"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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FR: Approached this Asian girl on the bus, got rejected.

ElStud

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Well today was the last day of school and that's why I decided to approach this Asian girl I wanted to talk to. So I open the set saying "Hey" ask about her project blah blah blah, ask her a few questions and yeah. After that, I basically just talked about what I was gonna do for the weekend holding eye contact with her and such and she's nodding her head and sh*t.

Then when I start talking about how I know her friend, she eventually starts warming up smiling and such. When I asked how she knew that friend she told me they were both swimmers. Then I talked about how I liked girls who did sports because they weren't lazy. So the bus is almost to it's stop and I say "Can I call you?" and she's like "Um... I don't really pick up the phone that much" and that was that.

Then I high fived her told her I'd talk to her again if I saw her at graduation and she was like okay.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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One thing I've learned is to never ask the girl if you can call her. Instead, you should have said, "We should talk sometime. Let me have your number," or some variant thereof.
 

chance

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LOL @ "Um... I don't really pick up the phone that much"
 

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I agree with the other poster, you made the mistake of asking if you can have her #.

You should have asked her if she HAS a phone #. Just say to her "Do you have a #?"

You gave her an out and she took it.

The other thing I want to mention is that your conversation seemed boring. I almost fell asleep just reading the first paragraph. Why didn't you get to know her? Why didn't you make a few jokes?

You found out she's a swimmer, good then say something like "You know I think that in a triathlon they should put swimming last, That way there's no quiters."
 

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Well you didn't have her fully attracted but your close was very weak. Women are so fickle that a weak close can sink something that might've developed. Like the other poster said never asking a girl "Can I call you.." just say "Hey you wan't me to call you..what's your number" or just ask for the number.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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I command them. Yesterday my roommate and I met some people after rock climbing and invited them over to my place. We chatted up and smoked up, and I basically told the girl I was focusing on to give me her contact info. Works like a dream every time ;)

(after that, you're on your own bud. See how your game is)
 

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...Damn! I bet a white girl would have said '"Ok," hhaahahahahaha lol.
 

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j0n024 said:
...Damn! I bet a white girl would have said '"Ok," hhaahahahahaha lol.
No useful woman would have said "OK" in this situation. The only exception is if your game is good and they enjoy your company. You could have said "hey jie, my bus stops here let me have your number and I call you sometime" or some variance.
 

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Amoka apparently you didnt get the joke, jeez people take sh1t to seriously.
 

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Damn that sucks...but what would of been worst is if u demanded it and she still refused lmao.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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First...i would've spit out maybe 2 sentences then say "Let me get your number" or "What's your number"

Me personally, I can't sit there and bullshit around without going straight for the number
 

HalfAddict

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Dude try doing my favorite thing to do....

*hand her phone*
Give me your number.

The plus side is she'll put her name in there too... In case you forgot it within minutes of meeting her, or you never bothered to ask.

Another thing I do lol not so much on purpose.
 

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Maybe its a cultural thing which we would never do here where I live, but i would NEVER EVER high five a girl! Having read that I would guess your age at 14-15. High five might be okay when u r playin pool with ur girl against another team or whatever other example there is. But high 5in a stranger, ... no no NO.
 

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Grizou said:
Maybe its a cultural thing which we would never do here where I live, but i would NEVER EVER high five a girl! Having read that I would guess your age at 14-15. High five might be okay when u r playin pool with ur girl against another team or whatever other example there is. But high 5in a stranger, ... no no NO.
I agree. High fives are for when you win something, or burn someone.

High fiving a girl you just got rejected by? Awwwk-ward....
 

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I am impressed at your tenacity man, you've really been working hard at this for awhile. Keep it up and by the time you're 21 you're going to be king of the nightlife.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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ElStud said:
Well today was the last day of school and that's why I decided to approach this Asian girl I wanted to talk to. So I open the set saying "Hey" ask about her project YOU'RE BECOMING BORING , SHE KNOWS YOU DONT CARE ABOUT HER PROJECT blah blah blah, ask her a few questions and yeah. After that, I basically just talked about what I was gonna do for the weekend holding eye contact with her and such and she's nodding her head and sh*t.

Then when I start talking about how I know her friend, she eventually starts warming up smiling and such. When I asked how she knew that friend she told me they were both swimmers. Then I talked about how I liked girls DONT GIVE IoI's . WAIT FOR HER TO GIVE YOU THAN YOU CAN GIVE THEM BACK. YOU SHOULD HAVE NEG HER , SAY , GOOD YOU DO SWIMMING BECAUSE IF YOU DID OTHER SPORT YOU WOULD BE SWEATY . I DONT LIKE SWEATY GIRLS who did sports because they weren't lazy. So the bus is almost to it's stop and I say "Can I call you?" GIMME YOUR NUMBER BIATCH and she's like "Um... I don't really pick up the phone that much" LOL , LAUGH AT HER , TELL HER SHE'S LAME WITH EXCUSES and that was that. AND CLOSE THE DEAL . NO NEED TO HI5 HER , NO NEED TO TALK TO HER AGAIN . SHE CAN FVCK HERSELF.

Then I high fived her told her I'd talk to her again if I saw her at graduation and she was like okay.
Thats how its done.
 
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