to a party school and was in a fraternity there as well. Not wanting to give too much about myself but I went to UGA and graduated a few years ago. While Athens has its hot girls, I do feel like the quality got worse every year due to the admission...

www.sosuave.net

University of Texas doesn't have the same Greek Life participation rates as SMU, TCU, Alabama, or Auburn.

It's pretty much the same story here: first week or two is pretty open to everybody, and most frats are competing to have the best opening parties to attract the best pledges. After that, a guy is only really getting into the party if he knows a brother, brings girls, and/or pays.

That's how things were at the university I attended in the 2001-2005 era.

 

[CornbreadFed]

In the future, I would classify this as "legacy SEC" or "traditional SEC". Those terms cover any school that joined the SEC in 1992 or earlier.

I went to school at a legacy SEC program, and I don’t consider anything west of Longview, Texas, as "Southern," lol. Honestly, I don’t even think of Nashville, Knoxville, or Kentucky as Southern, even though they’re home to traditional SEC schools. At my last job, I worked with a lot of post-Greek guys from Texas, A&M, and Oklahoma, some even in the same fraternity as me, but they were totally different from me.

 

[CornbreadFed]

It's pretty much the same story here: first week or two is pretty open to everybody, and most frats are competing to have the best opening parties to attract the best pledges. After that, a guy is only really getting into the party if he knows a brother, brings girls, and/or pays.

It doesn't repeat in the Spring either. There's another rush, but it's not nearly as extravagant since most of the girls will be dry rushing sororities.

At mine, you either have to be recruited from High School or be a Legacy at the Fraternity. The only fraternities throwing open welcome week parties are the smaller off-row fraternities. The sororities dry rush the first 2 weeks of school, so every event is a sausage fest until that ends.

 

[SW15]

I went to school at a legacy SEC program

Fantastic! That's the real SEC.

I don’t consider anything west of Longview, Texas, as "Southern," lol.

I see your point on this. East Texas can have a bit of a Southern feel to it. There can be debate about whether East Texas is Southern because those areas can feel like Louisiana.

I don’t even think of Nashville, Knoxville, or Kentucky as Southern, even though they’re home to traditional SEC schools.

Knoxville is Southern. Nashville is likely feeling less Southern lately because of all the transplants moving there. I consider Kentucky to be Southern.

At my last job, I worked with a lot of post-Greek guys from Texas, A&M, and Oklahoma, some even in the same fraternity as me, but they were totally different from me.

I believe it.