"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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FR: HB 9.5 Approach in Starbucks

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Oh yeah! :) It feels so good.

So I dressed my best, my best shirt, shoes, pants and my best accessories.

Before I entered starbucks, I purchased a bottle of water to calm my nerves. (LOL) :D

I procceeded.

2 Steps. I get 2 EC's from 2 different girls.

Probably around 25 people in the vicinity who would witness what I was about to do.

a) wuss out
b) approach and get rejected
c) approach and be glorified by those AFCs around me! :D

Guess what happened? :D

I went to aim for C.

And guess what?

Check it out.

/me Takes a drink of bottled water*

/me Looks around. Pretending to look for someone

/her Looks at me

*EC*

/me walks to her

ME: Is this seat taken

HER: Nope.. :)

ME: May I?

HER: Sure. :)

ME: What's your name?

/me Extends hands to shake hers

/her complies

ME: Are you waiting for someone?

HER: Nope.. How about you?

ME: I'm meeting someone in like 25 minutes

HER: Your girlfriend?

ME: Maybe.

ME: So what brings you here?

HER: I just finished taping a commercial

ME: Really.. What commercial would that be?

HER: Kenny rogers...

*small BUT SENSIBLE talk*

ME: Oh I gotta run soon, put your # on my celphone

/her inputs her digits on my celphone

HER: I'm gonna save it as "Anj" ok? (her real name is angela)

ME: Sure, I'l give you a call sometime. It was nice meeting you.

/me extends hands as to shake hers goodbye

/her complies and smiles

HER: See you soon. :)

So ends here once again. Thanks for reading. Feedback welcome as always. :D

Conclusion: Don't be afraid to look your best and dress your best, for this is when girls show IOI and EC the most.

Just some final words. When I was about to approach her. It was not applied 3 second rule. It was hell.

My heart was pumping like it almost hurt. But it felt so good when she welcomed me when I sat down.

It was so easy. It feels like heaven, trust me, i'm not lying.

Once you get welcomed and u relax, your confidence is way up. Off the roof. LOL

Thanks again. Till my next FR. Peace! :)
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Originally posted by lets_do_this


ME: Sure, I'l give you a call sometime. It was nice meeting you.
"Maybe i'll call you sometime if you're lucky."
 

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I think he did well..Considering i couldn't do what he can do at this point. But yeah in a perfect world... That would of been ****y but it can't be flawless
 

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Bulletproof on the girlfriend question. Textbook example of cat - string technique.

Muy Bueno.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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RacerX, I met a globelines model before, she was a 9.

This was a 9.5 The hottest I've gone yet. I'd post pics, but I don't have the link to her friendster/myspace yet.

I'm waiting 2-3 days before I text/call her to appoint/schedule a date.

It keeps better and better. :D

I hope by my FR's people are encouraging other newbies. If you back track my posts, you can see me evolve. :)

PM me guys if you need advice, I'm still fairly new so i can still relate & backtrack to my AFC days. :)

MR.ruckus, I would have been ****y, but this girl was so HOT, I didnt wanna blow my chances by being overly ****y. :D

I'm trying to smoothen things first. :)

Roflcop, thanks. I'm, sure you'l be able to pull things like this off soon. It's really not that hard. I'm interested with your progress. PM me on your advances.
 

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Originally posted by Rollo Tomassi
Bulletproof on the girlfriend question. Textbook example of cat - string technique.

Muy Bueno.
I'm not sure about what you just said. It came natural to me. Could you link me to cat - string technique?

Maybe I've read about it.
 

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Hey Letsdothis:

What if the girl was reading the book/magazine, wht will u do.
as i have seen many girl hangout at star bucks with their serious faces pretendign to be the world greatest intelligent came to bucks for a coffee.

How will you handle this situattion.

You knew the things is i got rejectes in the same way,thts why ia m asking you this
 

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Originally posted by victor22
Hey Letsdothis:

What if the girl was reading the book/magazine, wht will u do.
as i have seen many girl hangout at star bucks with their serious faces pretendign to be the world greatest intelligent came to bucks for a coffee.

How will you handle this situattion.

You knew the things is i got rejectes in the same way,thts why ia m asking you this
victor, i'm no DJ. I'm still fairly new, but since you ask for my advice..

I would say, first of all a girl with a serious face, even when reading - if really interested, would still give EC or other IOI.

IF there are no signs of IOI, in my opinion, she may not be interested.

So if you approach a girl with no definate IOI, you risk getting rejected.

You could go with either:

a) Risk it, and get rejected

b) Risk it, and get her #

c) Move to next target.

The best thing to do is probably just ask her what she is reading.

The way I would do it personally is:

ME: Hi

HER: Yes?

ME: May I get to know you? (Or something to this extent; You see the prob is I speak in a native dialect in the philippines, and this may seem distant to what Its actual translation in ENGLISH. I hope you understand)

HER: - - - - - - - - - - - - - - (This is when you know if she is interested or not)

If not, there's nothing you can or could have done to change it. You move on to next target. This is only my opinion and advice.

It feels better to be rejected than to never have tried at all, imo. :)
 

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"Maybe i'll call you sometime if you're lucky."
If he would have said that, that probably would have ruined everything. I swear you people act like this is a James Bond movie - it doesn't work this way in real life. You say that to a woman when you first meet her, she's gonna think you're a total @$$hole.

What he said was to her was perfect.

I swear, some of you idiots take this C&F way too far.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Originally posted by Zombie
If he would have said that, that probably would have ruined everything. I swear you people act like this is a James Bond movie - it doesn't work this way in real life. You say that to a woman when you first meet her, she's gonna think you're a total @$$hole.

What he said was to her was perfect.

I swear, some of you idiots take this C&F way too far.
i couldnt agree more...
The thing with girls who are already presenting IOI, you dont need c&f, not initially anyway. Upon building rapport would c&f become more vital to maintaining attraction
 

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RE:

Ive met alot of women in coffee shops and you can usually zero in on whats going on by the look in their eyes, and their body language. You can usually tell within the first 10 seconds. If she's constantly looking down at her magazine or book then she doesnt want to be bothered but if she shuts her reading material or stops and looks up to talk then you're in.


And no you dont close by telling her "only if you're lucky" if you make sure you're saying it with alot of sarcasm and humor otherwise you've blown it.
 

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@SeldomSeen Yes that's true. EC is always a good sign. Plus if she puts on a rude face, like "Dont bother me face" She probably doesnt wanna be bothered, or is actually waiting for someone.

@ScrewIT I couldn't agree more either. :D

@Docs, thanks for the support. You got PM. I already read that thread you posted. About conversation. Good post. :)
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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