"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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FR: Daygame in NYC 4 - #close (audio)

Rocky_Wayne

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Today was a great day for game. Lots of women out and nice weather. I open a ton of sets but nothing was sticking. My main focus today was approaching moving sets and escalating from open to conversation with every set, even those that are walking away. For me walking sets are tough to hook, so i was expecting to do a lot of approaches that wouldnt hook.
#close - I opened a hot asian girl at the park sitting with her laptop. As soon as I started walking up to her she started packing up to leave so the fact that she was leaving cut the convo short. Click this link if you want to listen to the first half of the convo up to the numnber close. You get to hear me ask for her number. The other half got cut off because i was using my phone as the voice recorder and i had to take it out to number close her. In retrospect, I could've kept recording while dialing her number, but this is the first time i ever record myself. Either way, the first half is the most important part, this is basically what i say to every girl. You can tell that what i say is pretty simple and uninteresting, the most important part is the vibe I give and the kino.

This is what I would call a YES girl. Meaning a girl that takes little convincing to close because I already fit her archetype and/or shes in the mood to meet somebody. This is why this close was so easy. Nevertheless, even with YES girls it is easy to fail. I think what made this work so well is the fact that I was not expecting anything out of this interaction. It was pretty much another set which I felt uncomfortable to approach so I had to open her. My motto when I'm out is "if it feels uncomfortable to approach then you must approach". There are still many circumstances which are totally out of my reality to approach such as girls with guys, on the phone, or in stores. I must work on those eventually.
There are many things I could've done better in this approach, specifically making the interaction last longer to minimize the chances of flaking.

I think the biggest lesson i learned today is that its better to save yourself some energy and have no expectations at all, neither good nor bad, from any approach.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I admit that i speak kinda sloppy. I used to micro manage my words but that only puts my focus in the wrong place. I've learned people in social situations dont give a zhit about the words but how they feel around you. The less i strive for perfection the more they loosen up.
 

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Rocky_Wayne said:
There are many things I could've done better in this approach, specifically making the interaction last longer to minimize the chances of flaking.
Rex has nothing to add because that's how a cold approach pick up was suppose to go, and what you said in the quote. All the other stuff will come in time. Just next time, when (as you said,) make the interaction last longer (strictly for the purposes of building rapport,) with this one chick, I would have bounced to her to Starbucks or that Pax Sandwiches on 6th and 40th for a more solid number close. Other than that, keep up the good work.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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