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FR: Bad Number Close

McKindley

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The other night me and a whole bunch of my friends were over at a friend's house. I like this girl that was there, and she was about to go home for the night.

We'd been dancing together at the concert we went to, and she took my arm on the walk back to my friend's place. I know for a fact that she digs me, because she'd told my friend that she did.

She was sitting next to me on the couch, and there were about 4 or 5 of our friends sitting around with us. Since I knew she was about to leave I said, "hey, you should give me your number so I can take you out next week."

She got really embarrassed and made up some wierd excuse and left.

She works with a friend of mine, and he said she got embarrassed because I asked her out in front of a bunch of our friends. Apparently you're not supposed to do that.

So what do you guys think, is this one of those things that is specific to that girl, or do you think that from now on I should pull a girl aside, away from the group to ask for her number

(P.S. this isn't the first time I've gotten rejected asking for a girl's number in front of a few friends)
 

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Probably specific to the girl. If she wanted to give you her number, you would have it.

It's not like you have to Jedi mind trick a girl to get her number. She will be happy to give it to you. Probably you should examine what happened before the number close.

You don't have to say "...so I can take you out." Simply say "That was a lot of fun, give me your number." or "Let's exchange numbers." or something like that.

But it's not like the method of asking will make or break it for you.
 

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From my experience, i tend to think girls would be hesitant to give their number in front of their friends.
 

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I've gotten numbers in front of a girl's friends before. Often others in the group will also offer up their numbers.

Your girl was either

a) Too shy/insecure
b) Uninterested
c) concerned that her friends didn't like you
 

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She'll give up the number on live television if she likes you.
 

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McKindley

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I think it was that she is just really shy. Cause I know she is. Which explains why, even though we're in our twenties, she's telling my FRIEND that she likes me, so he can tell me. That's kind of middle school in retrospect.

And I know her friends like me, because we're all a big ol' group that hangs out. And it was my birthday, so the kids that were there all made special effort to be there on my birthday.

From now on I'll just keep in mind that you can't do that sort of thing with shy girls.
 
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