FR: Damn guys, severly blown out last night, yet didn't flinch or get into fight.

[Poonani Maker]

I don't know what happened. I'm there most of the night socializing with all peoples, played pool, talked with some Fat, but cute chicks, some lower-valued and older dudes. I pretty much made my rounds, and got along kinda fine with everyone, especially the fat chick(s). THEN, wow, I went up to one of the hb8 or 9s as she was sitting down alone but in a group and (I says to myself - not drunk btw, just water - wtf 'do it') tapped her on the right shoulder and she reacted VERY skiddish I'd say, she jumped and was like "How dare you touch me!" and I just asked her if she was with this group of people who I'd already sorta talked with a little earlier, and she's like "What? what?" Then she gets up and backs away from me like I've got the plague. Then her two girlfriends ask me what I want and I said, "All I said was if she was with you guys" and they calmed her down and introduced themselves to me shaking my hand and giving me their names.

Talk about Clique guys. That was weird. I just remained calm through the whole interaction, because I've been through absolute Hell and back and have nerves of steel. Nothing phases me.

Right after that episode, I walked behind the 3 girls, spoke to another one of her friends who was kind of a loner of the bunch, pale-skinned blonde (depressed? - she seemed depressed, I'd talked with her earlier in the night one on one - REAL Flat hateful personality - I think she's a devout atheist) white girl, and I said, "Hello Jan, how's it going?" and she says, "About to go, I'm bored" and I say, "You Look bored." Anyway, here I am reacting to what a woman says. I was finally beginning to Crack, because I just haven't been flat out Rejected or "abused" like that in a Long time.

Women, even when they're not hb9s, let alone hb10s, can be extremely RUDE. If she'd been my wife, I would have divorced her on the spot, and come close to slapping her, but Thank God she's just another broad.

I will never talk to these people again if I ever see them.

 

[Don Israel]

This is a great simple post. As Djs, Puas or players, it's really important to maintain composure no matter what - the true mark of a real man. Italso shows higher value to them, and in turn, it will brew up respect on their part no matter what they might think of you.

 

[Scars]

There's a lot of things I can see that you did wrong.

Why were you talking to lower valued fat chicks? Whether you intended to or not you did a DLV on yourself by doing so. You were seen socializing with these people and immediately lost your credibility. The only reason I would talk to somebody I wasn't interested in meeting (a hott girl or a cool guy that I thought was chill) was if they were the owner of the party house, then night club owner, bartender or somebody else that would greatly benefit my game by becoming friends with. You should of approached the HB8 and HB9 earlier, you took too long to muster up your courage.

Secondly, tapping her on the shoulder dude? That does NOT work. Unless she has already given you some extreme IOIs or you look like a super model or something it will just not work. The reason she acted so "skiddish" is because you broke her comfort barrier (kinoing her) before she had any chance of getting to know you. Perhaps if you had opened a little differently with a C+F line, worked up her interest and then proceeded to touch her she might of reacted a little differently. But tapping her on the shoulder made you look no different than any other creeper who's tried picking on her.

As for the other girl she was probably having a bad night. One thing I've noticed is once your game gets thrown off it just kind of snowballs from there, unless you are incredibly good at bouncing back up and shrugging sh!t off. Just don't let it bother you. I respect the fact that you kept approaching even after being coldly rejected, but one man can only take so much so it's understandable. You did more than most guys here would, at least you made an effort. Live and learn, keep that cool composure buddy.

 

[daygameguy]

Yeah I agree. If you wanna touch - make them notice you and let them expect the touch. Otherwise it is creepy.

But other than your mistake, you have to accept than not EVERY human is NORMAL, it's with both guys and girls, some people are just fvcked up. They don't deserve your time.

Go for the girls who are compatible with your personality, I'm sure they are plenty. Just move on when you meet the rotten ones.

 

[Solomon]

There's a lot of things I can see that you did wrong.

Why were you talking to lower valued fat chicks? Whether you intended to or not you did a DLV on yourself by doing so. You were seen socializing with these people and immediately lost your credibility. The only reason I would talk to somebody I wasn't interested in meeting (a hott girl or a cool guy that I thought was chill) was if they were the owner of the party house, then night club owner, bartender or somebody else that would greatly benefit my game by becoming friends with. You should of approached the HB8 and HB9 earlier, you took too long to muster up your courage.

Secondly, tapping her on the shoulder dude? That does NOT work. Unless she has already given you some extreme IOIs or you look like a super model or something it will just not work. The reason she acted so "skiddish" is because you broke her comfort barrier (kinoing her) before she had any chance of getting to know you. Perhaps if you had opened a little differently with a C+F line, worked up her interest and then proceeded to touch her she might of reacted a little differently. But tapping her on the shoulder made you look no different than any other creeper who's tried picking on her.

As for the other girl she was probably having a bad night. One thing I've noticed is once your game gets thrown off it just kind of snowballs from there, unless you are incredibly good at bouncing back up and shrugging sh!t off. Just don't let it bother you. I respect the fact that you kept approaching even after being coldly rejected, but one man can only take so much so it's understandable. You did more than most guys here would, at least you made an effort. Live and learn, keep that cool composure buddy.

What scars said is on point

If you can bounce back and keep cool under pressure its a beatiful thing. There have been nights where I thought all was lost re-calibrated and finished strong and there have been nights and days, where it all "snowballed" readjust your frame/attidude and go in with more energy you be aight

 

[Hughman]

What scars said is on point

If you can bounce back and keep cool under pressure its a beatiful thing. There have been nights where I thought all was lost re-calibrated and finished strong and there have been nights and days, where it all "snowballed" readjust your frame/attidude and go in with more energy you be aight

Ditto that - always keep your cool, and if you feel like loosing it, got take a breath of fresh air, have a drink of water and splash some on your face. Think of the times when you've been on top and bounce back to where you were, or if want/can, somewhere else!

 

[Kevin Feng]

It's just rejection, it's all part of the game

"A good sales-man knows that if he closes 1 out of 20 sales, he's done his job" - Asian Playboy

Believe me there have been plenty of times that I've been blown out harshly in sets, here's the thing, you need to learn not to give a ****, because if you do, it's only going to screw your state up and ruin night.

One of my good wings back in Los Angeles, me and him used to play a game on who could get blown out harder, it helps you realize that encountering rude people is no big deal.

Don't worry about it, just move on.

-Kevin

 

[nismo-4]

Touching on the shoulder is a creepy move. That is a credibility killer (This is DLV folks!) The time was wrong and so were you. Remember that it's THEIR loss, not yours.

Scars was definitely on point!