"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Ken785

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so i have this friend of my cousins that came down to visit from out of town. He came with like 5 HBs. Saturday night me and my cousin went to a couple clubs in hollywood with them to show them a good time. When we got there at 12:30am one of the girls hb8 relized that she forgot her id at home. so my other cousin and his girl and his friend said they were going to go home cuz they were tired anyway. My cousins GF offered HB8 her id so she can get in the club. So now were out clubbing and having a good time. We went to 2 clubs, after the first one clsed at 2am we went to Avalon which closed at 4am. HB8 was showing me IOIs all night...i even got her to get a cigarrete for me at the club from a guy.

heres how it went...

ken: hey can you do me a favor?

hb8: yeah, what?

ken: can you go over to that guy and ask him something?, i wanna see the power of a woman in action!

hb8: (laughs) ask him what??

ken: can you ask him for a cigarette for me? (points at AFC)..ill bet he'll give it to you real quick!

hb8: ohh no...i cant do that...i cant use him for that...(laughs)

ken: no...i just wanna test this out and see if you can get it, im sure he wont give it to me if i ask...im a guy. Girls get in free at the club, guys pay. thats power! ill tell ya what...if you can get the cigarette ill do you a special favor later...but if you cant...you do me a favor? deal?

hb: deal!...(goes over to get the cigarette)

ken: see?? power of a woman baby! thanks! (kisses hb8 on the cheek)

hb8: i want a massage later!!

ken: cool...ill grant that!

at the club she was grinding me all night trying to feel my package..i was hard at first but after a lil bit i was...i was intententally trying to get myself hard so she didnt think i was gay...lol. there was other guys trying to dance all up on her and she wasnt feeling it and kinda made that face like "get this creep away from me!" putting her arm out to get me to pull her into me and dance with me.

so after the club its like 3:30am...and were walking to our car which was like 3 blocks away from the club. so were walking on hollywood blvd holding hands with my cousin and the other girls behind us just talking. In the car on the way home i was getting plenty of kino with my arm wrapped around her and her resting her heads on my shoulder. She was all like....

HB8: you dont have a girlfriend do you??

ken: nah...(laughs) YOU dont have one do you??

hb8: yeah i got 5 of them right here...(laughs)

so when we got home i was sure that i was going to get laid...i even had a sign come to me when i was looking for a shirt to wear in my closet and 2 condoms fell on the ground...

when we got home...all the girls went to bed because my cousin and everyone was already asleep (we had planned to drop that night after the club but we got home to late and they just knocked out) except for hb8 but she was in the room changing into pajamas. so i go in there and ask her if she still had that blunt on her dash..she said yeah....i figured it was a good idea to isolate her when her friends were going to bed. so we smoke it and talk...she tells me about her family and what she does and crap...blah blah...

i was trying to build an emotional connection. then we went to shoot pool and talk for some more but this is when i fvck up...

we were talking and she had to repeat herself a few times because i was too stoned to really open my ears...i think i was making stupid jokes that didnt make sense either because she was like "what??".

so after a couple games she was just like nice game...and then went in the other room to join her other friends and the bed. and i went to my room on my bed alone.....:cuss:


what do you guys think of this...what could i have done differently??

* side note. if anyones read the game by neil strauss...its true what he said on hollywood blvd..there are guys all over trying to hit the girl up. there was this one guy asking one of the girls where she lived and she said she was from out of town and then asked if he can see her later...she said no and he left.

there was even these 2 guys...1 6'3 skinny guy and this 5'3 bald dude that kept following us on the street and trying to talk to the girls we were with they followed us for like 2 blocks to the other club and they were right behind the 2 girls they were trying to approach and the girls were getting kinda creeped out so i get in between the 2 girls and put my arms around them and said...

ken: let me walk with my 2 wives...(girls giggle andput their heads on my shoulders) :cool:

midget bald guy: pssh...my 2 wives...

we even saw the 2 guys in the 2nd club again trying to approach the girls but they were kinda like whatever nice to meet you kinda thing.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Wow.. great field report. Thanks for sharing it because this is unlike the "It was all so easy, bing bang boom" report and shows both very good game on your part and some slip ups at the end that probably cost you the booty.

It sounds like at the club her IL was sky high for you and she was ready to go shake things up back at your place. I'd say that due to the fact that you two got home so late you were already tired and smoking that blunt only added to the fact. What would have worked better is probably some Rockstar 21s or vodka redbulls if your goal was to continue the partyin.

What I see missing from your field report are three key things.

1. Statement of Intent by you. Back at the house, a strong SOI such as "You look sexy as hell right now"

2. Lots of kino being applied

3. Kiss-Close followed by kino followed by more kissing
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Not quite sure you had your ace in the hole at any point, but good work up until you got back from the club.

You should have kept escalating right when you guys got back instead of smoking and going back for more emotional connex.
 

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i know huh?? i should have kissed her! dammit! but 4 of her friends were crammed in the SUV aling with my cousin in the front passenger...but man i should have thought of that and had the balls to say "do you want to kiss me??" after she asked if i had a GF...
 
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