"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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FR: First bar number close

theunflushables

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Recently my brother moved out of state for a job. He left his bicycle at my parents house and I grabbed it today when I was over for dinner until I can afford the bike that I want. On a whim tonight I took it for a ride down to the bar a few blocks away with no intentions but having a few pints.

Just as I was finishing up my first pint and thinking about grabbing another before last call a group of people came up to my table asking if they could sit. Filled me up on my pint and also got some free cans of beer as well.

I started chatting up one of the girls in the group managed to get some negs in and she iniated the kino, which I in turn responded with some kino of my own.

About this time the bartenders were begining to kick people out. I said something to her like "Hey, I think you're pretty cool and would like to hang out sometime. Give me your number and I will call you on Wednesday. She gave me her number and we left.

I am pumped that I sarged her in under 15 minutes, but any comments/criticisims will be much appreciated.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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you ever been to a bar alone? Probably once, and thought you were so out of place you gave off all sorts of negative vibes. People aren't going to look at you weird cause you're in a bar alone, that's just $hit in your head and your own attitude.
 

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Yeah, she did ask if I was there with people or alone. I told her that I was by myself and that I had fancied a pint so I came down to grab one or two before last call.
 

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HardTimes said:
It's a fake number or she won't pick up.
great positive thinking there :crackup: . Come on dude, don't be a downer :nono:
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I know what happened there. You were alone with no intention of pulling anyone. You wanted to have a break. So basically you got a little tipsy and were totally non needy. With that vibe, and considering the fact she had little options (bars was closing), she might have liked your honest and clear intention to close her.

To San Hose, I agree with your views on going out alone, your thinking is only normal, but I say give it a break man.. just be a bit more positive for a while.
 

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HardTimes said:
It's a fake number or she won't pick up.
Even if it is, its at least a start for me. I usually hook up with people that I know, never did the whole bar pick up before.

And what the hell, lets settle if this is a fake number or a no response right now. Blues on the Mall is tomorrow night, I'll see if she wants to go down with me.

Damn, got "Verizon wireless customer is not available at this time please try your call again later" So unless her phone just so happened to get turned off today, I'm guessing I got a fake. Oh well.
 

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theunflushables said:
Damn, got "Verizon wireless customer is not available at this time please try your call again later" So unless her phone just so happened to get turned off today, I'm guessing I got a fake. Oh well.
or she doesn't have voice mail and it's off or busy. I'd give it another try, maybe tomorrow. If it's the same, then just on to the next one.
 

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theunflushables said:
Damn, got "Verizon wireless customer is not available at this time please try your call again later" So unless her phone just so happened to get turned off today, I'm guessing I got a fake. Oh well.
Yep. I called it right.
 

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San Jose California said:
drama obsessed losers like you
Right.. not negative at all.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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