"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Pathgen

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Day 1:

Today i met up with Ken785 to go out sarging for the first time. We went downtown to the Westfeild shopping center in San Francisco on Market Street. The mall was huge and overall for our first day out this was a good start. Today we were mostly focusing on approaching anybody.

We started out splitting up and entering the mall to just say hi to 5 random strangers in 12 minutes i think. I went in and was able to approach 3. Two were some old people in a super market and one was actually a hb who happened to sort of bump into me.

The main issue I had was that when i was in enough distance to say hi to people they wouldn't give me eye contact. That girl that i almost bumped into gave it to me at the right moment. I feel like I could have gotten a few more hi's in if i had more eye contact from people.

After the hi exercise we met up and watched each other approach. We heard some drums on the street because there was a gay parade or a prop 8 demonstration (we never found out which). I approached a guy and a girl and asked them if they knew what the drums were about and they told me they didn't. Kind of lame so i ejected because i opened wrong.

After ken approached a girl carrying a prop 8 sign we decided to go down to city hall because we heard there was a protest. We thought we could open people asking them about prop 8. We got to city hall and there was no protest so we walked back to the mall.

We then did an exercise where ken chose a girl and i would have to approach her no matter what. He chose this asian girl all by herself so i went in.

Path: Hey can i ask you a question really quick?
Her(hesitant and with a heavy accent): sure
Path: I have a 4 year old cousin and i need to buy her a gift, do you know of a good place in the mall to shop for her?
Her: Um..... (4 second pause)
Path: It's cold where she is from so i was thinking maybe mitts for her hands.
Her: Maybe a hat?
Path: Yeah that would work keep her head warm
Her: You should go to H&M
Path: Oh where is that
(She gives directions)
Path: So you think they will have something for her there?
Her: Yeah (she brushes her hair and actually seems interested now)

I walk off saying goodbye. Ken thinks i should have just tried to number close that one. I think i should of too i was never gonna see her again if i failed, but whatever i didnt.

Then we went up to market street and approached people to just talk to them for 5 minutes. I talked to a guy who had a comedy club and learned that i couldnt go because i wasn't 21 (he talked to me for a while so I guess i look over 21 =D). Ken talked to a guy with a camera and we ended up being in a sony ericson in house video. So were going to see ourselves get a newspaper sped up when it comes out.

Then Ken went into the comedy club guy and i asked to different set of girls where macy's was. The only macy approach that is anything significant went like this:

Path: Hey can you tell me where macy's is?
Them: Yeah its up the street i think
(They talk amongst themselves where it was because they were from out of town)
While they are talking i get the vibe like they have been there
Path: Where you guys just there or something
Them: Yeah
Path: Why were you guys there?
Them: Weird look
Path: Well it doesn't matter thanks anyway
and i leave

After this we end the day just talking about where we want to be and we head home. Overall it was a good effort on our first day and we can only get better. I felt like i pushed my comfort zone a bit more than i am used too so it was a success.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Pathgen

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Day 2:

Day 2 happened a while ago and i got one facebook close, but other than that it wasn't important.

Day 3: Tonight Ken and I went out to a 18+ club. I got all dressed up in new clothes and high spirits.

We open many sets tonight and they all fail. Its ok though because we realize this is our first night club run and we still have some things we need to work out.

Approach 1:
The best aprroach i did that night went like this....

Path: Hey did you know that cigarettes can kill you (with smile)
Her: Laughing (a little bit) yeah i did
Path: Hi my name is Path
Her: Im Anna
Path: What are you drinking
Her: An energy drink
Path: You know those are bad for you too your going to die soon (again smile)
Her: Yeah i know but im a model i have to smoke and eat this stuff
Path:So you dont eat a lot
Her: Nah i have to stay thin
Path: What did you eat today (>.< stupid comment but i went blank)
Her: Two cups of cofee and cookie dough
Path: See thats why we never get along i like to eat too much
Her: I like food
Path: yeah cookie dough. Your so beutiful but you realize your dying inside (didnt know where else to take the convo)
-Somewhere in there cant remember when the convo went like this
Path:I bet you cant guess what i do
Her: What do you do
Path: Im a student
Her: I want to go back to school
Path: Can you guess what im studying?
Her: Um... business
Path: Nah, but im being mean you wont guess it
Her: Ok what is it then
Path: Computer Sceince
Path:I want to be like bill gates except less dorky (Stupid line)

After all this my mind was screaming move her to the dance floor or something, but i just put my hand on her shoulder and told her i would talk to her later.

I never got a chance because some guy moved in. Both Ken and i noticed though that this girl did seem to be having fun and it was the only set that i didn't get blown out of we actually talked for quite a while.

The Rest of the night consisted of us talking to every girl in the club and getting blown out of the water by all of them. It got to the point where at the end of the night we had approached every girl in the place except the gogo dancers because they had their own personal following that we didnt want to join(it was small)

Ken asked one of the girls for a light for his ciggarette and they flat out told him they didn't have one. It was like an automatic rejection straight out even when she had a lit cigarette in her hand. Ken pointed this out though and got his light from the *****.

Here are the openers we mainly used
1) Hey would you like your picture taken (we knew some of the photographers)
2)There is a party at such and such place next week (Ken is a promoter)
3) Why arent you dancing?

There was more i could probably write about, but this is already long enough and im sleepy -later
 

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Yes that was one issue. I am afraid to dance a little, but its mostly just getting out onto the floor once im there i am ok.
 

Pathgen

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I went out sarging today. Didnt feel like it when i woke up. I totally sucked today. No progress in fact i would say i went backwards instead of forward. Really got me depressed, but i feel better after i hit the gym. I just feel like today was a total waste of time and of Ken who went out sarging with me today.

I had Approach Anxiety and was not able to get over it. I guess lately i have been losing some of the confidence i had and i need to build it back up again.

Overall the sarge today was a complete waste for the first time and to add insult to injury i actually went backwards in progress.....
 

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keep pushing!!!

Pathgen said:
I went out sarging today. Didnt feel like it when i woke up. I totally sucked today. No progress in fact i would say i went backwards instead of forward. Really got me depressed, but i feel better after i hit the gym. I just feel like today was a total waste of time and of Ken who went out sarging with me today.

I had Approach Anxiety and was not able to get over it. I guess lately i have been losing some of the confidence i had and i need to build it back up again.

Overall the sarge today was a complete waste for the first time and to add insult to injury i actually went backwards in progress.....
you are doing good!!!


It happens, keep ya head up, and keep pressing forward man.....

It happens even to the best of us!!!

You just gotta remember your goal man, read some frs (i recommend snowplowman/rushingdude123/Jon24) these guys started out just like you and now their masters at what they do!!!
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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No worries bro...we all have our on and off days. You just need to learn to trash your negative emotions and put in positives.
 
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