FR: how long can you keep a FB?

[MacAvoy]

On the weekend, I went to the city with my female cousin and her ex/FB. We ended up picking up a friend of hers, who I happen to bang twice in the past about 3 years ago. There wasn't really any flirting between us, actually another girl (sister of
small town introvert girl date problem ok so the sister (who I also banged before) ripped the buttons off my shirt at the party. She apparantly wanted me but I blew her off.

So after about an hour of driving around trying to get a hotel room, we finally get one. After a drink in the room, I say screw it, I'm going to bed so I lie down. Well my cousin & her ex/FB obviously sleep together.

So like my last LR, I wake up beside the girl, one things leads to another and boom we are getting naked. However this time its getting past checkout. Roomservice comes as I'm about to penetrate, I tell ex/FB to go to the door as I don't want to get up. We end up getting cut off as she doesn't want to continue.

Fast forward to next day, we wake up again at a buddy's apartment, on a futon in the leaving room, with cousin & ex/FB on couch. We go ahead and do our business.

So now basically she is going to be a FB whenever we happen to bump into each other. So my question is:

What is the longest you've been able to keep a FB? I've had one now for close to 10 years and another for a good 5. The one from 10 years, use to be a LTR that went very sour, but she was madly in love with me. Then about 5 years ago, I just started using her, make her run errands, drive me around, basically a total hollar back girl.

The one from 5 years ago, she's got a bit of a reputation as a bit of a slvt, which actually limits her ability to be a slvt. So I've kinda been her piece whenever she needs some and vice versa. I was with her once during the xmas holidays and she openly said to a friend, that we are just friends who help each other out once in a while when we need servicing.

 

[DavenJuan]

how often is this FB around??

she may "intervene" another prospect that you desire unintentionaly.

next thing you know, you have a reputation as a hor and labeled

 

[Colossus]

All FB relations have a shelf life. I suppose it varies, but I personally havent had one lasting over 6 months. That's usually because i moved, or one of us got into an LTR, etc.

In my observational experience, MOST of them end because one person wants something more than just mutual servicing and the other doesnt. If you are a betting man you could wager on these types of situations and make good money.

I have a FB-thing with a girl pal of mine who is in a serious commited relationship. With us (at least for me) it is purely sexual. She doesnt get it much from her bf, so every once in a while she comes up here and we do it.

 

[MacAvoy]

MacAvoy you told me not to go there and not to bother, yet here you are saying you do the same. :nono:

Theres a huge difference between what I'm doing and what I told you not to do. You wanted to get back with a guy that you had feelings for, but were only FB's with. My case is the complete opposite.

I have no feelings for her and never will. I didn't say don't have FB's. I was saying don't go back to being a FB with a guy that you really want more from. Your not going to get what you want in that scenario.

As for FB's having a shelf life. I normally agree with that, however I've found that as long as you aren't sleeping with them every week, then you can keep it going for years. Like I mentioned, I've got a couple that have beeing going for 5 and 10 years. Now I hooked up with this girl, that I had about 3 years ago and can probably turn her into a semi-regular bang.

 

[MacAvoy]

From what I got from your emails was that deep down, you really wanted more but claim to be happy w/ just FB to rationalize going back after him. Whereas the FB's I'm talking about in this thread, I've never had any feelings for them, no relationship.

ps, you never replied to a new email I sent last week on a different topic.

 

[MacAvoy]

Well then, are you so sure that *she* doesn't have feelings for you anymore? Or do you not care either way, as long as you're getting yours?

For the most part, YES. I don't really care about her feelings, she's only a FB. However with the two FB's, they don't have any feelings beyond enjoying my company, its been giong on for years. We've always been open with each other.

This new FB that I'm adding to the mix, knows my reputation (somewhat) and has no desires to get involved with me. I don't know how I've created this persona but I've somehow created it and it works for me here. The women know I get around, however they are happy to be an orbiter and get their attention when its offered. I think the most important aspect is respect.

I always treat them with respect. I'm always their friend when we are in a group setting, I don't ever openly hit on a women in front of a group. (Ok not never, but if I do, its a totally new person that I've never met before and she is likely new to the circle and its acceptable)

However my orbiters also know when I'm involved in a relationship and respect those boundaries. Again I'm not sure how I got to this point, it wasn't a conscious effort, it just sort of happened over the years. I don't claim to be some great DJ, most of my pickups happen as luck to me, I don't have most of my success when I'm trying to pick up, I just naturally pick up at times when I'm not thinking about it, I just do it. Something just clicks for me, I'm not saying I'm a natural but when I'm in the right mind frame it naturally comes to me.

 

[romangod]

What is the longest you've been able to keep a FB? I've had one now for close to 10 years and another for a good 5. The one from 10 years, use to be a LTR that went very sour, but she was madly in love with me. Then about 5 years ago, I just started using her, make her run errands, drive me around, basically a total hollar back girl.

The longest I had a FB was for 8 yrs. A pregnancy scare made us go our separate ways although I'm sure if I wanted to I could still bed her at will. She was a prim and proper girl until she got comfortable with me then was willing to try anything........ and we did. :rockon:

 

[MatureDJ]

The longest I had a FB was for 8 yrs. A pregnancy scare made us go our separate ways although I'm sure if I wanted to I could still bed her at will.

I knew a guy that had a FB for a few years. She then decided it was time to trap him, so an "accident" happened. Even after the first child, he still didn't want to get married. Of course, she let him continue to hit it, and another "accident" happened. He then decided to marry her, and what do you know, she hasn't had any more "accidents". :crackup: