"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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FR: House Party

Tomatoes

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Hey ladies and Gentleman

Another fantastic weekend.

I had a house party round mine on Saturday. Its been kinda the hype for the last month so it was bound to be a good one. Invited loads of friends and told them to bring friends if they wanted.

It turned out that about 40-50 showed up. Which was a very good turn out. Anymore would have been too many.

I have a very big house so there was plenty of room plus I have an outdoor pool which i had cranked the heat up on for the occassion. 35 degrees C. It was steaming.

Anyways. My plan for the night was going to target the HB 7 i had sarged and slept with 2 weeks earlier in my FR: Dam ****blocks field report. So she arrived and happened to bring her HB8 mate with her. Which was nice.

I told her to bring asmany mates as she wanted as she has a few really fit friends.

So everyones in the pool having alot of fun. I tried one or two times approaching on her but each time she let me get close it didnt feel right. It seemed like she was uncomfortable with me going after her...which made me feel uncomfortable. Ignoring this (being the host) i had alot of guests to entertain and look after.

About 10 mins later i come back to the pool to see her hitting on my best mate/Wing (She knows hes my best mate). I thought....right...this means war.

I beckoned my best mate over and asked him to lay off her as it was making me feel uncomfortable. He didnt mind that too much. Respected my decision.

So then i thought "two can play that game" and I saw her HB 8 friend not really socialising very much. So I went and got in the pool next to her. Started talking to her. Pure fluff talk. We must have been there a while cus next thing i know most people have left the pool.

I told her there was a hot jet in the corner where the hot water comes into the pool but i was sitting on it. She came over and sat on my knee. I started abit of underwater groping.

After this we got out the pool and i offered her a shower in the house as the shower there is better. (We have a changing room kinda thing with a shower but its abit sh!t.

So me and her head inside. This other girl followed us asking "What we doing now?" I gave my wing an eye and he quickly asked her to come and look at something....Nice one mate.

As soon as we get upstair I kiss close. We get in the shower and i start undressing her. Next thing i have her pinned up againt the wall in the shower.

After we retreat to the bedroom for a second session before returning to the party.
Strangly enough she got blood on my sheets? I was like WTF? She happened to be a virgin.

So had a party thinking i was going to get with a HB 7 i have had before and ended up getting with a HB 8 virgin...

How plans change....


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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Damn. Nice house.

Remind me to go out in Notts when I get back from Newcastle.
 

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Yeah its my parents house admittedly. Was lucky to be brought up in such a nice place.

My rents are on holiday so we having a good time atm. Not that i dont have parties anyways.

My parents are cool. :woo:
 

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Tomatoes! My man!

Good job. Having a party at yours, gives you instant social/higher value and you were sharp enough to capitalise on that.

If you wanna take something away from this experience, it is the frame you naturally had at the party. The frame that said "I own this place, I am the man, and you should be lucky that you are here with me". If you can carry that into any bar, you'll do very well.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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I gotta know . . . what did your say to this HB8 when you were fluff talking?

You convinced her to give up her virginity with 20 minutes of fluff? Were you were the 1st guy to ever talk to her?

Well, maybe girl #1 bought her friend over so you could "take care" of her. I knew girls in High School who worked like that.
 
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Yeah Fash i did notice that I was in a very strong natural frame. I was the only person at the party who knew everyone. I had a person get annoyed with me in the pool. They got out and went and sat on there own for 5 mins. Everyone else stayed in the pool with me. They came back and apoligised. I kinda had the mindset that even if i did piss someone off its not like i didnt have anyone to talk to. I can see how this would have portrayed a strong character.

Phyzzle. The fluff talk truely was fluff talk. We talked about completely random sh!t. I cant remember the subjects. (Gotta remember it was a house party. Drug consumption doesnt help. After i found out she was a virgin I was trying to think why it had only taken me 20 mins to do what other blokes couldnt do in the past. (She has had prev boyfriends and stuff like that but never felt comfortable or right sleeping with her.)

I think the reasons she got with me were:

As Fash said above. A very strong social status with plenty of proof.
I was very confident with her. I started strong kino after talking to her for about 5 mins.
She would have heard good things from her friend as she really liked me at one point.
I did my best to make her feel comfortable. Not knowing she was a virgin. But being the host.
She had recently broken up with her Bf.
A nice house and pool always helps ;)


It was suprisingly easy. I dont know if it was just the situation or if I am just improving on my game all the time but its really boasting my confidence again when pulling so naturally.


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Shezz said:
oh and next time, invite me lol!
AND ME!!!!!!!!!!!!! :wave:
 

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After we retreat to the bedroom for a second session before returning to the party.
Strangly enough she got blood on my sheets? I was like WTF? She happened to be a virgin
Before you keep harping on this, its probably better that you're told now that that doesn't mean that she's a virgin. A girl that hasnt had sex in a while can bleed the first time she does again. I've had that happen with a girl ive been with in the past, and she was (likely) no virgin. This is to say nothing of women that have light periods.

And if there's any lie a woman will tell, it is that she is a virgin. It takes little effort for her to fabricate a general story about having several boyfriends, but not being comfortable enough with any of them to sleep with them; especially when she saw the same stain that you did! And of course our egos make us very prone to actually believe this. Unless you shadowed her every day of her life, I'd be more conservative and just conclude, maybe so maybe not, but who cares one way or the other?

The only definite evidence that she was a virgin would be if you examined her and saw an untorn hymen (and not all virgins have an untorn hymen). Because its physically impossible to have a complete round of intercourse and not break it.

Azanon
 

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Lol Fash and Shezz. You boys would steal all the ladies! Sorry lads. Didnt think. Will throw you both an invite next time i throw a big one. Promise.

Fash you should join me and shezz a week on Sat! (If thats ok with Shezz as it was his invite to me :D)

Night on the Sarge!


As for azanon....She seemed very inexperianced in bed (Althought i have only had 2 girls i ever thought knew what they were doing) and i have also cross referenced her stories with one of her friends and one of my friends inderpendantly. I am so para....no one ever lies to me and gets away with it.

Trust me she was a virgin. Oh not to mention she wouldnt let me finger her until we sex first time round.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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