"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

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I think I remember reading on here somewhere that concert dates are bad....

:crackup:

A good 30 minute drive either way allowed for some good convo. The concert itself was incredible...plenty of chance for kino, getting very close to her to tell her something because of how loud it was, and she loved the music, despite never hearing it before.

Me and her clicked right away. She let me use her chapstick when leaving for the concert and shared a water with me. Getting back from the concert to drop her off, we were still in the car and she gave me a hug and said thanks. I said, "Wait a minute," grabbed her and we made out for a couple minutes before she stumbled out the door and went inside.

Pretty good, if I do say so myself. :D
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Seems either I got ahead of myself or something happened in between, because this went from hot to cold in no time.

Last Thursday in class I let her know that I was going to be tied up until the next Thursday, so we should hang out on that Friday since our schedules don't match up all that well. I also said I'd give her a call on the weekend.

I called Sunday night and didn't leave a message, because I hate leaving them and don't even leave them for friends. Tuesday night I called and left a short message. No call back. I see her Thursday in class, and on our walk out of the class I try to warm her up a bit with some jokes and whatnot. I ask her if we're still on for Friday night, and she says she's made plans with her friends. I joke with her some more and then ask when her next free time is after Friday, and she says she doesn't know.

So now it's obvious that she's no longer interested, and it could be due to a million different things. It's just really surprising given the energy she had the other night while making out. :p

The only thing I can think of to do now is freeze her out in class (no initiated convos on my behalf, but I'll answer her if she asks something), and try to get another girl or my hot TA laughing. So I'll be moving on but looking to see if there's any change on her part.

Any advice or disection? The only thing that really comes to mind is that because she's 19, she might've gotten pissed that I didn't call her the day after the concert, and so she nexted me. :down:
 
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This happened because you had no chance to build solid repore. IE, she got buyer's remorse after making out with you.

According to mystery method, you have to do attraction 1 2 3, comfort 1 2 3, seduction 1 2 3, in the correct order or else things like this will happen.

Sounds like you jumped into comfort 3 way before she was ready, and so she felt bad for making out with a guy she barely knew.

Check out Mystery Method for more info.
 
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I'm not really that familiar with Mystery Method outside of what was in The Game.

I talked with her for about 30 minutes the first time I met her (in class, after class), and over an hour the night of the date before getting the kiss close from her. It just seems hard to believe that that was moving too fast. Could you explain more?
 
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