"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Yo, yo, yo!

Went out on a date with hb-9. She looks like a Russian model.
Anyway she is the epitome of a nerdy/shy girl. Works two jobs and never goes out.
Shes also really insecure it seems.

Took her on a date (she was super dolled up, looking hot) and tried to dance with her but she was bashful. (her toe is fractured so she was hesitant to dance, and apologized) I kissed her on the cheek as we danced. Lots of kino the entire time, great eye contact, and asking me lots of questions. Conversation was easy with her.

Anyway were sitting down in a booth type area, and talking and I saw her making glances at my lips every so often. I went in for the kiss, and she stopped me and said sorry. She feels bad etc, etc. She just got out of a LTR, wants to go slow. She looked like she was about to burst into tears.

She kept apologizing and tells me that she feels awkward now, I told her to not worry about it and we kept talking. I still kept kinoing and had my arms around her sometimes and called her a dork and other things.

I did a lot of cold reading type dialogue with her, just showing my perspective. Like, 'I could be full of ****, who knows, but I see that you have limiting beliefs, you say you are awkward, but who's saying that other than you? Who cares what people think'.
I even had her do cold reads on me. It's like she was bragging for me.
Me : I'm pretty shy too.
HB : No, I'd say that you are confident, and smart, you will do well in anything.
etc.

I was very clear in my intentions, and I think I have a shot at getting with her. I just never dealt with this type of girl, she apologizes for being awkward, shy and what not.

I honestly feel like the 'kiss rejection' wasn't even a rejection.
I'm happy I had the balls to step to a HB9.
How do you all think I should play this?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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shameless bump.

Comon fellas, 40 people read this and no response. :'(

Share the love <3
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Nice job on landing an hb9.

In my experience, if she says to take it slow it actually means keep moving at the pace you were moving at. I would set up another date, it seemed it went well.

Only this next date you need to build more attraction so she'll want to kiss you. But she does seem into you!
 
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According to Mystery (on p. 189 of his book,) she was opened to kissing but there was a logistical problem. He suggests that you say that you "understand," maintain comfort and kiss her later in private. On p. 186 there's more info on the kiss close.
 
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Maximus Rex said:
According to Mystery (on p. 189 of his book,) she was opened to kissing but there was a logistical problem. He suggests that you say that you "understand," maintain comfort and kiss her later in private. On p. 186 there's more info on the kiss close.
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I can't tell if your joking or not. Haha, just the way you present the information. Yeah I kept it going, but didn't attempt to kiss her again.

I'm thinking of inviting her out maybe wednesday, no more parties since she isn't into that. Maybe pool or a movie at my place.

I don't think I'm Friendzoned now haha. I mean I DID attempt the kiss. Put myself out there.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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shameless bump.

Comon fellas, 40 people read this and no response. :'(
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Hah, that happens, I know.

Seems like you are doing fine, she is just not used to it all. Just take it easy with her. I was in the same situation once, I was with a girl aged 22 who was goodlooking but still a virgin; she was shy and didn't care for the bar scene and dating games. I didn't try to charm her. I didn't go AFC either, like telling her I like her etc; I just spent time with her in a relaxed way. Things proceeded slowly but steadily.
 
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