"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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FR: Hottie turned b1tch...

Ken785

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so a couple weeks ago i was at this resturant eating with my friends from out of state. 4 tables ahead of me i spot this hb8.5 with 2 of her friends.hb7 and hb.7.2. I was trying to get eye contact with HB8.5 but to no avail. So after they finish eating i see them walk outside so i go outside for a smoke and i see them out there smoking in the front. I ask for a lighter...i chit chat with the girls but when i asked for their ages they jokingly say "oh im 16!...im 12" (kinda annoying) but hb8.54 did mention that they been going to community college for 3 years still didnt graduate...so i assume that theyre at least 20..

i played it stupid and said i had to go but i wanted hb8.5s number...i said i dont do this a lot. she said well first you usually ask for a name...then she gives me her name and then she said she didnt know her number...she said i can call her friend hb7 to get ahold of her....hb7 says "yeah she just got a new phone and blah blah" and then she says wait ill dial you...then i get it and exit back to my friends...

when i get back inside my boy...kind of a DJ says "IM SOO PROUD OF HIM!! I TAUGHT HIM WELL!!" to everyone in the group we were with (im pretty sure the girls on the outside heard since we were sitting next to the window and the door" ) ( taught me my a$$...i learn stuff from this site but he doesnt know...but hes been trying to show me how to "carrying myself" around people)

so anyways it was on saturday and i called on tuesday...and when i called she forgot who i was! then i asked her out to lunch and then she said shed be busy this whole week cuz she has 2 jobs and schol and blah blah...and she said shed call next week for dinner cuz lunch would be hard for her...so we say bye and she kinda says it in a way like shes not interested..

skip up to this week i didnt get i call so i call her and she forgets my name again and i asked when were gonna have dinner and she goes "actually...im going to japan..." i said when you gonna be back?? she said "uhh....juulllyyy..." and then i go on to say well...thats alright...and then the phone goes silent....then she hangs up...

so i text her saying ...

ken: youre very rude! please grow up. nice to meet you and your friends anyway. take care hb8.5.


hb8.5: I couldnt hear you. You were cutting off. You need to watch who youre talking to honey. I said i was going to give you a call later.

ken: sorry but you dont have to if you dont want to. i understand. take care.

...ok i know i went totally afc but i was told if you play the game stupid you dont come off as a player that does things like this a lot...so its an advantage if you look innnocent.

opinions?? i know this chick was trying to make it seem like its not her fault but she didnt show any signs of interest for me to believe we got cut off anyway...
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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You went AFC after she said "i was going to call you later" which is just her attempt at covering her own a$$. Her intentions and actions are two different things.

Your response to that could have been: I know who I'm talking to. A girl who has been given a chance to get to know an amazing guy and completely blown it.

NO TAKE CARE. NO " I UNDERSTAND " - It's called a true NEXT that makes her realize YOU ARE THE PRIZE AND NOW SHE DOESNT GET YOU.
 

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Okay, you are supposed to call girls out on their BS BUT YOU AREN'T supposed to sound like an angry jaded guy when you do it.

Other than that, I like how the pickup started.
 

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Your phone number was alright, but it's full of shaky foundation (the forgot number, the call each other crap, all signs of trouble).

I need not even mention the follow up (2 jobs, school, etc, and Japan!!! Hoo Hoo!)

Like I keep saying....If a girl is interested, she will make time for you.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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PectoralisMajor

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Ok, good work for getting her number.

This girl unfortunately for you is streetwise, she had you down before the word GO.

You took all her crap, and had so many chances to come back with ****y replies when she blanked you with the age thing and more. Worryingly, you couldn't see through her games, and you did not deal with them.

when she hit you with the busy schedule - man I'd be right back at her with:

'yea i'm also a busy guy. I work 2 jobs, go to the gym 3 times a week, play sport twice a week, and then there;s socialising to fit in around that'

now, in my case this is all true. If its not true for yourself, start doing, or lie to her to give yourself more value...

DO NOT, I repeat, do not say, 'oh yea, thats cool, I will call you back next week sometime'.

keep practicing, it will come.
 

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thanks bros...that chick did seem pretty immature anyways...another lesson learned...sarge on!
 
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