FR: Failed kiss close. Where'd I go wrong?

[ElStud]

Okay so I'm just in the band area and start talking to this one girl. And throughout the beggining there's definitely interest, you know, us talking about rapport stuff like band. And throughout the convo I tried to escalate and stuff. By escalate I mean softer escalation like putting my arm around her to which she didn't resist. Then the end comes and right before I reject, I'm thinking about going for the kiss fora few seconds then pucker up and try to kiss her but she resists and rejects saying "How about a hug?". Anyway, Whatever kino I was doing obviously wasn't enough to make her comfortable enough to kiss me.

So anyway after that, I didn't really react I just said "Okay" and continued on with the interaction. After that I ejected and closed the set. Oh well, in the end it was better than not having the balls to go for it and just ejecting like I usually do.

2 things off the bat I could've done wrong were A. Not escalating enough and B. Thinking about the kiss and not letting it happen naturally. Also, since I'm trying to escalate to the kiss fast, I should've done heavier escalation.

 

[AlexTheGreat]

How long were you talking to the girl for? Had you ever met her before?

I believe you went too fast for your game, and she wasn't hot enough for you just yet.

 

[ElStud]

How long were you talking to the girl for? Had you ever met her before?

I believe you went too fast for your game, and she wasn't hot enough for you just yet.

Probably true, her buying temperature probably wasn't high enough so even if she was a little interested, her BT wasn't up to the point where she would actually kiss me. In clubs and bars, a womens BT is naturally raised because the environment, so this makes kissing easier there. But you're right, she probably wasn't "hot enough" as you say.

 

[Aristotle]

You need to make a deeper connection. One way to do so is by recognizing the significant beliefs a girl has, such as the belief that everything happens for a reason, and exemplifying that in your life's experience during the conversation.

You would be surprised how easy it is to make a philosophical connection, especially if you are aware of the similarities between different philosophies. If you can do this, a girl will believe that you "get" her and that will be sufficient as far as conversation.

From a deep connection, kino has much more impact. Whereas if you fail to make a connection, kino from a stranger is creepy; for if you do that sort of thing to people that you just met, many will wonder what you will do with those that you know well. You want your touch to be a prize, not the contrary.

 

[HandyAndy]

 

[TheBaconator]

Am I the only one who got a mental picture of Kevin James puckering up in hitch after hearing this post lol?

You don't want the advice people are going to give here Elstud, so why bother? They will tell you to escalate further, slow down, and not go for the kiss close right off the bat.

These along with you not actually knowing when a girl is interested led to her turning you down. But you just keep on thinking she wasn't "hot" enough.

 

[sprint]

hahahahahahahaha :crackup: :crackup: :crackup: :crackup: :crackup:

oh man I was waiting for this post. Some funny ****.

 

[Flabbergasped?]

I say it's a good start.

Read up on Style's work, he had trouble getting the kiss after a good interaction. It's all about buying temperature. You have to put her in the trance state where she's thinking about nothing except hooking with you.

I'll admit I'm not a master on getting kisses out of cold approaches in the daytime, but this is what I do at parties/bars. Establish the connection, deep eye contact, triangular gaze. This has to be after some smooth game.

Either way, props for making the move. Now, do that a hundred more times, and you'll be posting about how you have so many girls to choose from.

 

[r0cky]

You didn't calibrate the kiss. You should've given more kino, if you did then I definetly think you could've plowed some more. When she said "just a hug" you should've said no how about a kiss on the cheek, then point to the other cheek, then go for the lips.