"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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FR: Approached a set at school.

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Me: Hey, you seem like an intersting girl! You probably had an interesting weekend!
[And she laughs but doesn't say anything]
Me: Anyway, I'll tell you about my weekend... so there was this after party in band.
[And I see her friend not replying and not wanting to get pulled out of the set I talk to her friend]
Me: So you're not going to introduce me to your friend? That's rude.
[And she like laughs for a while and eventually goes]
Girl: Oh that's Chiz.
Girl2: Yeah, I'm Chiz.
Me: Yeah, I think I saw you at the mall this summer. What store was that?
Girl2: Oh, I think that was Metro Parks.
And the set ends, and the girls eventually move to another spot.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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ElStud said:
And the set ends, and the girls eventually move to another spot.
That's cause it's weird. You can't just come in and ask about their weekend with an opener like that, it's not a smooth transition. Of course it doesn't have to be smooth, but usually when it's not, it's spontaneous, and you're set was not spontaneous.

You need to engage the WHOLE set from the moment you enter. Young women have short attention spans, snap snap and she's wondering when you'll leave.

ElStud said:
Hey, you seem like an intersting girl! You probably had an interesting weekend!
That telegraphs too much interest, you're not cool yet. They see no value in you, they won't want to tell you about their weekends. Raise value first.

I suggest you study Mystery's Method, I think it would suit you more, no matter how many times you say you don't like routines.

Direct and Indirect game are the same, you are still using routines, it's just that when you're doing it "Natural", you get a man sense of what to say and when to say it, it's still a routine, just not a "memorized-from-computer-screen" routine. So don't make a big deal about disliking canned material.

Open, time constraint, neg (If the target is hot), hook, DHV, comfort. You can leave after DHVing and build comfort later. Engage the WHOLE set, and KINO right away.

The stories you tell are lame, you keep saying that it's all about the way you project it and it doesn't matter, so why don't we try a little experiment?

Try MM, get a few canned routines to tell. Then approach a different set with your own "Natural" stories which you feel project "Your personality", and see which as the best results.

It's true that it's important to project your personality, but the personality you're projecting is just boring. Did you ever consider that you should change your personality? Become more interesting?

And why do I get the feeling that you lurk around school at lunch by yourself all day? Do you have any friends? Because you NEVER mention them, and when you go sarging at malls, you never bring them.
 

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That's cause it's weird. You can't just come in and ask about their weekend with an opener like that, it's not a smooth transition. Of course it doesn't have to be smooth, but usually when it's not, it's spontaneous, and you're set was not spontaneous.

You need to engage the WHOLE set from the moment you enter. Young women have short attention spans, snap snap and she's wondering when you'll leave.



That telegraphs too much interest, you're not cool yet. They see no value in you, they won't want to tell you about their weekends. Raise value first.

I suggest you study Mystery's Method, I think it would suit you more, no matter how many times you say you don't like routines.

Direct and Indirect game are the same, you are still using routines, it's just that when you're doing it "Natural", you get a man sense of what to say and when to say it, it's still a routine, just not a "memorized-from-computer-screen" routine. So don't make a big deal about disliking canned material.

Open, time constraint, neg (If the target is hot), hook, DHV, comfort. You can leave after DHVing and build comfort later. Engage the WHOLE set, and KINO right away.

The stories you tell are lame, you keep saying that it's all about the way you project it and it doesn't matter, so why don't we try a little experiment?

Try MM, get a few canned routines to tell. Then approach a different set with your own "Natural" stories which you feel project "Your personality", and see which as the best results.

It's true that it's important to project your personality, but the personality you're projecting is just boring. Did you ever consider that you should change your personality? Become more interesting?

And why do I get the feeling that you lurk around school at lunch by yourself all day? Do you have any friends? Because you NEVER mention them, and when you go sarging at malls, you never bring them.
Have you read Magic Bullets?
 

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That's cause it's weird. You can't just come in and ask about their weekend with an opener like that, it's not a smooth transition. Of course it doesn't have to be smooth, but usually when it's not, it's spontaneous, and you're set was not spontaneous.

You need to engage the WHOLE set from the moment you enter. Young women have short attention spans, snap snap and she's wondering when you'll leave.



That telegraphs too much interest, you're not cool yet. They see no value in you, they won't want to tell you about their weekends. Raise value first.

I suggest you study Mystery's Method, I think it would suit you more, no matter how many times you say you don't like routines.

Direct and Indirect game are the same, you are still using routines, it's just that when you're doing it "Natural", you get a man sense of what to say and when to say it, it's still a routine, just not a "memorized-from-computer-screen" routine. So don't make a big deal about disliking canned material.

