"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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FR at School: What did I do wrong here?

ElStud

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This basically identical to the FR I posted in the High School Forum but no one was replying there. This FR will also not contain the first approach because I'm not really concerned with that one. The thing I'm most concerned with is the first one where something weird happened, she acted all interested, then turned her back to me.

So I was at lunch and I approached this one girl.
Me: Hey! So I know you’re excited for the football game tonight!
Girl: Yeah, I am.
Me: What I can’t hear you speak up.
Girl: Oh I said yeah I am.
Me: So let’s say theoretically you see me at the football game, I want you to say “Hey Mike!” to me.
Girl: I’ll definitely do that!
Me: So you will?
Girl: Yeah! Let’s pinky square on it!
[She puts her pinky out]
Me: What’s pinky squaring?
[I put my pinky and cross it with hers]
Girl: Cool.
Me: Yeah, I do band.
Girl: Really? What do you play?
Me: Saxophone. Yeah, I might say something to you if I see you but I might be too busy.
Girl: Cool.
Me: Well what classes do you have though?
[And she starts ignoring me despite being all interested before, while I talk]
Me: Well, I’ll see you at the game.
Girl: Definitely!
Game is tonight so some advice before then would be good. Whether she REALLY does it or not will really show whether she was just interested or playing.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Magma

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Hmmm. My initial impression is that the problem occurred when you transitioned from "pinky swearing" (I won't even get into that, but decent job of making fun of it) to saying "I do band." You may have wanted to try and eject after the pinky thing with a false time constraint and a bit more kino.

Example: "Hey, I gotta run (as you touch her arm or shoulder). Give me a shout at the game, alright?" (keeping in mind good, solid eye contact and a delivery with confidence)

When you just blurt out, "I do band," what that tells me is that you're trying to qualify yourself to her. We don't need to be doing that. That right there MAY have turned her off. I don't know, I wasn't there. Good luck sir.
 

ToughLove

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dont ask questions such as "whats pinky swearing?" it makes u look stupid

also why dont u get to know her A LITTLE at least before assumping rapport

name, age, where shes from, if shes single, how old she is
 
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