"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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FR: How I got my oneitis, and out of Friendzone on NYE's

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Sup guys. I've been a lurker for 2 yrs, hope this FR can help some of you out.

Last night I got laid from my oneitis/best friend. Everyone has had been in the friendzone before, this is a field report on how I got out of mine.

I'm gonna make the BG quick. I've been DJ'ing for 2 yrs, I met her 6 months ago. I liked her but she had a BF. They broke up 2 months later. I didn't think I had a shot with her. She's an Asian HB9, that only dates White guys, and well, I'm Asian. I thought it'd be better to just be her friend, then go for her and get rejected/**** up a friendship.

Fast Forward to Friday night. My confidence was at an all-time low. I hooked up with 2 different girls that week, but deep down I knew I had to do something about my best friend. You know that saying that you should **** 10 diff girls to get over one girl? Well I did that and I still wanted her!

Here I am claiming to be a DJ, but I have one-itis with a girl and didn't know what to do about it. Well rejection is better than regret, I was tired of feeling like this. I felt this one-itis was holding me back and I had to do something about it. I was drinking a lot Friday night, and I drunk dialled her. I went completely AFC on her and told her how I felt about her. She was shocked. Kept telling me no way I like her, and that I was joking.

Fast forward to last night, NYE's. I picked her up from her house to go clubbing with me. I hadn't seen her in a month because of Christmas break so we were pretty much catching up the entire time and nothing was weird.

The first kiss

We got in the club at 11:55pm. For 3 mins I pretty much establish social proof by saying hi to like 50 ppl I knew. Went to the bar and got two drinks. We had the count down, and I kissed her on New Year'.s Just a soft kiss on lips. She giggled and had like a soft smile on her face. We finished the beers and headed to the dance floor.

Escalating on Dance floor

We danced a little bit and I used this as an opportunity to make my next move. My favorite move has always been dancing facing each other, and get close. Then start smelling her neck a bit, give her a kiss, then make out. It worked, so after that I took her to the VIP booths.

In the Booth

It was no going back at this point. The goal right now was to make her as horny as possible. Luckily I have a lot of experience at this stage. My moves in order. This took place over 1.5 hrs.

- Held hands and made out
- Necked her
- Cuddled
- Necked her again, went for the ear. I knew this was her weak point when she moaned.
-She had on a skirt, I was rubbing her thigh and working my way up.
-Made out some more, I got LMR when I touched her underwear.
-She said I smelled good (Burberry Brit) so I told her to neck me a lil
-Made out with her, went back for between the legs, got LMR again
-I asked her if it felt good, she said yea, but she didn't wanna feel slutty.
-Made out with her again, went for between the legs, she didn't stop me.

Some other notes
-She kept telling me I'm bad, I'm naughty, what are we gonna do tomorrow? this is crazy, blah blah
-I kept telling her how beautiful she is :)
-I use my blazer to my advantage. When we made out, I covered out heads with it to give us more "Privacy" I guess.

She was wet as hell, and I knew it was time to make my exit. I took her home and did my thing, and once again this morning.

Anyways that's it. I'll be the first one to admit I didn't get her the most DJ way. I let a girl be my one-itis and I called her to tell her my feelings. But you know what, results is the only thing that matters. I don't know what's going to happen next. But for all the guys that has been stuck in that friendzone and had no hopes of leaving, I'm telling you that I did it, and you can too.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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wayword said:
So, you broke her racial barrier, friendzone and DJ rules by going AFC and having a depressed state with oneitis...and yet somehow it still all worked! AMAZING! :up:

Are you good-looking or tall, btw?
Trust me, I'm the LAST one that thought it would've worked. If my friend told me he was gonna drunk dial his one-itis and confess his feelings I would've taken his phone away from him.

I'm not tall, like 5'7. I'm pretty good looking, but she wasn't attracted to Asian guys so that didn't matter. But I've improved in every possible way I could. Workout, I read, manage my finances, straight a's in college, etc.

Ah can't beleive I'm posting this FR, I'm still kinda pinching myself and thinking, did it really happen? :)
 

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Well, this is one reason why I remain a bit skeptical about "The Secret" and "Law Of Attraction" that says what you think about you bring about.

Because, sometimes, you can have the worst, most pessimistic attitude in the world and still something amazingly good materializes. Or vice-versa. So, how do you explain that?

I mean drunk-dialing a girl"FRIEND" who only dates another race and then AFCing hardcore with her...etc, etc. --> LR. What the hell?
 

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That was one of the better field reports ive seen in a while. Good job on not giving up and getting what you wanted.:up:
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Good job kid. You got the ultimate result and that is all that matters. You turned your one-itis into a fvck.


Results are Results it doesn't matter how U do it. There is no sure way to get into a girls pants, except through experience and trial and error.


Well anyways sarge and bang some more girls.:up:
 
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