Open, time constraint, neg (If the target is hot), hook, DHV, comfort. You can leave after DHVing and build comfort later. Engage the WHOLE set, and KINO right away.

The stories you tell are lame, you keep saying that it's all about the way you project it and it doesn't matter, so why don't we try a little experiment?

Try MM, get a few canned routines to tell. Then approach a different set with your own "Natural" stories which you feel project "Your personality", and see which as the best results.

It's true that it's important to project your personality, but the personality you're projecting is just boring. Did you ever consider that you should change your personality? Become more interesting?

And why do I get the feeling that you lurk around school at lunch by yourself all day? Do you have any friends? Because you NEVER mention them, and when you go sarging at malls, you never bring them.
Mystery Method is a method, I don't do methods, I don't do routines. I'm gonna do things the way I do them, not using some stupid routine.

Stories I tell are lame? Well screw you Mister Novelist. I tell stories from my experiences and I'm not about to use sh*t canned story that didn't even happen. The way you speak though, you must be writing novels. No I will not ditch the way I tell stories. I will continue to tell stories from my experiences. Plus you put too much emphasis on story. Mystery HIMSELF said that you could be talking about absolutely nothing and the girl will be entertained as long as you tell it passionitely.

My personality isn't boring if anything it's the chicks that are boring. My personality boring? I'm one of the most fun loving guys out there and if women don't like that, that's not my problem since I'm just being myself and doing what I do.
 

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Mystery Method is a method, I don't do methods, I don't do routines. I'm gonna do things the way I do them, not using some stupid routine.

Stories I tell are lame? Well screw you Mister Novelist. I tell stories from my experiences and I'm not about to use sh*t canned story that didn't even happen. The way you speak though, you must be writing novels. No I will not ditch the way I tell stories. I will continue to tell stories from my experiences. Plus you put too much emphasis on story. Mystery HIMSELF said that you could be talking about absolutely nothing and the girl will be entertained as long as you tell it passionitely.

My personality isn't boring if anything it's the chicks that are boring. My personality boring? I'm one of the most fun loving guys out there and if women don't like that, that's not my problem since I'm just being myself and doing what I do.
THATS WHAT IM TALKING ABOUT!!! :rockon: :rockon:
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Girls seemed completely uninterested, ntohign you could have really done.

That's quite the ending to a conversation though.


"You seem like an interesting girl! you must have had an interesting weekend!"

Is that really you? lol I don't know anyone that isn't in the community going around saying something like that.
 

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Kev07 said:
Girls seemed completely uninterested, ntohign you could have really done.

That's quite the ending to a conversation though.


"You seem like an interesting girl! you must have had an interesting weekend!"

Is that really you? lol I don't know anyone that isn't in the community going around saying something like that.
That's because they're too busy using routines. It's called making a statement.
 

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That's because they're too busy using routines. It's called making a statement.
True, but have a better opener stud...

That one just scares people off...
 

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Depends you say it scarily they will be scared. You say with enthusiasm they won't.
 

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True but in this case it didnt seem like they were engaged...

Then you transitioned into i'll tell you about my weekend... They dont care about that... it was too fast of a transition that will freak them out

Good energy tho
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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ElStud said:
Me: Hey, you seem like an intersting girl! You probably had an interesting weekend!
[And she laughs but doesn't say anything]
Me: Anyway, I'll tell you about my weekend... so there was this after party in band.
[And I see her friend not replying and not wanting to get pulled out of the set I talk to her friend]
Me: So you're not going to introduce me to your friend? That's rude.
[And she like laughs for a while and eventually goes]
Girl: Oh that's Chiz.
Girl2: Yeah, I'm Chiz.
Me: Yeah, I think I saw you at the mall this summer. What store was that?
Girl2: Oh, I think that was Metro Parks.
And the set ends, and the girls eventually move to another spot.And the set ends, and the girls eventually move to another spot.


not bad man, you should've made fun of chiz's name in a playful matter... like "i bet the boys likke that" or something... like "chiz eh? i just chizzed in the bathroom"
 

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not bad man, you should've made fun of chiz's name in a playful matter... like "i bet the boys likke that" or something... like "chiz eh? i just chizzed in the bathroom"
lmao!!! yeah.. do that. oh god this guy is hilarious!!!
 

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not bad man, you should've made fun of chiz's name in a playful matter... like "i bet the boys likke that" or something... like "chiz eh? i just chizzed in the bathroom"
Haha, no offense man, but is that a joke? Oh well, I guess it could work if they could see you were being yourself, but... you're really not at that level looking at your mall approach. Don't go the way of the keyboard jockey on me now and just give advice without doing anything.
 

