"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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FR: Fun, Women and Good Times!

Syren

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Present: Syren, Qpid, Next Gen, Pheonix, Pied_Piper, Zoolander, Voo

Saturday was the night of Syrenergy, the Harlequinja's ventured out without our organiser extrodinaire Harlequin and set about living up to our previous nights. I'm more than proud to say I think we managed and then some :D Read on... Unless you smell, in which case go shower, then read on.

We met in Tiger Tiger, RAAAAR!... which is a great place to start since there are always hot women, the place has a good look and feel to it, becoming of an APUA. I feel right at home here and have fond memories of strolling into a private party and stealing their food ;) Zoolander bounces up and say's hello, this guy is always well dressed and makes a good impression, and BOOM out of nowhere everyone else joins us. It's like a family reunion, there's so much man love... In a good way... Hey Pheonix... Did you just touch my ass?

I open a pleasant set, there is one HB9 in it and the set is pretty open to me, I used my easter chocolates routine which went down a treat. They liked me and things were going well, they headed to sit down right next to where we were sitting. Cool I thought, I'll wing some of the guys in. I winged Voo into their set with the "Is it ok to break up by txt message" opener and he holds it pretty well. He's advancing. Our general energy levels are great and we're having fun, so much so that random people come and open us.

BOUNCE TIME... BOING BOING

We head to d-fusion which is becoming our little sarge-o-matic 5000 type location. It's not too busy, plenty of comfort locations, great look and feel to the place, and a consistent supply of HBs, plus the owner adores us. I see a cute blonde sat all alone, so I wait to see if she has a BF or is with a friend, always much better to open with the BF present if there is one. Avoids that "who's this guy" moment. Her friend comes back just as I was busting on guys to go open. They go "Show me how its done"

I walk on over to make their day, ask if they know ray, mould some clay and rake some hay, avoid dismay, prove I ain't gay and maybe... PLAY

Ahem. The blonde is a solid 8 up close, really cute:

Me:"Hey guys, how are ya? Good? Good.. I'm just proving you won't bite my head off for coming over to say hi"
HB: *pretends to bite head off*
Me: "Heh, you're a bad one ;)"

We moved on to easter chocolates (I'm loving that lately, what girl doesn't love chocolate?), which went down ok and opened them up. Then we got onto movies and she mentioned anchorman as one of her favorites.

SHE LIKES ANCHORMAN!

Holy crap. Anyone who knows the Leeds guys knows we love quoting anchorman and Ron Burgundy at people to scare them. I say "You win a hug", and her body language clams up, so I give her a push and a slight back turn and go hug voo. She then goes through some more movies and I react well to one of them, and she goes for the hug... I say "No, you LOST your hug privileges miss :p" She then time bridges me to the place we were heading next. Excellent, the first of two time bridges girls will do to me tonight, I was ON... So finally Next Gen and Phenoix join us, and energy levels treble from the already super dooper high. Qpid gets verbally assaulted by a VERY VERY strange coat lady... and we shoot the **** for a little while. I went to number close the blonde and she puts in my phone "Dave the blonde" as her name. I love it when they try to stand out :D

We head to brb, MAN I love that place when its not too full. It's full of very attractive women and the music isn't too obnoxiously loud. I find myself dancing near two girls I considered 8.5 and 9. Leeds is FULL of hot women, where do they all go during the rest of my life, its like these bars spawn hot women or something. Anyhoo, I send a few of the guys into open them, they hold the set and do a very good job, pied_piper is an opening MACHINE! I roll into set and I'm holding them both pretty well, HB9 the cute blonde's kino is ON. I eject to go take a piss and come back to them, I bring pheonix nearby and talk to him with my back to them... This guy always looks great he's INSTANT social proof... and they open me. :cool: I mention I gotta disappear, they try to time bridge me to a club I'm not heading to. RIGHT HERE, I could have taken the number, instead I said "I guess I'll see you guys here sometime". Wow, the look on their faces, they aren't used to hearing that. Harlequin's Timer Bridge is GOLD

I had so much fun busting on the guys and shootin the poo, I missed Next Gen, great guy to have around. I just had SO MUCH fun all night. I wouldn't miss a Leeds night out for the world. It was a pleasure guys.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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