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That's because they're too busy using routines. It's called making a statement.
Too rough a statement. Theres nothing wrong with a prepared opener just stay away from whole canned routines.
 

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Too rough a statement. Theres nothing wrong with a prepared opener just stay away from whole canned routines.
If you think of something on the spot it's not a canned routine.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Er not what I'm saying. You thought of it on the spot, right? I'm saying maybe a few canned openers would be a wise thing to pick up and then you can play off those on your own.
 

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Mystery Method is a method, I don't do methods, I don't do routines. I'm gonna do things the way I do them, not using some stupid routine.
But the way you're doing things isn't working. Yet you don't seemed to be alarmed that you still haven't made any real progress in the last few months. You still haven't gotten a number yet. The Mystery Method can be adapted for each individual, it's the principles he teaches, not the routines, that get men laid.

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Stories I tell are lame? Well screw you Mister Novelist. I tell stories from my experiences and I'm not about to use sh*t canned story that didn't even happen. The way you speak though, you must be writing novels.
You will find that when you detach ego from things you do, your game will improve greatly. There is no need to get defensive, I am giving you valuable advice, and you are taking it too personally.

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No I will not ditch the way I tell stories. I will continue to tell stories from my experiences. Plus you put too much emphasis on story. Mystery HIMSELF said that you could be talking about absolutely nothing and the girl will be entertained as long as you tell it passionitely.
So, if you're listening to Mystery about that, why don't you try out the rest of his methods? Because you pick out and only listen to what suits you, which will not help you much in the long run.

Yes it's true that you can be talking about absolutely nothing if you project it right, but judging by your FRs, it's either the stories you're telling that suck (Which many others have told you in previous threads), or the way you're projecting it that sucks. Or (Most probably), both.

The problem with you is, you aren't willing to look back at your FRs, ADMIT that you ARE wrong, and change things.

Let me ask you this, are you happy with your game at the moment? Are you happy with the fact that you still have not gotten a number? That you go to the mall by yourself to make approaches? That even though you can make more approaches than most yet still can't close?

If you keep doing what you have always done, you will keep getting what you have always gotten. Nothing.

Also, please reply to my question about you having friends. Because if your social circle needs building, and you go out by yourself to the mall to make approaches, it's going to make you seem like a creepy loser with no friends, and you'd want to get some real friends first, before chasing some girl.

ElStud said:
My personality isn't boring if anything it's the chicks that are boring.
Aha, yeah great mentality there. Denial won't get you laid.

ElStud said:
My personality boring? I'm one of the most fun loving guys out there and if women don't like that, that's not my problem since I'm just being myself and doing what I do.
Well then you need to prove it to women. What makes you fun? Project in into your sets, which you are not doing, or the women you're approaching would have given more interest.

It IS your problem, if you graduate from High School and enter College as a virgin, with no friends. Don't be ashamed to work on yourself.
 

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Lust said:
But the way you're doing things isn't working. Yet you don't seemed to be alarmed that you still haven't made any real progress in the last few months. You still haven't gotten a number yet. The Mystery Method can be adapted for each individual, it's the principles he teaches, not the routines, that get men laid.



You will find that when you detach ego from things you do, your game will improve greatly. There is no need to get defensive, I am giving you valuable advice, and you are taking it too personally.



So, if you're listening to Mystery about that, why don't you try out the rest of his methods? Because you pick out and only listen to what suits you, which will not help you much in the long run.

Yes it's true that you can be talking about absolutely nothing if you project it right, but judging by your FRs, it's either the stories you're telling that suck (Which many others have told you in previous threads), or the way you're projecting it that sucks. Or (Most probably), both.

The problem with you is, you aren't willing to look back at your FRs, ADMIT that you ARE wrong, and change things.

Let me ask you this, are you happy with your game at the moment? Are you happy with the fact that you still have not gotten a number? That you go to the mall by yourself to make approaches? That even though you can make more approaches than most yet still can't close?

If you keep doing what you have always done, you will keep getting what you have always gotten. Nothing.

Also, please reply to my question about you having friends. Because if your social circle needs building, and you go out by yourself to the mall to make approaches, it's going to make you seem like a creepy loser with no friends, and you'd want to get some real friends first, before chasing some girl.



Aha, yeah great mentality there. Denial won't get you laid.



Well then you need to prove it to women. What makes you fun? Project in into your sets, which you are not doing, or the women you're approaching would have given more interest.

It IS your problem, if you graduate from High School and enter College as a virgin, with no friends. Don't be ashamed to work on yourself.
The exact response I wanted to say last night when I saw this thread, but I was too high to type properly.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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